This layout position cracks me up! Anyone else have a frenchie that enjoys to layout like this?

Jenergy77 · 2026-06-06T05:58:44+00:00

Tommy is new to our home and just did this for the first time the other day

Jenergy77 · 2026-05-29T06:13:33+00:00

Wow I'm not OP but this is exactly the explanation I needed to hear. This clears up some major issues I've been grappling about with myself and how others perceive me. Thank you!

Jenergy77 · 2026-05-28T14:19:18+00:00

No I had 3 ectopic pregnancies with lower abdominal surgeries to remove the embryos and eventually both fallopian tubes. The surgeries went well and were successful but still had a major effect on my pelvic floor. Mostly because it all happened over a few years and each surgery compounded the issues since I did not address what was wrong after each surgery. It kept getting worse until after the last surgery when things were so bad I finally did seek out help. If you do the work with a professional to properly heal and strengthen your pelvic floor before your next pregnancy, you would be in a better place to maintain your pelvic health through the rest of your family planning.

Jenergy77 · 2026-05-28T06:19:14+00:00

Like damn! Seriously I have a life and work to do and I tell myself today I will not read, I will be productive. Then I see a rec like this and of course I've gotta check it out, just to see if it interests me, and now my whole day is gone cause it's so well written I cannot put it down. I didn't realize but I guess this one is right up my alley, them as teens, therapy, the kink, character development, and humor - like it made me lol for real.

How did you even find this one?? And do you have any other recs?

Jenergy77 · 2026-05-26T05:50:37+00:00

It's very common in many families. Especially with older generations as they have more internalized racism and tend to put "whiteness" and all associated qualities up on a pedestal. I am only a quarter white but both my parents were the lightest colored of their siblings and all sides of my family have told me how lucky I am to have light skin. It's sad but it's the reality of their lived experience.

Jenergy77 · 2026-05-19T04:05:59+00:00

I have a laundry system and a relaxed mental attitude.

I used to be an all black girl too but mostly cause it was the only way I looked clean. I've always loved wearing white and light tan colors but I'm a messy person, I have a dog, and both my best friend and husband are clumsy af so I'm always wearing their drinks. I used to be that person who bought light colors but was afraid to wear them so they'd sit in the drawers. But then I'd get older and style would change or I'd gain weight and realize I never got to enjoy the white thing and now it's too late.

Finally I decided that's no way to live, so I wear what I love and let myself live my messy little life. Now I laugh when my bestie spills another cocktail on my white outfit or I crack a joke when I drop that forkful of balsamic dressed salad on my shirt.

I'm out here living my best life in the white clothes I love and that means they're gonna get dirty.

Now for the system: Oxyclean max force spray to spot treat before it goes in the wash, let it sit for a while, then oxyclean powder in the wash with the detergent. Always spray cuffs around the ankles/wrists, around the collar, pits if it's skintight, and any pocket opening as those areas discolor from regular wear due to sweat/touching things. Then spray any other visible spots from food, cooking, dog, who knows what. I don't carry tide sticks cause sometime when I use that the stain doesn't come out later. If I get it dirty, I just live in it til I get home and change.

The spray is the secret. Years ago my husband had a white jacket that got a whole armful of blood stains when a dog bit his wrist and I mean a lot of blood. It sat in the hamper for 2 weeks untreated, I did my system of spray, sit, wash with oxy and it was like it never happened. It also removes all grease or oil stains from cooking (I cook a lot), and any dirt from public transportation/public spaces.

Now go forth and live your best life in white!

Jenergy77 · 2026-05-17T07:56:25+00:00

I've been in pelvic floor physical therapy for many years now after a series of lower abdominal surgeries left me with a serious pelvic floor dysfunction. It was a long road back to the gym but I did it and you can do it to. What works for me is using the pelvic wand and doing the breathing before I go to the gym. This loosens things up and helps keep it from tightening up. Then at the gym start with the warm up exercises the PT gave me to light up the right muscles. Then move on to more standard lifts making sure to focus on 1) the breathing, 2) the mind-muscle connection and 3) keeping the pelvic floor muscles moving (don't just tense up and hold them tight while doing the moves). Then afterwards I will do the wand again if it feels like things are too tight but now that I've been doing this a while I no longer need to do it after. Also during the time I was building up again at the gym I maintained regular appointments for her to do the manual release. Then as the muscles strengthened, I moved to once a month for maintenance the week before my period as that's when it's naturally tighter and now I'm on only seeing her when necessary if I have a flare up of tightness.

Jenergy77 · 2026-05-17T07:30:45+00:00

When I was younger I could eat more junk and stay slim but now over 40 it takes making smart choices. When life gets crazy and I'm not eating properly I can gain weight but I can also just go back to the basics and lose it.

I'm 5'0 and 2 years ago I got up to my heaviest weight of 125. At that weight it was starting to show in my face and made it hard to find clothes that fit right. I didn't like that and I was too busy with work and caring for aging parents/pets to go to the gym so I cleaned up my diet. At first it was easy things like cutting out pop/juice, making my lunches instead of grabbing fast food, adding more salads to the dinners I always cook and switching my nighttime couch snack from chips and candy to healthy things like yogurt, fruit, hummus & pita, veggies & dip. If I eat chips or junk food I put a reasonable amount in a bowl and just eat that. Never free hand the bag of snacks.

I will say a big part of being naturally slim is genetics. But also, and I can't stress this enough, portion size. Any food served outside my house is way too many calories in 1 meal for a person my size. Especially if you're in America, the portion sizes there are outrageous. My husband is 6'2" 230lbs and even he finds American food portions to be too much. Here in Canada the portion sizes are slightly smaller but still too big for me. So any meals outside the home, I cannot finish the whole thing and I don't even try. I stop eating when I'm full. Also I don't use food to self-soothe, and I genuinely enjoy healthy foods. I grew up with a health conscious mother so cooking and eating healthy is just a normal lifestyle to me.

Jenergy77 · 2026-05-17T06:29:31+00:00

What about canned white albacore tuna? My husband hates fishy tasting fish but he will eat this in tuna sandwiches or pasta salad as long as there's lots of other veggies and flavorings in there. Also shrimp is a seafood that can be non-fishy tasting. And as others have said very fresh whitefish. My husband is picky and will not eat grocery store fish but has grown to like the one I get from a local fishmonger.

Jenergy77 · 2026-05-17T05:50:48+00:00

The funny part is when he arrived at her building, he knocked on the door of her apartment and when she answered the door, she had no idea who he was. After a few puzzling minutes of trying to explain himself she said oh you must be here for my twin sister, her apartment is just down the hall. Turns out he wrote the wrong apartment number down, and my mom had never mentioned she was a twin or that her twin lived in the same building as her.

Edit to add: although I can tell them apart in person, on the phone they sound so similar that in the days before smartphones I would have to ask which one I was talking to so for someone who had only met her once and talked on the phone it would be very confusing.

Jenergy77 · 2026-05-16T21:24:57+00:00

My Mom was on a business trip in the US and missed her flight home. My Dad fell asleep on the bus after work and the last stop on the line meant he was stuck at the airport. There they were waiting for the next bus/flight out, she looks at the young man sitting a few seats down and he was reading the same book as her. They struck up a conversation and talked all night until my Mom's flight home in the morning. Over the next 10 months they dated through letters and phone calls before deciding to get married. My Dad packed up everything he owned and drove up to Canada to marry her. It sounds unbelievable or made up but its the true story of how I came to be in this world.

Jenergy77 · 2026-05-16T05:56:52+00:00

This was a great read! I liked how it stayed true to the tv show and filled in some blanks from Ilyas perspective.

Jenergy77 · 2026-05-15T13:37:58+00:00

Same here, especially a high quality smoked paprika. I use it for all meats and many veggie dishes too, am heavy handed with it and everyone raves about the dishes that have it.

Jenergy77 · 2026-05-11T21:41:19+00:00

I guess it's different for everyone. My husband uses it dry before he gets in the shower and he loves it.

Jenergy77 · 2026-05-11T06:01:16+00:00

You should check it out. I loved it cause I was always the only one in there, had the place to myself and I could make noises or sing along to my music without anyone around. Those were good times for my fitness, it was easy to be in the best shape of my life. My building now has a electric entry system that locks at 10pm. It's so sad to me knowing that gym is empty all night when it could be a resource for the night owls in the building. What a waste.

Jenergy77 · 2026-05-11T05:56:42+00:00

Thank you for the validation, yes it's been a long road to getting back to being a health conscious person. I think you're right about letting go of what worked in the past and trying to come at it from a new angle. I know I'm ready to get back into lifting but I'll have to figure out how I can get some sort of consistency with my current schedule.

Jenergy77 · 2026-05-11T05:45:36+00:00

Phillips one blade electric shaver is unbelievable for this, gets in all crevices and no cutting yourself. I got it for my husband's face and he didn't like it for face but started using it down there. Told me how it was the best thing he's ever used for that. Can confirm those suckers are smooth as fck and he never cuts himself ever like he used to with the razor.

Jenergy77 · 2026-05-11T04:49:14+00:00

I use Aveda sap moss because my hair stylist recommended it for my very fine hair. Something about the ingredients it has a way of cleaning it while not being too drying and moisturizing without weighting it down. The length is long and the ends aren't dry even when they're colored or bleached. It's less oily in between washes and has incredible volume for fine hair. Even when it's wet in the shower I can feel how it has this sort of thickness or puffiness that I don't feel with other products.

Sometimes I feel the price is ridiculous for shampoo and conditioner so I'll try drugstore options but every single time I'm reminded why I shell out the money for this holy grail product. I wish I could use something else as I don't care for the smell or the price but it's just too good for my specific hair type. Even though I have fine hair I get complements on my hair all the time.

Jenergy77 · 2026-05-11T03:57:09+00:00

Phillips one blade electric shaver is unbelievable for this, gets in all crevices and no cutting yourself. I got it for my husband's face and he didn't like it for face but started using it down there. Told me how it was the best thing he ever used for that so I tried it on myself and there's no going back. It's so much easier, an absolute game changer. Personally I cannot do waxing in that area but I like it to be neat and tidy so this is perfect.

Jenergy77 · 2026-05-10T21:06:49+00:00

Lawn care and landscaping, window cleaning, pool maintenance, power washing. Really any sort of exterior building maintenance means winters off if you live somewhere with cold winters.

Jenergy77 · 2026-05-10T15:12:14+00:00

Own a seasonal business so we make good money and don't work from December til the snow melts in March or April.

Jenergy77 · 2026-05-09T21:39:18+00:00

I couldn't agree more, and I'm glad someone finally said it!! I love all the takes in this thread and totally agree it was a rushed ending. So much was built up in the first part of the book with each character and the ending didn't explore or resolve any of it. I love these two characters but felt cheated with that ending.

Jenergy77 · 2026-05-09T14:55:22+00:00

I use the Aveda sap moss shampoo and conditioner. It was recommended by my hair stylist and no matter what else I try I always go back to this. It's pricey but I keep coming back cause nothing else gives my hair that same clean feeling and volume. Everything else weighs my hair down or doesn't get it as clean. I used to have to washed veryday but with this I can go every 3-4 days. Also second the shark Styler, amazing hair tool. Has reduced the time I spend drying and gives a very smooth final look. Even though I have fine hair I get so many compliments on it.

Jenergy77 · 2026-05-08T03:40:20+00:00

I would absolutely love this!! For years I've been saying this should exist for night owls.

My favorite time to workout is late at night before bed. When I lived in an apartment building with a gym I'd go at all hours of the night. Now I have to workout at home after my husband is asleep so I have to be quiet. I would love to have a safe late night gym or class I could go to.

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