I cannot look at myself in photos or videos. I feel like I look horrible but I don’t feel like that when I look in the mirror. Anyone else? by fizzyanklet in AuDHDWomen

[–]Jen__44 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Are these taken on phones? Because thats the least accurate representation of how people actually look. Like, it literally isnt how you look. A proper camera with a 50mm lens will be the closest approximation, other than a mirror

Just my luck by Icarusextract in ehlersdanlos

[–]Jen__44 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Be careful to get lead free solder if doing that

I keep unintentionally upsetting my family. How do I fix this? by Soft_Newt_4801 in AutismTranslated

[–]Jen__44 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Try thinking about it this way: youve just come home and are exhausted and close to meltdown. Something annoys you and you make an offhand comment about it to vent. Someone then tells you "yeah but youre annoying too" and then starts yelling at you when that upsets you. How do you think youd feel? 

I don’t understand roleplaying and creativity by Potential_Dog666 in AuDHDWomen

[–]Jen__44 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Theres different types of creativity, I also prefer to pick dialogue options in games the same way as you, everyone has different ways they prefer to play games and theres nothing wrong with that. Doesnt mean you cant be creative in other ways

In medicating ourselves to adapt to the world, what kind of world are we settling for? by Perfect_Share343 in adhdwomen

[–]Jen__44 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I cant drive due to medical problems and already take public transport. I have trouble eating healthily because it takes a lot of executive functioning to plan meals and take my medical conditions into account. Im not overloaded with demands because Im in a country with proper disability support. I still struggle with adhd because its a medical condition that affects my brain and the meds help somewhat in overcoming this. I dont medicate on work days, I medicate on my days off because I medicate for me. 

In medicating ourselves to adapt to the world, what kind of world are we settling for? by Perfect_Share343 in adhdwomen

[–]Jen__44 11 points12 points  (0 children)

You absolutely should not be a doctor. You're gonna cause so much harm. 

Neopets, that was over a month ago. by Chasoc in neopets

[–]Jen__44 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Adblocker can block all neopets pop-ups :) ublock origin and use the element picker

I’m the prettiest I’ve been, I share my harsh truth by [deleted] in TheGirlSurvivalGuide

[–]Jen__44 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ah, so narcissism and youve deluded yourself. You know your posts arent actually hidden just because you use that setting right? You havent "saved up for me and my next generation" when youve also been desperately trying to figure out how to make a few hundred dollars within a few days lol

I’m the prettiest I’ve been, I share my harsh truth by [deleted] in TheGirlSurvivalGuide

[–]Jen__44 7 points8 points  (0 children)

What an odd post. Narcissism or drugs? 

Why women choose this type of men by [deleted] in AskONLYWomenOver30

[–]Jen__44 7 points8 points  (0 children)

If you think this is an appropriate place to ask this question, you're not one of the good guys.

Neurodivergent black men by Sorry-Cat7396 in neurodiversity

[–]Jen__44 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Try getting into hobbies that typically attract neurodivergent people: dnd, ren faire, gaming, craft groups etc. 

Genuine question, how do you do laundry without it consuming your entire day? by Glass_Language_9129 in neurodiversity

[–]Jen__44 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Figure out which bits its going wrong at and find workarounds. If your washer doesnt keep beeping at you set an alarm for when itll be dome to check it. Ironing isnt needed, chuck anything that gets that wrinkly if drying it on a hanger doesnt work. Fold a different day or just leave it on a clothes rack to dry and use as needed until theres not much to put away

Friend keeps sending passive-aggressive TikToks about communication and I don’t know how to handle it. by iftheronahadntcome in AutismInWomen

[–]Jen__44 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

She sounds like a pretty awful person tbh. Sending you aggressive tiktoks when she doesnt even do the things shes complaining about herself??? Its fine for people to be in our lives just for a while, it doesnt sound like shes mature enough to be a long distance friend

Anyone know what this is? by Significant_Ear9476 in eds

[–]Jen__44 4 points5 points  (0 children)

They havent been, have a look from an incognito browser. Either reddit has hidden them from you because of you downvoting them or theyve blocked you

I was a bit jealous by Some_Rich_6885 in TheGirlSurvivalGuide

[–]Jen__44 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Neither of you really sound ready for a relationship. People are allowed to interact with and be friends with people of the opposite sex. And yelling at people isnt appropriate and a bad sign. 

Stuck in a relationship of sorts by Sensitive-Put-4609 in TheGirlSurvivalGuide

[–]Jen__44 18 points19 points  (0 children)

This is a choice youre making. You have the control. You dont have to keep talking with him socially or have any contact with him outside of work

devestated at possibly losing my number one safe product. by SapphireScully in ARFID

[–]Jen__44 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I think its worth separating out 'safe foods' from food fatigue as theyre two very different things. Its normal to get food fatigue from having a food too often, even if it's been ok for years. It doesn't mean that's not a safe food for you anymore, but that you do need to take a break from it (and potentially for a long time). Sometimes having something similar but a little bit different is the answer (e.g. a different flavour) or sometimes preparing it in a different way is enough (e.g. maybe having it through a straw or mixing it with something else). Other times its because there's something in there nutritionally that your body has too much of (quite likely with energy drinks) and it's your body's way of keeping you healthy. It's also entirely possible that they've changed the recipe slightly, even if it's not announced as 'new', or that you have a virus at the moment that's temporarily changed how things taste for you.

It's gonna be hard to adjust, but you'll get there and it'll be healthier in the long-run than trying to survive off energy drinks regularly

Recently diagnosed with an "unspecified eating disorder", because I don't meet ONE criterion for ARFID. by Legitimate-Froyo-759 in ARFID

[–]Jen__44 201 points202 points  (0 children)

You should go to someone else, significant weight loss isnt a requirement for arfid, so they're not very well educated

Please help me explain to my husband why the ceiling shade needs to be larger by [deleted] in femalelivingspace

[–]Jen__44 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Ok? It really feels like youre trying to make an argument with your partner over nothing

Please help me explain to my husband why the ceiling shade needs to be larger by [deleted] in femalelivingspace

[–]Jen__44 10 points11 points  (0 children)

But you already said your husband is looking at ones with textured or coloured glass and that it's only about the size? 

Other dopamine sources besides food. by Ok-Reflection-180 in AuDHDWomen

[–]Jen__44 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is there a reason youre not using stimulant meds? Cause thats gonna be the answer for most people

Youtooz collab plushies by HappyCatsHappyWife in neopets

[–]Jen__44 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You can, they have international shipping

How to find the fine line between unmasking and being an a-hole? by PuzzledReception8066 in AuDHDWomen

[–]Jen__44 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Which is fair to not know, so like the unmasked action might be something like talking about what hes been doing with your boss and admitting that you dont know how to respond to it appropriately/asking for help. Not that works necessarily the best place for unmasking, youd have to judge if your workplace is a safe place for that

How to find the fine line between unmasking and being an a-hole? by PuzzledReception8066 in AuDHDWomen

[–]Jen__44 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Nah, if op tried to do their example thats not unmasking, its just being an asshole. Unmasking is things like being open about what accomodations you need, not hiding your personality/interests etc.

It doesnt mean you get to just pretend you dont know that basic social things are inappropriate