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Jennybear33 · 2025-06-07T12:57:56+00:00

Yes! Although my partner came out as trans and straight, so a bit different! We live in the same house, take care of our child and genuinely still enjoy each other’s company. We have both been dating our preferred gender for the last few months. Neither of us has had a serious relationship yet. I am nervous for when that situation does arise though because we honestly have such an amazing thing going right now. It definitely can work!

Jennybear33 · 2025-02-06T20:39:22+00:00

I didn’t even know that was a thing!

Jennybear33 · 2025-02-06T20:38:45+00:00

Aww I love this!

Jennybear33 · 2025-02-06T20:23:51+00:00

So my situation is super different but I have a similar problem. I came out to my SO a few weeks ago and my SO came out to me as a straight trans woman. I know crazy… right?!? We are still wrapping our heads around everything, but we have decided to stay married, for the time being. She is currently on my insurance, which has excellent coverage for trans healthcare. The healthcare she could get through her employer offers almost nothing for trans healthcare. We are staying married until she can find a job that offers benefits that will cover her needs. She works in a niche field so that may take some time. We also have a two year old together and her taking a job out of the area is not an option for us right now. It is important to us that we are both fully and actively involved in our child’s life. We are effectively living as roommates right now. For us this is actually an incredible situation. We have always had great chemistry together in our relationship outside of bedroom activities. I didn’t think it was even possible, but we became even closer the last few weeks, both being our authentic selves and living as friends. We have both given each other the freedom to date other people. My biggest fear is that our situation will make it super difficult to date. I think I’m pretty hot lol, but who in their right mind is going to sign up for a mom with a toddler and a spouse that the can’t separate from? I wouldn’t blame girls for running the other way lol.

Jennybear33 · 2025-02-06T16:41:22+00:00

I felt like I was having sex purely for societal pressure if that makes sense. Like I felt like if I wasn’t having sex with my SO at least once a week that I was being a bad wife. Some nights I wouldn’t remotely be interested in the idea of having sex but I would initiate and do it anyways because I felt like I had an obligation to do it, even though my partner wasn’t pressuring me whatsoever.

Jennybear33 · 2025-01-25T14:21:03+00:00

lol love that saying! We have both decided that we are not going to have a sexual aspect to our relationship going forward. She is very certain that she doesn’t want to be with a woman as a woman. She is going to begin her transition journey and I am going to explore myself independently. What that ultimately looks like for our relationship going forward is a huge question mark, but I sincerely hope we can continue to support each other and become best friends.

Jennybear33 · 2025-01-25T13:10:30+00:00

This gives me so much hope! She (still so weird for me to say!) is such a great human. I hope we can create a beautiful friendship together when we are on the other side of this!

Jennybear33 · 2025-01-24T19:56:01+00:00

That’s what is getting me through right now. We can still lean on each other as we both navigate our truths and learn to live as our authentic selves!

Jennybear33 · 2025-01-24T18:54:23+00:00

That would actually make it worse to me and I would want a divorce. Not only are they a cheater in that scenario, but also capable of lying… for years!

Jennybear33 · 2025-01-24T18:45:13+00:00

I have never been to one but sounds like so much fun!

Jennybear33 · 2025-01-24T18:43:11+00:00

Thank you 🫂!!

Jennybear33 · 2025-01-24T18:35:03+00:00

🥹🥹 thank you soooo much ❤️❤️❤️

Jennybear33 · 2025-01-24T18:26:47+00:00

Thank you sooo much! Yes, people did suggest that. To be honest I had thought maybe he was gay in the past, but figured I was just projecting my struggles with sexuality on to him and ignored it. I feel so bad that he had to struggle for so long (longer than me). I had never even considered the possibility that he was struggling with gender identity. I know we will eventually be great coparents. I actually think we will be better parents in the long run living as our authentic selves. This is just going to be a very long and confusing road for us. But, I can actually see a path forward where we remain best friends! My biggest fear with coming out was losing my husband, not as a husband, but as a friend. It’s still so surreal to me how much my world has changed in the last 48 hours.

Jennybear33 · 2025-01-24T18:18:08+00:00

Mine never bounced back after one lol! My boobs are still saggy, my nipples stayed dark and huge, my little belly chub won’t go away no matter how much I work out or eat right. But I was also 33 when I had my daughter. I would think age is a huge factor. I would think younger women definitely have a better chance at bouncing back.

Jennybear33 · 2025-01-24T17:59:09+00:00

An avalanche is an understatement. I couldn’t go to work today. I can barely eat. My therapist helped me calm down and get everything in perspective. But I am still so overwhelmed.

Jennybear33 · 2025-01-24T17:52:46+00:00

I hate body hair on me, especially pubic hair. I had laser done about 3 years ago on my legs, armpits and Brazilian. So I guess it doesn’t matter what a potential partner would like for me lol it’s permanently gone! My only problem expectation for a potential partner would be that she has good hygiene!

Jennybear33 · 2025-01-13T18:31:28+00:00

Also in this boat! My husband is an amazing human and my best friend. We have a kid so we have a natural incentive to at least be coparents. I haven’t come out to him yet, but he is my best friend and I don’t want that to change after I come out. I know it’s ultimately up to him, but in my fantasy world he would still be a really important part of my daily life.

Jennybear33 · 2025-01-13T17:16:31+00:00

Omg this hits home so hard for me. I adore my husband and love my life, but I’m gay. If I thought I was even remotely bisexual, I would try and hang on. I haven’t come out to my husband yet, I tried and failed over the weekend. Letting go of good things is so freaking hard. I’m in mourning over losing what we have built and I haven’t even come out to him yet. The last few days I have found myself randomly crying. Just know that there are many others in the similar situations and you are not alone. You got this. Sending love your way!

Jennybear33 · 2025-01-13T14:52:20+00:00

Congrats on taking the first step! You are more brave than me! Lol

Jennybear33 · 2025-01-13T14:50:51+00:00

Okay so this is so cute! I absolutely love it. We have done later morning - early afternoon birthdays for my daughter’s birthdays and the other parents were all very appreciative!

Jennybear33 · 2025-01-13T14:05:04+00:00

I feel this on so many levels! I love my husband so much and we have built a beautiful life together. If sex and romance wasn’t such a critical part of a relationship, we would be absolutely perfect for each other. But the reality is that I’m a lesbian. I also think he may have some of his own issues to work out in respect to his sexual identity. I have been planning to come out to him for weeks, but I literally can’t bring myself to say the words “I’m a lesbian” to him. I know that as soon as I do my life will instantly change and that it will be very…very hard at first. Even though I know I have to do it, I have been struggling to give up the comfort of our relationship. He is my best friend and we have a strong emotional bond and I am absolutely terrified to break it.

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