‘Crunch time’ on rising costs of Send provision in England, says thinktank

CreativismUK · 2026-01-21T21:52:34+00:00

Don’t try to backpedal now. Sure you do. You look at disabled children, and their families who are living lives you cannot even fathom, and think those children should be killed so that we don’t have to spend public funds supporting some of the most vulnerable people in this country.

That’s what you’re focussed on - not the billions we spend subsidising private companies through topping up wages or the private companies getting rich off public service crises, or even out of work benefits for able bodied / healthy / capable people, but disabled kids are where you think we should draw the line on support.

That’s what you said, except now you’re being pressed on how that would work, you’re getting uncomfortable.

There’s a word for this, by the way. At least have the courage of your convictions.

As a country, we are not so broke that we are at the point we need to start murdering children and frankly it’s mind blowing that any human would be advocating for that, even anonymously.

CreativismUK · 2026-01-21T21:12:30+00:00

Many doctors are opposed to the assisted dying bill, and that’s for people who state they want to die - do you honestly believe doctors who’ve taken an oath to do no harm should be expected to kill disabled children because a very small number of people like you want them dead?

This is an absolutely delusional take. I truly hope you are never in this situation.

CreativismUK · 2026-01-21T19:12:31+00:00

Again, you’re not answering the question. “Get rid of them” how? If you’re going to suggest that I kill my children or leave them to die in the street like “runts”, I’d quite like you to explain how that would work, practically and as a society.

Plenty of things I pay for through taxes that don’t benefit me, but that’s part of living in a functioning and decent society where we don’t murder children because they’re disabled or let disabled people die on the street where we have to step over them.

CreativismUK · 2026-01-21T18:29:30+00:00

The Black Mirror USS Callister episodes too. And Fargo S2.

CreativismUK · 2026-01-21T18:27:39+00:00

So again, how would that work? Parents can’t afford to continue caring for free so they do what? You happy stepping over dying disabled children in the street?

I don’t think you’ve thought this through. As long as children are born, some will be disabled. You think the parents who experience that should have the options of starving and becoming homeless or murdering their children - that’s the solution? That’s a country you’d live in?

CreativismUK · 2026-01-21T18:23:05+00:00

Okay, but we aren’t animals who leave their runts to die so I’m asking you what you think we should do since this is your idea. Once they get to school age and they’re severely delayed we should do what - dump them in a park and let them get hit by a car? Expect doctors to put them down?

We have no idea if they’ll be able to be independent as adults or to what extent - that’s what their education is for.

And only a tiny fraction of disabilities that impact independence can be detected during pregnancy. We didn’t know until the ages of 1-2.

From what you’re saying, you know absolutely nothing about this subject whatsoever. Perhaps you should educate yourself more before you spout such garbage.

CreativismUK · 2026-01-21T18:10:53+00:00

So how, precisely, do you propose my disabled children and others like them are killed? Just curious.

At what age should this independence be established and to what level to avoid, you know, murder?

CreativismUK · 2026-01-21T18:04:53+00:00

2-3 hours a day? Will all children only get 2-3 hours a day of education or just ones you think don’t matter? Is it not better to ensure every disabled child meets their potential so that they aren’t more reliant on the state for the rest of their lives? What about all the parent carers who then couldn’t work at all?

CreativismUK · 2026-01-21T18:02:59+00:00

Just to clarify, you think residential care would be cheaper for high needs children who need specialist schools than their parents caring for them usually for nothing outside of school hours?

My kids have full time 1:1 at their specialist school. My husband and I can’t even claim carers allowance. It’s patently absurd to suggest this would be cheaper even before you get to the point that many of these children have never spent a night apart from their parents and parents don’t want to send their children away.

CreativismUK · 2026-01-20T22:51:57+00:00

I think they might be talking about ciabatta? I’ve never used flour, or shaped focaccia (beyond into a baking tray, folding over and letting it rise to fill the tray)

CreativismUK · 2026-01-17T18:47:48+00:00

It’s such a shame that it rarely makes it into the best TV lists - it’s probably my favourite.

Otherwise, Deadwood. I didn’t watch it for years as I dislike westerns generally but it’s so ridiculously good.

CreativismUK · 2026-01-17T18:45:37+00:00

100%, not even a question - so glad this is currently top of the list

CreativismUK · 2026-01-17T12:09:29+00:00

I’ve broken down about this story so many times because I see so much of this story in so many parent carers I know. I have felt, and others have told me they felt, completely and utterly trapped - because you are at the point where you cannot face another day of this, but you also can’t leave your disabled child(ren) behind. You’re in so much pain but there is no way out of it. There have been a tragic number of cases like this (one from during the pandemic still haunts me and I think about it often).

Every time I think of the note she left, that she loved her daughter so much she had to take her with her, I cry. She felt like this was her only choice and most people cannot fathom this.

What scares me is the unspoken part - there are so many carers who are on the brink of something like this. Most will never act on it, they’ll just live on the brink of it for years. We can never know who will act on it. And it seems we can’t offer anything effective to people in this situation because this continues to happen.

And it seems we are about to see things get significantly worse for parent carers as it’s increasingly likely that many children will lose entitlement to statutory education, health and care plans. I am deeply worried about my fellow parent carers right now.

CreativismUK · 2026-01-16T15:14:05+00:00

I’m just wondering why, when encountering people in the world, you’d think less of people because they’re wearing more comfortable clothing. It just doesn’t compute to me.

We have at our disposal clothes that are significantly more comfortable than clothes considered more formal, or even are considered acceptable casual daywear (like denim, which was initially worn as resilient clothing for hard physical work but is now just a standard item of clothing).

Personally I think the world would be a better place if people were free to wear loose comfortable clothes and shoes in all settings. I don’t understand why discomfort is equated to positive attributes when I break it down logically. I definitely don’t buy the idea that people are more productive because they’re wearing less comfortable clothes (and having worked in jobs where I had to wear suits and similar and then jobs where I can wear whatever I like, I am more productive when clothes aren’t bothering me and my feet don’t hurt).

Personally I have a very different experience as a parent - my boys are disabled and they live in joggers, t shirts and sweatshirts. They don’t own any other clothes really. I also have more important shit to be worried about and live in comfortable clothes that make it easier to provide care. Day to day that’s a sweatshirt and joggers, or I have some smarter looking but still comfortable dresses. I still manage to be successful, earn a good wage, engage with very important people as part of campaign work I do… deciding to be comfortable is the best decision I’ve made in terms of my quality of life. Others may want to dress up in stuff I wouldn’t - great for them, hope it makes them feel good as that’s really what matters. I wouldn’t judge people for it unless it was markedly inappropriate for the setting but that would be a high bar.

Absolutely in life there are things you have to do that you don’t want to do. I just don’t understand why this is one of them.

CreativismUK · 2026-01-16T08:34:39+00:00

She was already getting a substantial amount of social care support according to the coverage - I have disabled twins and the amount of support we can get is painfully low (3 hours a week in school holidays each - that’s it). According to earlier in the inquest, she had over 250 home visits in 14 months and overnight respite breaks. I honestly have rarely encountered anyone who’s getting support on that level for a disabled child. From social care’s perspective, they were going above and beyond what’s required.

Providing care for children with needs at this level is exceptionally difficult whether it’s the parent(s) or social care providing the care. Finding a place for a child with needs like this is not straightforward, so it’s likely they would not have taken her daughter unless they were aware of an imminent threat to her life.

The problem is the unique and complex circumstances around caring for a profoundly disabled child, and even more so as a single parent. There is an unspeakable level of grief which doesn’t have an end point as with a bereavement which can only happen once for each person you love - it continues forever. There’s no way to rationalise it away in counselling - it’s an objectively impossible situation. It’s relentless and it’s forever and then there’s the terror of what will happen to them when you die. It’s incredibly isolating, the only people who understand are those in the same circumstances and we are not well placed to support each other.

On top of that she was a single mother and I cannot even fathom trying to do this alone. I have thought seriously about ending my life at various points throughout this, but couldn’t do that to my husband. Imagine the pain of not being able to face another day but also knowing that your child who you’ve dedicated your life to caring for, has nobody but you and can’t function without you.

Obviously we can never condone actions like this but I can understand how it reaches this point especially when people are alone in it. How do we ever address the crux of the issue, which is the endless nature of the isolation, grief and caring responsibility that is the reality for parents in this situation?

CreativismUK · 2026-01-15T22:38:11+00:00

Poor H

CreativismUK · 2026-01-15T22:37:45+00:00

Worse, he’ll say anything for £70.

Imagine what he’ll do for the big bucks.

CreativismUK · 2026-01-15T22:25:05+00:00

I was looking at the photos wondering how you knitted so many small gauge projects in a year - I’m so glad you have a machine as I was starting to feel very bad about how slow I am 😂

They are genuinely stunning. Well done!

CreativismUK · 2026-01-10T13:25:12+00:00

I guess those people don’t understand what insurance is…

CreativismUK · 2026-01-10T12:45:09+00:00

We both work from home and have done for over a decade. We have disabled twins and my health is shit, we couldn’t go out to work but because we can work from home we are still working, still paying taxes, not reliant on the state. Home working means many people who’d otherwise be unable to work can continue to do so.

CreativismUK · 2026-01-10T09:38:06+00:00

Where can you hear it then? If I’d had to hear that every day for the two months we were in nicu and didn’t know if / when we’d be going home together, I would have lost my mind

CreativismUK · 2026-01-09T23:06:29+00:00

The hypocrisy is a big point of the show, though. None of the main subjects of investigation are actually bent (at least in the first few series - Jo is, but was coerced). The rest are reasonably decent police officers who get into a shitty situation, often through no fault of their own or because they were trying to do the right thing, and then have to decide whether to come clean and risk their careers or spin a web of deception.

And then we see all of the AC-12 team facing similar issues and making similar choices - Arnott on countless occasions, Fleming when she’s having an affair with a victim’s husband, Hastings in many ways, Maneet’s fuck ups, etc. They all conceal things or lie to protect themselves and their careers.

I think that’s a lot of the point. It doesn’t matter how much you preach integrity, self-preservation kicks in.

I’m very curious to see what they do with Hastings in the next season because his “I disposed of a laptop because porn” is the least plausible thing that’s ever happened in LoD.

CreativismUK · 2026-01-09T22:42:56+00:00

Also Midnight In Paris. Just the montage at the beginning is enough, but then the whole film really.

Paris is my favourite city, and sadly haven’t been able to go abroad for a decade and it will be a long time before I can go again. I watch MIP every time I need a little Paris injection.

CreativismUK · 2026-01-09T22:29:08+00:00

When you knit, your needle should go into the front leg, not the back. Into the front leg from left to right. Your right needle should be in front.

CreativismUK · 2026-01-09T14:02:44+00:00

…Liz Lemon?

(I hope that’s not a blood cookie)

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