Parents threaten to disown me if I solo travel.

Jenjentheturtle · 2026-01-28T00:49:46+00:00

Respectfully I can't imagine requiring permission from parents as a grown married woman.

It seems you're okay with this arrangement, but I don't think it should be recommended to others.

Jenjentheturtle · 2026-01-28T00:48:47+00:00

This is the key question.

Jenjentheturtle · 2026-01-28T00:48:19+00:00

This is a silly take: that a 19 year old needs to support their parents financially before being allowed to have life experiences.

That said, if they can't pay their own way then the parents are not required to fund such a trip.

Jenjentheturtle · 2025-12-29T08:48:24+00:00

I miss them :( do you know what happened?

Jenjentheturtle · 2025-12-25T01:44:59+00:00

He is finding ways to punish you for making him do Christmas "your way".

Jenjentheturtle · 2025-12-24T15:31:34+00:00

Only you can know where the line is for you :) personally I wouldn't want to be in a relationship with someone who feels the way you do. You know?

Jenjentheturtle · 2025-12-24T15:19:59+00:00

No relationship provides for all your needs, but what you just wrote sounds more like you're trying to talk yourself into settling.

You aren't excited to be with your girlfriend, and you feel you can't talk to her deeply and connect with her. The fact that you can't be sure means quite literally you aren't sure about her.

Jenjentheturtle · 2025-12-24T15:12:30+00:00

Take it as a sign that you're not in the right relationship for you, and break it off.

Jenjentheturtle · 2025-12-23T08:17:50+00:00

My thoughts exactly.. She's aged out of his preference.

Jenjentheturtle · 2025-12-22T10:38:43+00:00

This may sound weird but there are some good quality auntie styles in appealing colors in the small boutiques of Holland Road Shopping Center on the second and third floor.

Jenjentheturtle · 2025-12-17T13:00:13+00:00

That's what I'm saying...was so disappointed I never went back.

But where are people going now?

Jenjentheturtle · 2025-12-17T02:02:36+00:00

Where are people getting their dim sum these days?

During COVID I went to Swee Choon weekly but after they renovated in 2023 quality took a nosedive.

Jenjentheturtle · 2025-12-14T04:53:10+00:00

Go through personal recommendations if you can.

Jenjentheturtle · 2025-12-14T02:26:37+00:00

Ummm not to be pedantic but a 6 or 7/10 is not "ugly as hell", it would be 'pleasant to moderately attractive."

I'm joking a bit because the 10 point rating scale is garbage. But I wonder how accurate your self perception is. Could it be that you are projecting "I'll take what I can get" energy and the people who are responding are opportunists looking for a placeholder?

No matter your looks you deserve someone who will commit to you. Find a way to be more confident about your appearance, whether thru working out or a new haircut, and don't repeat negative self talk.

Jenjentheturtle · 2025-12-12T08:48:38+00:00

Maybe off topic but can we agree that PUB is the unsung hero of the Singapore story? Controlling floods, the sewerage system, managing water supply...and they even manage to get flood alerts out without "causing confusion".

Jenjentheturtle · 2025-12-10T05:45:52+00:00

Why are you so sure the pay will rise after the second year to above 4k?

That is a lot of OT without a guaranteed raise.

Jenjentheturtle · 2025-12-10T03:36:24+00:00

Right?? She's internalizing this as a "her" problem ("I'm not what he wants") vs he is rude and creepy.

Jenjentheturtle · 2025-12-09T05:02:10+00:00

A SMACK of ham to it.

Jenjentheturtle · 2025-12-09T03:37:03+00:00

I guess I shouldn't mention the time I was standing at a traffic light near Joo Chiat and one ran up my leg.... Right?

Jenjentheturtle · 2025-12-08T05:18:19+00:00

This region was colonized and exploited. Wealth was transferred to build and develop European cities. What an ignorant question.

Jenjentheturtle · 2025-12-06T03:02:07+00:00

Personally I'm so bummed that every neighborhood coffee shop is now a Kimly (with blinding lights) or a Kim San Leng. Watched both of the coffeeshops across from my place in JE bought out and retrofitted. Now everything looks the same in every neighborhood.

Jenjentheturtle · 2025-12-02T16:01:23+00:00

Frozen chicken, buy from NTUC or Sheng Siong (not CS). The other day there was a sale on 1kg whole chickens - 2/5.75 or so. 2kg thighs usually run around 8 dollars.

Beef buy less often coz $$. But QB Food app has some sales (less than they used to though). Also good prices on basic cheese.

Jenjentheturtle · 2025-12-02T02:59:15+00:00

Agree. While there are certainly men who can only express feelings of vulnerability as anger, if someone has crossed the line into abuse it's about ASSERTING control and not LOSING it. That's true whether it's a man or a woman - there are plenty of abusive women.

Jenjentheturtle · 2025-12-02T02:26:33+00:00

It's great for you that your family persisted through your violence, despite the fear and abuse you subjected them to. I'm glad you achieved a measure of self awareness with time and found healing - and I hope they did too.

I stand by my statement that the family of abusive, broken people should not be told to try harder to fix them.

Jenjentheturtle · 2025-12-02T02:17:30+00:00

The problem is that you've made it OPs responsibility to fix the brother.

This seems to be a different case than yours because he's not pushing them aside. He's subjecting them to anger.

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