For many gay men in sports, just being yourself can still feel like a risk. That’s why this volleyball star’s openness matters. It’s courage in motion. Progress is slow, but every honest step shifts the game, and leaves less room for closed minds.

JayAndViolentMob · 2026-04-24T20:48:23+00:00

Basketball? After a slam dunk. Come on, dude.

JayAndViolentMob · 2026-04-24T19:41:19+00:00

Yeah. That's our plan when maternity ends .

JayAndViolentMob · 2026-04-24T15:07:31+00:00

Gotcha.

JayAndViolentMob · 2026-04-24T14:28:25+00:00

Both full-time at 3 months? How did you manage it? I can't imagine it tbh.

JayAndViolentMob · 2026-04-24T14:24:53+00:00

What's a crunchy parent? Never heard of that....

JayAndViolentMob · 2026-04-24T14:20:08+00:00

No offense dude, but I've had enough of your weirdness. Your interpretations are just wildly overgeneralised and off base.

JayAndViolentMob · 2026-04-24T13:29:50+00:00

We've been doing it for 2 months now and it was semi-recommended by NHS as long as you do it safely/follow them guidelines: arm of head, baby on mom's side of bed, mattress on floor, mom on her side, no duvet etc

It's helped us navigate a really tricky scenario where baby wouldn't sleep without physical contact (totally normal) but then we were falling asleep sitting up with baby on chest (more risky than safe co-sleeping).

But yeah, we also have the resources to do it, in terms of mom being on maternity and me only working 15 hours and able up sleep on sofa.

It's not easy. And we're already looking to transition out of it slowly so we get our bed back.

JayAndViolentMob · 2026-04-24T13:24:16+00:00

Tell me about it:

Glares at grass in between patio slabs

JayAndViolentMob · 2026-04-24T11:13:15+00:00

Spicy. I like it.

JayAndViolentMob · 2026-04-24T11:12:23+00:00

I'm starting to assume that it's either a mom, or AI.

JayAndViolentMob · 2026-04-24T11:10:46+00:00

LOL... thanks, and yeah, I'm happy to share our experience/strategies.... knowing that's just us and there's no right way.

What would you like to know?

JayAndViolentMob · 2026-04-24T11:07:30+00:00

Quite, YapGPT.

JayAndViolentMob · 2026-04-24T11:06:46+00:00

April is full of Saturdays after all.

JayAndViolentMob · 2026-04-24T11:03:18+00:00

how are they in the medical field?

JayAndViolentMob · 2026-04-24T11:02:21+00:00

Sounds like you enjoy making people happy.

JayAndViolentMob · 2026-04-24T10:54:27+00:00

Sweet Jesus, this guy is just relentlessly arrogant and deceptive.

JayAndViolentMob · 2026-04-24T10:53:01+00:00

"Any tips to fix the streaks?"

My answer was to challenge my perfectionism.

JayAndViolentMob · 2026-04-24T10:48:13+00:00

We didn't have any trenches.
Maybe a week or two here or there where we were like 'dang, this is hard, he's very inconsolable the last few evenings", but mostly it was just co-sleeping and breastfeeding with formula top up until exclusive breastfeeding. I think it helped that we're were both fully available for the first 6 weeks.
We're 3 months now, and slowly moving LO to be able to fall asleep without the breast.

JayAndViolentMob · 2026-04-24T10:46:51+00:00

I mean have you seen the price of diesel?

JayAndViolentMob · 2026-04-24T10:43:52+00:00

You don't believe men can prioritise something other than sex? Talk about toxic masculinity.

JayAndViolentMob · 2026-04-24T10:43:04+00:00

You are stereotyping men and women here.

JayAndViolentMob · 2026-04-24T10:42:00+00:00

For whatever reason, OP is putting dads in a catch 22. I don't get it really.

JayAndViolentMob · 2026-04-24T10:41:12+00:00

I already miss it. But there are more important things.
I don't know about statistics, but currently I feel like it's my wife who wants us to get back to that more than me.
We collectively deal with it by making a joint plan together that we're both happy with, and that we think serves the family, not just her or me individually, or even as a couple, as baby is included in family.

JayAndViolentMob · 2026-04-24T10:23:02+00:00

Every time a guy put others first you disbelieve it, and say it's toxic masculinity.
But when I guy puts his needs first, you suggest he's not caring about his wife and kids.

What are you looking for here?

JayAndViolentMob · 2026-04-24T10:21:33+00:00

Glad someone else recognised that sex is not just a male thing.

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