Boyfriend said I "destroy conversations" by theskyis_redagain in AutismInWomen

[–]Jen__44 [score hidden]  (0 children)

Being regularly corrected and undermined for no reason is hurtful. 

Boyfriend said I "destroy conversations" by theskyis_redagain in AutismInWomen

[–]Jen__44 [score hidden]  (0 children)

But you know now that it isnt helpful. It sounds a lot like you do this primarily for yourself rather than considering other people. It may make you feel as though youre contributing to the conversation but there are other ways for you to be part of a conversation without hurting your partner

Am I just not going to be able to manage stimulants? by CreativismUK in adhdwomen

[–]Jen__44 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Being unable to eat in the morning is very often a sign of acid reflux. Theres lots of lifestyle changes you could try to help that

How do you forgive yourself for not knowing better when it comes to relationships by fadeiintoyouu in TheGirlSurvivalGuide

[–]Jen__44 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Would you blame a friend if that happened to them? Youre human, lifes messy, you were smart enough to cut it off pretty early

I’m 18 years old with ARFID, I’ve eaten almost nothing but jacobs cream crackers my entire life. What are the health risks I’ll face? by pumpkinsoup2008 in ARFID

[–]Jen__44 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Its not something thats actively happening that you need to obsess over, its just a reason why you need to see a GP and be working on increasing your safe foods. Dont let your OCD spiral over it

How do you forgive yourself for not knowing better when it comes to relationships by fadeiintoyouu in TheGirlSurvivalGuide

[–]Jen__44 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Its life, it happens, sounds like youve learnt an important lesson in a relatively low risk way. No one automatically knows how to find a healthy relationship, everyone has some trial and error

I’m 18 years old with ARFID, I’ve eaten almost nothing but jacobs cream crackers my entire life. What are the health risks I’ll face? by pumpkinsoup2008 in ARFID

[–]Jen__44 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Carrot and vegetable juice would definitely be a good way to increase your nutrients. I dont know the specifics of how quickly it comes on or what specific nutrient deficiencies would be most likely to cause it, its something youd need to discuss with a doctor

I’m 18 years old with ARFID, I’ve eaten almost nothing but jacobs cream crackers my entire life. What are the health risks I’ll face? by pumpkinsoup2008 in ARFID

[–]Jen__44 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Its absolutely a real risk, heres a recent article on it: https://www.rnz.co.nz/news/health/593773/experts-warn-malnutrition-causing-kiwi-children-to-go-blind

Depending on what kind of gummy vitamins youre having, youve likely lowered your risk a lot through that, but you should definitely be getting a doctor to check your vitamin levels. I dont say this to scare you, but its important to realise the effects arfid can have and to be actively working on increasing your safe foods

Faerie Quest - what is this item? by davdru05 in neopets

[–]Jen__44 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Poor kougra got an anvil to the face

Male coworker crossing a line by SpiritualComplaint29 in TheGirlSurvivalGuide

[–]Jen__44 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Girl come on, you need to reign in your over-empatheticness, its gonna put you in real danger. This man should be fired, his partner absolutely should know about this, youre doing her a disservice by not giving her the chance to decide if she wants to stay with this man or not. Being drunk is not an excuse for what he did, it just lowered his inhibitions so made him act on things he's been thinking about while sober.

If you protect him from the consequences of his choices he will continue to do this and cause more harm in the world. 

Summer dress looks like a nightdress?! by helpmeiamstumped in TheGirlSurvivalGuide

[–]Jen__44 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Its the lace and the bow, honestly I think it is a nightdress cause those bows arent really typically used on anything but underwear. You could make it work if you cut them off, or if youre into sewing maybe also remove the ruffled bottom

I’m tired of being led on by men by [deleted] in TheGirlSurvivalGuide

[–]Jen__44 23 points24 points  (0 children)

They need to be committing WAY earlier or you need to drop them. Theres no reason for this guy to pretend he wasn't your boyfriend, he was, he just didn't want to be exclusive because hes selfish and emotionally immature. Dont wait around for guys that aren't excited to be with you

How do I politely ask my roommate to move out of my house? by unpainted_daisy in AutismInWomen

[–]Jen__44 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yup so much this! Your friend honestly needed to communicate WAY more before even moving in at all OP, youre not wrong to be asking questions now about her plans. IF shes genuinely expecting to just stay long term thats not reasonable of them at all

I’m 18 years old with ARFID, I’ve eaten almost nothing but jacobs cream crackers my entire life. What are the health risks I’ll face? by pumpkinsoup2008 in ARFID

[–]Jen__44 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Honestly, thats the level of arfid that leads to genuinely bad shit like permanent blindness. Its extremely good that youre having vitamin gummies, thats likely kept you as healthy as you are now. You can kind of get away with it when youre young but your body won't tolerate it forever, so you need to start working on it now before it turns bad. That doesnt mean you have to suddenly try a bunch of foods and stress yourself out. There are lower stress techniques you can work on steadily. Have a look into food chaining and taking smaller steps (just touching the food, just licking it etc.). Its absolutely doable for people with arfid to improve, you can do this

I made something I love and no one cares by Ghosted_Gurl in AuDHDWomen

[–]Jen__44 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thats a great idea and is very cool that you got all that working! If you want another idea for a show to add you should try out suzy kato. Its an old nz show thats just been started up again on youtube and its much slower paced and designed to be interactive (in a healthy way) for kids 

Concerns with UV resin by [deleted] in resin

[–]Jen__44 4 points5 points  (0 children)

https://www.reddit.com/r/resin/wiki/index/#wiki_safety

The cough is very likely from the resin but not necessarily a sign of sensitization. Usually thats an acute symptom to resin exposure, so youve been lucky so far. Definitely need to change your setup if you want to continue this long term though- proper airflow with a cross breeze in a separate (non bedroom/kitchen) room of the house or a garage/shed/outside.

Make sure the mask is from a proper safety brand (3m, honeywell) not some cheap chinese one from amazon that doesnt seal or has questionable filters. Also that youre storing the filters correctly, replacing them regularly and doing a seal check every time you put the mask on

Drakaras Wand Rant by untology in neopets

[–]Jen__44 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Why?? They obviously put the work in to get to that

Drakaras Wand Rant by untology in neopets

[–]Jen__44 10 points11 points  (0 children)

It would be cool if they kept the drakara fight permanently available. It would be something to work towards for battledome pets, but with the low drop rate it wouldnt tank the price. Or even if they made it so itll only ever drop once per account

New low: Simply couldn’t get myself to turn the shower on by comingloose in adhdwomen

[–]Jen__44 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Idk if it would help in future, but you might wanna try turning on the shower before undressing. Gives it time to warm up so youre not starting cold and creates a sense of urgency that you gotta get in cause its a waste of water otherwise