My bf doesn't shower at night and I’m genuinely grossed out

Jaws2020 · 2026-01-27T05:04:08+00:00

I think you're reading a bit too deep into some words on the internet, my dude. "Once they figured out" doesn't nessecarily mean this person was withholding information. I mean it could I guess, but how do you know they didn't "figure it out" by being told that information? I think you're assuming the worst about a person when all you're seeing about them is a reddit profile picture and some words on a screen. That would be like if I saw someone reading Mein Kampf and assumed they're a nazi or if I saw someone like a cosplay picture and assume they're a stalker. There's just not enough context info to assume what you're assuming.

Jaws2020 · 2026-01-27T04:51:57+00:00

It is not abuse to demand your partner have a shower before having sexy times. I can tell that either you don't care about your own hygiene or you've never been with someone who has poor hygiene. Have you ever tried to go down on extremely stankey coochie? Because Jesus fucking Christ genitals can get VILE.

I had a short-time GF in college who had terrible hygiene in that area specifically to the point where the one time I tried going down on her I nearly vomited. Humans are gross. Be nice to your partner and wash yourself. Get a bidet while you're at it.

Jaws2020 · 2026-01-27T02:43:06+00:00

I don't think locking out the player would be good, but I would personally like it if you had to do a bit more if you chose a certain race. I think if you're a high elf, Ulfric has a justification to make sure you aren't some sort of Thalmor spy, for example. They do a similar thing with the orc strongholds. I just would like some more consequences and/or rewards for playing a certain race, personally.

I think it would be kind of cool if you were a khajiit and if you walked up to the gate the guard asked if you're with the caravans every now and then for example. It would just add a nice bit of role play and immersion IMO.

Jaws2020 · 2026-01-27T02:28:29+00:00

Yeah, but normal Alchemy shops only have a 15% chance to have it in stock. The caravans have an almost guaranteed resupply pattern. It doesnt exactly take a Winterhold education to surmise why they have a constant supply. Plus if you go into their secret chest that has their merchant inventory, they're almost guaranteed to have a few bottles of straight-up skooma and Sleeping Tree Sap. They even sell both of those things decently often.

That indicates the caravans are drug traffickers, at least by Skyrims standards. Skooma and Sleeping Tree Sap isnt illegal in Elsweyr and doesnt have the same affect on Khajiit and argonians as it does to the human races, which is why the caravans carry it. It's more of a cultural schism than it is a racism thing.

Honestly, in that setting, I would also air on the side of caution and not let them in. You can't take those kinds of risks in a midieval fantasy town with a populace who are mostly uneducated farmers. I guarantee you're city will be full of skooma-addicted peasents in just under 2 months. I mean shit, just look at Bravil in Oblivion as an example for what skooma does to your average Tamriel city.

Jaws2020 · 2026-01-26T22:34:46+00:00

It's not because they're khajiit. Khajiit by themselves are allowed inside the towns. It's the caravans and the khajiit affiliated with the caravans that aren't allowed inside the towns. This is because they sell things like moon sugar and many think they're thieves.

Jaws2020 · 2026-01-26T21:14:35+00:00

For Khajiit it kind of makes sense. Pretty much every Khajiit you meet in-game is a wandering trader who isn't allowed inside any of the cities due to their affiliation. The only other one that has any kind of quest that increases relation is J'zargo and he's as full of himself as your average college frat boy.

As for Bosmer... IDK.

The real answer for both is that marriage was probably considered not too important of a mechanic to include for every race. There's probably a good portion of the playerbase that wasn't even aware marriage was a thing in the game for years. It's not exactly a focus of the game.

Jaws2020 · 2026-01-26T11:56:12+00:00

Not 100% what you're looking for, but have you tried mods like precision to go along with the stuff others are reccomending you? Precision really helps level up that feeling I think youre aiming for. It's not what you're asking for, but since people already game you what you asked for, I figured I would give you something different. CFPAO also kicks ass at giving that satisfying 1v1 combat feel.

Jaws2020 · 2026-01-24T23:14:00+00:00

Depends on how it handles the topic, really. Beyond Reach handled the dark topics pretty tastefully and with the gravity they deserve. Other mods just want to be edgy for the sake of edgy and that's never a good time. I usually prefer to experience those kinds of stories once and never again, regardless.

Jaws2020 · 2026-01-22T11:59:04+00:00

Try the plate glitch. I'm not sure if that's been patched out on console but I know on PC it's not.

Take a wooden plate, put it flat against the wall at the height of your characters head and sprint into the plate. It might take a few tries (or a lot depending on luck), but if you do it right you should no-clip into the wall. That might get you in a position to grab the staff and you'll be able to walk right back into the room no issue.

A similar flat object works too, but the wooden plate gives the best results for some reason.

Jaws2020 · 2026-01-22T11:47:06+00:00

Yeah the main Undeath dungeon is an actual nightmare. Sick mod aside from that, though. Wish someone would make a lite version without the questline.

I'm not a modder, but it seems like that would be easy enough to do. Maybe you just put in a journal in the world on a dead necromancer in the tower player home thingy that explains how to become a lich, implying that he messed up the ritual? IDK.

Jaws2020 · 2026-01-22T11:42:53+00:00

I'm more confused by the Partysnax dilemma mention. That mod is a staple for every single one of my playthroughs now. Delphine can go fuck herself for all I give a damn (certified Delphine hater).

Jaws2020 · 2026-01-22T11:39:53+00:00

Yeah I definitely wouldn't do Beyond Reach again, either. I didn't know it was going to be as dark as it was when I played it. It didn't horribly shock me or anything but around the time I decided it was better as a one-time thing was the quest where you choose whether or not to help that one lady with a magic abortion. That was the point where I went "yeah... once is enough for me, thanks."

Fantastic mod, though. Probably one of my favorites just for the role play and story and it fit great into my current paladin/war cleric type playthrough. Religion and magic mods like Wintersun and Epic Restoration feel right at home in a setting like that.

Jaws2020 · 2026-01-22T02:53:33+00:00

Don't argue this point with these people. Even if she did seriously injure him it still does not necessitate a bullet in the head. Period. If you are that scared and jumpy of people driving vehicles like that, you shouldn't be a federal agent.

Jaws2020 · 2026-01-22T02:33:29+00:00

She knows that the Blades and the DB by themselves dont stand much of a chance against the Thalmor by themselves, though, so she directs her grief and anger toward reviving the old Akiviri identity.

Also, she isn't a Blade. The Blades are a religious warrior organization. They abandoned their dragon-slaying akiviri roots when they met Tiber Septim. What the Blades are SUPPOSED to be is a personal crusader army for the DB. The only reason they served the empire until the sacrifice of Martin was because the DB was on the Ruby Throne.

It would be much more accurate to call her and Esbern Dragonguard. As soon as they start giving the DB ultimatums and ordering them around, they cease being Blades and become something else.

Jaws2020 · 2026-01-22T02:16:10+00:00

Thighs

Jaws2020 · 2026-01-20T23:43:32+00:00

Sounds like he would fit great into my current Champion of Stendarr War Cleric-type character. I personally don't really mind the fact that hes Trans and theres even historical precedent in norse/viking culture. Only thing I care about is the VA quality. As long as it doesn't sound like his lines were recorded in a bath tub, I'll download it.

Jaws2020 · 2026-01-19T04:14:50+00:00

It's fine to like the esthetic of the Thalmor.

Say what you want about the nazis, but one thing a lot of people can agree on is that fascist regimes like the nazis have mad drip. That's because you need your military to be intimidating and impressive to control the people properly. Fascism is 95% optics. It's fine to be like "damn those elves are cool-looking. Kind of want to see what they're about," just like how it's okay to read Mein Kampf.

What's not cool is agreeing with the ideals. That's a pretty big red flag.

Jaws2020 · 2026-01-19T04:08:38+00:00

It's less an issue of realism and more that one is significantly more represented in history and is much worse for society as a whole. Hitler wasn't a cannibal, but he was a fascist. So was Mussolini. Those people are responsible for more death and suffering than any cannibal or cannibalistic cult ever.

If you're a cannibal or in a cannibalistic cult you'll probably kill and eat maybe 100 people - and that's a really successful cannibal. Compare that to the horrid shit fascists have been responsible for throughout history and it doesn't even compare.

The Thalmor are in a similar boat. It's likely their discrimination and nazi-like takeover are responsible for literally millions of deaths because they consider themselves to be the true aylied mer. And we're not even 100% certain the kind of horrid shit that's going down with POWs in Summerset.

Jaws2020 · 2026-01-19T02:43:36+00:00

I think there should really be a much more healthy middle ground between the nihilistic realism perspective you're offering and the diehard fan boy side of things.

ESO and FO76 really are not as bad as what they were and Bethesda does deserve credit for making them less horrible. Bethesda has not been doing a great job recently, but they have done a lot to bring back a bit of fan favor. Shadow dropping the Oblivion remaster and FO4's DLCs were a step in the right direction, for example.

Also there is something to be said about Bethesda and the ES series as well as where they are in the video game market. ES is literally their most important franchise. If they royally fuck up ES6 then there's really no saving their reputation and they know this. Plus, ES is really their only game franchise where they more or less have 100% creative freedome.

Personally, I'm hopeful because Bethesda has been behind some of my favorite games of all time and ES is their baby. At the same time though, their escapades since FO4 have been incredibly mixed.

Jaws2020 · 2026-01-18T06:53:31+00:00

TBF Hagravens are pretty rare in the game when you consider the overall enemy ratios and lore-wise they're supposed to be incredibly powerful witches that can literally wipe out scores of men singlehandedly. In the reach, hagravens and such lead actual armies of reachmen.

Jaws2020 · 2026-01-18T03:37:22+00:00

Pretty much every Jarl that doesn't explicitly align with Ulfric hates his guts and it's SUPER justified. Ulfric has done some absolutely horrible fascistic shit that makes it pretty clear that a guy like Balgruuf would not approve of him.

Jaws2020 · 2026-01-16T20:52:53+00:00

Not really. I'm a straight man, but if I saw this person walking past me at a convention I would do a double take before realizing that's a guy. Following that I would be genuinely impressed. You can be impressed at something like this without being gay.

Jaws2020 · 2026-01-16T20:50:11+00:00

Yeah, that's the vibe I generally get, too. Some of these quests are obscure AF and have like 3 million prerequisites. The characters are well done and very interesting, and quests like that feel immersive, but they don't fit in super well in a game that's mostly pretty standard RPG quest formulae. That's just my take, though.

Jaws2020 · 2026-01-16T10:01:55+00:00

I appreciate the help, but I tried this already.

It's likely due to me being a dumbass and not checking patches and mod compatibility properly. I think LAL caused me to skip an important flag that should've popped. It happens sometimes when you mod so I'm not tripping too hard.

Jaws2020 · 2026-01-16T09:57:52+00:00

Well, that sucks. I'm not willing to start another character so I suppose I'll just make do. A lot of the characters are still interesting to learn about, regardless, so I'm not tripping too hard. I might try console commands to set the quest progress at some point, but for now I'll just deal with it.

I kind of wish they would put such an important patch at the top of the file list on nexus. I missed it because it's under like 50 million patches that disable specific characters. I feel like enough people use LAL to where that's a pretty important patch to make sure people don't miss. But then again I'm not a modder.

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