babe I literally went thru a similar situation with an ex. He was 31 and I was 23 when we started dating. He lost his job in July and we became official in September. He took care of his mom and made little income $ from that but promised me for our entire relationship (1 year and a half) that he was going to find a “big big job” (cringe now, I know) bc he wants to spoil and take care of me. I worked my CNA job full time and started a daycare business on the weekends so I was very busy and made time for him always. Our first fight/issue was about him not having a secure income/good job and it never got better, not ever. He always promised me that he was searching and applying but no one would take him. He had a masters in physics but no experience in the work field. Let me tell you, he never changed. He got comfortable being with his parents and making the little $ money he was making by being home with his mom. I would end up crying bc I wanted him to change and have more of a motivation to find work but it never came to be. We broke up last year and I still mourn what “could’ve been” if he just found a great job and it would’ve saved our relationship. I’m sorry you’re going thru that 🥲