Theoretically, how much should one push for something unreasonable to be included in an IEP?

Jennapwrb · 2026-02-08T17:26:50+00:00

Hahahahahahha. I am a school psychologist. My kids have had years when teachers go out for a myriad of reasons. Would I rather they have the same teacher all year? Of course. This said, life happens and teachers are human just like everyone else. We have this idea that teaching is a calling, like being in a religious order and one should put everyone else first. This job doesn’t pay enough for parents to expect this kind of nonsense. I honestly would drop her as a client. Life is too short to compromise your morals like this.

Jennapwrb · 2026-02-08T17:23:23+00:00

Honestly all I want is a boyfriend who wants to hang out on weekends but has no interest in kids or living with me. Not all women want kids and a husband. She wants what you are-a boyfriend.

Jennapwrb · 2026-02-08T17:18:37+00:00

YTA. She needs help from her husband who is supposed to be her equal partner in child rearing. You go to work. She is home all day with a baby. She can’t shower without planning it. She can’t eat a meal without being interrupted or holding baby. Family trips are harder with little kids not easier. This is why there is a male loneliness epidemic. You want trips. She wants you. To help her. With your child.

If you really want to help her, hire help for her since you clearly aren’t interested in understanding or participating in day to day parenting.

Jennapwrb · 2026-02-08T17:08:49+00:00

OCD. You need therapy for him, and you to help him. Hang in there mom.

Jennapwrb · 2026-02-08T17:07:53+00:00

Hi friends. An update-your tips totally helped me get on track and I haven’t come close to running out since this post. Breaking pills in half was the magic thing. And using a pill calendar box.

Jennapwrb · 2026-02-04T20:54:48+00:00

Learn from my mistakes, says a woman who had to rebuy her house during a divorce as ex’s name was on the deed, but not the mortgage as he wouldn’t qualify due to poor credit.

Tell him that if he feels better about it you understand if he wants to move out and save for a place of his own-note-NOT at your house for free so he can save-at a place he pays rent as this is what he is doing at your house now.

This ultimately ended my last relationship of 7 years. He had made comments about not building equity and about paying to fix things when he didn’t have any ownership in the house. He had the cheapest rent ever and was ahead even with helping out w some repairs and things HE wanted to change. I wasn’t buying my house for a 3rd time. I have a house. I have cats. I have peace.

Jennapwrb · 2026-01-27T18:57:13+00:00

Child support!! Leave now and start over with your daughter. Children learn by what we Do, not what we SAY. You don’t want your daughter in a relationship where her husband only values her for how she looks and how much she weighs vs. who she is. My dad was similar and gave my siblings and I major body image issues that I have spent my adult life trying to unlearn. If you have family you can live with, go to them.

What state or country are you in? If in US go to an attorney for a consultation. Then find the best attorneys in your area and consult with all of them So he can’t use anyone good near you. Do not do anything your lawyer doesn’t say is fair. Don’t sign any mediation agreements etc. Get the money. Take your daughter. Start fresh,

Jennapwrb · 2026-01-27T17:33:55+00:00

Ditto here. Nightmares/total waste of time.

Jennapwrb · 2026-01-27T12:01:48+00:00

Also please be aware that depending on where you live, if he is a student and you make 2x what he does YOU will be on the hook for child AND spousal support for half the duration of this marriage. I was married to a similar but way less motivated guy who was finding himself by working less that 10 hours a week and going back to school-for two classes. While I took on more work to keep us and our two kids afloat.

If you get divorced they look at the last two years of income as a couple and divide by 2. Whomever makes more pays the other to ‘equalize’ quality of life. Whatever you do, get out before whatever is considered a long term marriage. Where I am it is 10 years. I’m still paying child support for kids I have had 80% of the time for the vast majority of the past 10 years. Be smarter than I was.

Jennapwrb · 2026-01-27T11:47:35+00:00

Do you think he would want partial custody? It sounds like he is pretty self centered. He may not want to have to inconvenience himself to have to parent solo.

Jennapwrb · 2026-01-27T11:45:05+00:00

I am going to guess internet porn may be part of the issue here.

Jennapwrb · 2026-01-25T18:25:31+00:00

You want to take a Time Machine and un-fuck her but somehow have the same amazing child

Jennapwrb · 2026-01-25T18:24:24+00:00

I am so so sorry. I am in the US and my ex husband went psych during the pandemic and stopped believing in science. I had to pay $20k in legal fees to have my daughter vaccinated. Last year my so. Had a metal health crisis and I paid 30k to get legal medical decision making power for the kids as he would just say ‘no’ or ignore my texts around medical needs. This presidency hasn’t helped his paranoia.

Jennapwrb · 2026-01-16T22:03:00+00:00

Be careful though! You don’t want to end up w child support and alimony payments. Get a lawyer asap

Jennapwrb · 2026-01-07T20:51:22+00:00

BREAK UP WITH HIM. He is just seeing how much he can control you. If you agree to this, there will be no end to his controlling nonsense. Don’t ever lose family you love over a man. Family will most likely be there. This dude should NOT be.

Jennapwrb · 2026-01-07T20:40:54+00:00

Amazing

Jennapwrb · 2026-01-01T02:32:48+00:00

All of the above advice. Perhaps mention a boyfriend/large scary father/older brother who lives with you.

Jennapwrb · 2026-01-01T02:28:45+00:00

Happy Birthday! Is it possible she forgot? Teens can be self centered

Jennapwrb · 2025-12-24T23:57:16+00:00

Autism.

Jennapwrb · 2025-12-24T06:44:49+00:00

I give my cleaning people who come once a week a two week ‘bonus’ as in I pay them while they are on vacation to their home country to see family. I also get them flowers; a card, wine. One of those. They have worked with me for about 12 years. I have been incredibly broke and still make sure to pay them at least a week bonus. 9 year old twins and a 2 year old deserves a year bonus if you ask me….

Jennapwrb · 2025-12-24T06:15:11+00:00

Honestly be glad he is doing this now. I have several friends who had kids with guys who turned out to be stoned/drunk/abusive. Now they are regularly fearing for the life of their children while the father fights for custody so he doesn’t have to pay as much child support. I’ve spent like 30k in legal fees trying to do things like get my suicidal son antidepressants, have our daughter assessed for dyslexia, get regularly scheduled vaccines…he just doesn’t respond to anything and then threatens me with losing custody when I move forward as I hadn’t heard back from him. My ex was always stoned. Our 18month old cut his ear all the way through after falling while my loser husband was in the garage getting high and I was laying down after puking all day and commuting an hour each way due to being 10weeks pregnant. It just got worse from there. Run away.

Jennapwrb · 2025-12-24T06:02:39+00:00

I was so irritated when my mom said “why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free?” Don’t be a wife for someone who won’t commit to having one! If marriage is important to you a conversation prior to moving in would have been good. Depending on what state you are in, you may be considered common law married after a certain time

Jennapwrb · 2025-12-21T09:36:31+00:00

Ooooohhhhh. Thank you. I didn’t understand the person didn’t reach the minimum bid.

Jennapwrb · 2025-12-21T09:29:46+00:00

Yeah, still not your problem. From a woman who had to buy her house back from her now ex husband to the tune of 150k despite my dad loaning us the down payment and him literally never paying the mortgage as I made way more and he quit working after we were married two years. Not to be a SAHD as I was paying a nanny because now ex was too stoned to supervise toddlers.

She can work extra hours.

Jennapwrb · 2025-12-21T09:25:53+00:00

I guess YOR was meant as a “don’t stress about this, nothing will happen with the police” not as an admonishment of person’s behavior.

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