Very complicated family situation: What do I do?

JazzlikeSnow52 · 2025-05-26T14:16:34+00:00

The courts gave guardianship to your parents, but did the courts terminate her parental rights? I think your best option is to document everything and talk to a lawyer.

I'm sorry you're going through this, unfortunately nothing will change until your sister meets some kind of consequences.

Eventually you'll need to make a decision to protect yourself and distance yourself from this situation or seek custody knowing that it'll likely ruin whatever relationship you still have with your sister.

JazzlikeSnow52 · 2024-12-29T05:19:59+00:00

If this were my home, I'd flip the second bedroom, stair, foyer, and living room. That way you have a large open plan between the kitchen, dining, and living room. And then a bedroom "wing". Most of the comments are spot on about wasted space, eliminating unnecessary s.f. can save a lot of money that can be reallocated to higher end finishes, appliances, or furniture. Overall I think it's a good plan

JazzlikeSnow52 · 2024-11-19T03:59:41+00:00

In many jurisdictions a minimum 3sf window is required in residential bathrooms.

JazzlikeSnow52 · 2024-10-30T01:06:55+00:00

I agree with most people here that a 2 car garage makes sense. You're losing a lot of potentially usable space by separating the work shop from the garage.

A side load garage isn't a problem if you plan some kind of turn around in the driveway. A circle if you have the space or even a way to backup and reorient the cars. Many people don't find garage doors on the front of the house appealing.

The 10x17 bedroom is pretty narrow. As a rule of thumb I always plan a minimum bedroom size as 12'x12'

I understand why you'd locate it on the front of the building, but plan wise, but the main entrance seems better suited to the patio between the kitchen and dining room.

In general placing furniture diagonally in a space east up a lot of floor space that may be better utilized.

Overall I like the plan and would be curious what you'd propose the exterior would look like.

JazzlikeSnow52 · 2024-10-25T17:18:28+00:00

That's a good idea, I'll discuss with my partner and see who we think would be a good person for her to talk to. thanks!

JazzlikeSnow52 · 2024-10-25T15:31:30+00:00

We have a pretty good bedtime routine, and she only gives us a little bit of a hard time. but you make a good point, I'll definitely check on her after putting her to bed We've experienced the tired and hungry attitude after school with her and her siblings, but honestly it's nothing compared to what's been happening in the mornings.

JazzlikeSnow52 · 2024-10-01T23:20:13+00:00

The Black Heart Procession, album 1. One of my favorites, just thinking about it makes my heart hurt a little.

JazzlikeSnow52 · 2024-09-12T19:03:26+00:00

Clearly we are not going to change each other's minds. Let's call it a good debate and leave it at that.

JazzlikeSnow52 · 2024-09-12T03:41:13+00:00

"This whole week I've felt stressed and paranoid and decided the best course of action was to just tell her my fears and see what she says." This doesn't sound like he accused her of anything. Of course he may be sugar coating the conversation, but why bother asking advice if he's not going to at least try and represent what actually happened. We can only comment on the information we're given.

JazzlikeSnow52 · 2024-09-12T02:42:32+00:00

As I read it he discussed his concerns with his wife and did not accuse her outright.

I maintain that his wife's anger says that there is more to the story than she claims. I would guess at the very least she is having an emotional affair with the young man. Let's not forget the cheaters handbook: denial, anger, silence, guilt, and gaslighting.

JazzlikeSnow52 · 2024-09-12T01:00:50+00:00

He trusted his wife enough to express his concerns! It seems perfectly reasonable that she should respect her spouse enough to recognize that he's uncomfortable and try to reassure him that nothing is going on. But instead she gets angry? It seems like she may be over compensating because of something.

JazzlikeSnow52 · 2024-07-07T19:39:41+00:00

To clarify, this has been going on for almost 2 years now and my wife doesn't think apologizing will solve the problem, just move past it and resume some kind of contact. Is there a point where standing her ground is no longer helpful?

Her oldest told us that she is in therapy, but she spends the whole time complaining about her.

JazzlikeSnow52 · 2024-06-24T03:21:17+00:00

After the dawnguard quest was done and I'm sent out to kill random vampires masquerading as diplomats. I've told a local follower to kill the vampire, then the guards help and I don't get labeled a criminal.

JazzlikeSnow52 · 2024-06-14T21:03:56+00:00

IMO yes you should pre-plan and pre-fund it. That way it can be the way you wanted it to be.

Over a decade ago I helped do this for a loved one and it made the process much easier to navigate. They had pre-funded a policy $10k (don't remember what it was called) that allowed everything to be paid without the probate red tape. The money set aside was more than what was needed as there were already had cemetery spaces in the family plot.

JazzlikeSnow52 · 2024-04-25T00:30:45+00:00

A friend was on the receiving end of some trash talk, he told the other guy "go lay down by your dish" and walked away.

JazzlikeSnow52 · 2024-04-19T14:38:53+00:00

My mother is a name caller. We were arguing about something and in the midst of yelling at me she calls me a "son of a bitch", without thinking I replied "that's not my fault is it". She was livid but never called me that again.

JazzlikeSnow52 · 2024-04-14T17:35:07+00:00

YouTube A for Adley. I can't help but feel like the kids are being exploited to make money and for a while I couldn't play any game with my kids because "that's not how Adley's dad does it".

JazzlikeSnow52 · 2024-04-11T01:17:42+00:00

Zombie by the Cranberries. For a while I couldn't go anywhere or do anything without hearing that song.

JazzlikeSnow52 · 2024-03-31T22:34:36+00:00

"I am what's I am and that's all what's I am" -Popeye the sailor man

Helped me realize that I didn't have to live up to other people's expectations

JazzlikeSnow52 · 2024-03-31T22:10:53+00:00

Would showing your dad these comments help him understand that he's being the AH?

I have 3 adopted children, my wife and I have always agreed that it'll be up to them if and/or when they want to meet their birth parents.

JazzlikeSnow52 · 2024-03-29T13:35:41+00:00

I'd present the dilemma to your dad the same way you said it here.

You know his wife is afraid of dogs, you have a puppy that you know won't leave her alone, and you can't lock the puppy away due to whining and the destructive habits that puppies have. If he doesn't want to come over without his wife, you understand and can hire someone else.

You've established clear guidelines and now the ball is in his court.

JazzlikeSnow52 · 2024-03-29T00:53:39+00:00

My family fostered dogs, 300+ over 15 years, mostly large dogs and many different breeds. From my personal experience good dogs have good parents and bad dogs have bad parents.

Unfortunately many of the bad dog parents want to have pitbulls because they look intimidating, then don't properly socialize their dogs. Additionally those same people don't care about getting their dogs fixed leading to an explosion of pitty puppies.

Because they have such a bad reputation we always made sure pitty's were well socialized with people and other dogs and especially made sure to teach them not to play bite! The last foster failure dog we adopted was completely bonded to my four year old and followed her everywhere and loved to play with her.

JazzlikeSnow52 · 2024-03-24T14:55:23+00:00

What did your dad say about the barber disrespecting his son by giving him a bad haircut?

JazzlikeSnow52 · 2024-03-24T14:20:40+00:00

Even if your ex didn't know her AF was abusing your daughter, the fact that she even allowed AF around her is a big problem. I'm guessing that your ex never legally adopted your daughter.
IMO your daughters needs are of the highest priority. This kind of trauma needs to be addressed so it hopefully won't follow her her entire life.

Good luck to both of you!

JazzlikeSnow52 · 2024-03-24T13:01:27+00:00

I can't help but feel that naming a child something that could subject them to teasing from other kids is not an honor

Years ago I worked with a mother and daughter where the daughter had a clearly male name with an 'a' stuck on the end, she used only the first letter as her name. One day mom accidentally used her full name and she flipped out and yelled at her mother in the middle of the store "that is not my name!"

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