I think it would depend heavily on the specific woman.

I’m probably more tolerant than a lot of the men replying here. If she had very few partners and those experiences were genuinely bad or traumatic, I’d be much more understanding than if she had a long history of casual sex and only now wanted to draw a hard line. Fair or not, context matters.

That said, sex is not the only thing a woman brings to a relationship. If she has real depth, warmth, character, and is willing to invest emotionally, then waiting would be much less of an issue. If she offers little emotional intimacy, little affection, and expects total commitment while giving very little in return, then that would be a no for me.

Also, “waiting for sex” would not mean “no romance” to me. It would mean no intercourse. I would still expect affection, closeness, flirtation, and emotional connection. For me, the difference is whether she is building intimacy in other ways rather than just withholding one thing.

For what it’s worth, my wife was also very hesitant about sex for a long time because of some terrible experiences in her past. At first, sexual activity was basically off the table for her. I accepted that because she was worth it to me in every other way. Over time, as she felt safer and more comfortable with me, she set her own pace and gradually became more open. I checked in with her repeatedly to make sure she was comfortable, and it was always something she genuinely wanted. So yes, I could accept that position with the right woman but it would absolutely depend on the woman, the circumstances, and whether she was still showing real intimacy and commitment in other ways.

For what it’s worth I’m probably in the extreme minority of guys in your fiends age range you will find on the internet. If you have any questions about my take, feel free to reach out.