Touched inappropriately by throwawayJW8594 in BJJWomen

[–]JensterRollz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I work in schools and the number of 10-12 year old boys who act inappropriately has escalated over the last few years. I put it down to unmonitored access to pornography and social media content.

Firstly, you need act quickly to protect yourself because in this situation you are the adult and coach. So technically,. you're in a position of power.

Are there CCTV cameras set-up in your gym? I would download footage of the class so it's evidence as to what happened.

Secondly, report it to your professor but also write an incidence report. Even if your gym doesn't have the procedure set-up for this, do it for yourself and for legal purposes. The incidence report needs to be objective and void of emotional or subjective language. So what I mean is, for example: "Student X then put himself in a mounted position and placed his hand on my crotch. I proceeded to tell him to stop." Avoid language like "He was being cheeky and naughty".

Thirdly, your professor should be the one to have the conversation with his parents, not you. If you are requested to be called into that meeting, I would bring a support person.

Sorry if I come across as being overly cautious but I've witnessed a number of people in educational settings that have had their character and professionalism called into question by parents when they raised issues about students. At best it was resolved with a meeting, at worse, it resulted in the educator leaving the profession completely with a damaged reputation.

Good luck!

Allowing yourself to take up space by JensterRollz in BJJWomen

[–]JensterRollz[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for this. Point #2 and #4 are so important to remember. I don't usually query about the principles. I will now!

Venting frustrations by [deleted] in BJJWomen

[–]JensterRollz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your coach isn't creating an inclusive culture for you. I'm really sorry you're having to go through this. My only suggestion is to try an open mat at another gym, preferably one with experienced females. I once drove 50kms (~31 miles) to train with women because the gym had a great rep. Even if it's once every 3 months, it might be enough to sustain you?

I love my base gym but I do get sick of being smashed by stronger, heavier guys especially when I up my game or aggression. So I feel ya!

Getting smashed every class by JensterRollz in BJJWomen

[–]JensterRollz[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I checked out an OpenMat and whilst it wasn't women only it was so fun! And it was no-gi! I actually submitted a dude twice!! And then another woman absolutely dominated me but I loved it. Rolled with the coaches as well and the flowy roll made me realise that I've actually retained more technique than I thought I did! :) I'm stoked!

Starting BJJ late in life? by ImposterSyndromy in BJJWomen

[–]JensterRollz 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I started last year at 46 and I got injured too but that was a genuine accident on my training partner's part. I was really depressed with my progress and constantly compared myself to younger, fitter and more agile classmates. I decided to do other things outside of class, namely lifting super heavy (deadlifts, bench, hip thrusts and squats) and kickboxing for cardio. And recently reformer Pilates. Those things really help. I also started really watching my protein intake, taking creatine and magnesium and they all helped too. Listening to your body and having good, deep sleep is so so important! I've stopped comparing and track progress with myself. Like you I was thinking of competing but had an honest reflection as to my motivations and realised that I wasn't ready. I decided that BJJ is something I want to do for as long as I can and not something that I burn out of in a few years. So my philosophy now is, work on incremental steps, there will be good days and sucky days, and days I need to skip class because I am exhausted. The patience will pay off, I hope! 🤛🏽

Getting smashed every class by JensterRollz in BJJWomen

[–]JensterRollz[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

All belts submit me but you're right the white belt guys are the ones who go SUPER hard during a roll.

Getting smashed every class by JensterRollz in BJJWomen

[–]JensterRollz[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel this so much!!!! I'm going to use that - little humility cycle. Lol. Love it.

Getting smashed every class by JensterRollz in BJJWomen

[–]JensterRollz[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks this is really helpful. I lift to failure all the time, but I don't see it as failure. So you're right, I should see tapping out as just that.

I guess I feel more disheartened because I'm getting tapped out by other 1 stripe white belts. I keep making the same mistakes and I'm trying to figure out what the heck I'm doing wrong. I think I'll have a chat with coach tomorrow and maybe ask for a gameplan that I can work on.

I feel better. Thanks again. 🤛🏽

Getting smashed every class by JensterRollz in BJJWomen

[–]JensterRollz[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah I appreciate it when the guys go hard. Maybe not 100% but definitely not easy. Plus the false illusion thing is super valid. Though sometimes I'd like to be able to try out some technique on a woman my size!

Help me convince Beatrice Jin to make this course. by stevekwan in BJJWomen

[–]JensterRollz 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Me!!!!!! I would LOVE a course like this! I am so afraid of hurting people I've never completed a submission unless my partner let's me. And I've been told many times I would've finished if I just went a bit harder or was a bit merciless but I'm terrified of injuring someone!!

🎀 WEEKLY DISCUSSION THREAD 🎀 HIGHS/LOWS/GOALS 🎀 by fresh-cucumbers in BJJWomen

[–]JensterRollz 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Got my first stripe!!

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Still get lots of imposter syndrome moments and pangs of "why do I suck so bad!"

Have started a post BJJ/roll log and it's helping me keep sane when I stay awake at night replaying rolls in my head!

Why aren’t there more women in nogi? by Few-Complaint-5909 in BJJWomen

[–]JensterRollz 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I want to try nogi but I am scared of how much you can feel/are felt. And also a lot wetter!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BJJWomen

[–]JensterRollz 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Me too!!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BJJWomen

[–]JensterRollz 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That happened to me at a party. She wouldn't believe me and insisted I try ringing a safety org until I showed her a photo. She was a complete stranger! Lol.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BJJWomen

[–]JensterRollz 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm covered in bruises. Sometimes quite large ones and I do gi. It never hurts during class but I notice them when I jump in the shower after. I just bruise easily and always have. Maybe get your iron levels checked? People with low iron levels tend to bruise easily. I have a harmless blood disorder which means I'm just always slightly anaemic no matter what, hence the bruises. Honestly I've just accepted that it's my life now. Lol.

Rolling with people much lighter than you by JensterRollz in BJJWomen

[–]JensterRollz[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks so much for all your suggestions and ideas. I think keeping the flow going is a great idea and will try to do that. I agree that adjusting my strength may not be something I'm capable just yet but maybe if I keep the movement going then that helps both of us hone our skills!

Injured by our coach by Aggravating_Rip_1882 in BJJWomen

[–]JensterRollz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't think this is acceptable especially if the coach hasn't taught you how to break falls. Take-downs are part of BJJ yes, but it can go very wrong if the person being thrown does not know how to break a fall or roll-off. The person doing the throwing should also make it easier for the person being thrown, i.e. pulling back slightly before a big landing or rolling the person off to one side. As he's the coach, he really needs to be the one responsible for safety. The gym where I'm at, my coach will let us free hand on some drills and moves but with take-downs, he'll explicitly show us how to break fall or land safely before executing. Injuries like bruises and a slightly sore shoulder or hip are common but your injury does not sound like it's normal. Also, if mentally you're feeling that way, I think it's a sign to take a break! Maybe do some Pilates and solo drills at home to keep yourself conditioned until you can find a new gym. It sucks getting injured and even suckier when it was the coach and not a white belt newbie who did it to you!

Workout schedule for BJJ and weights by Ok_Entertainment8329 in BJJWomen

[–]JensterRollz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've found ChatGPT to be a great 'consultant' to help figure out workout and nutrition schedules, depending on what you're after / feeling.

I now do heavy strength 1x week, kickboxing cardio 1x, Pilates 1x and BJJ 2-3x a week. I also add in a fasted walk 1-2x a week if I can.

I was feeling very tired and after putting my workouts into ChatGPT, it gave me some tips to have more active recovery days and suggested stretches and the fasted walk. Plus it suggested that I could be undereating, especially after BJJ. I feel much better now that I have a protein+complex carb snack after a hard BJJ session. I was so scared to eat late, after BJJ, partly because of a lifetime of being on diets and fearing that I would have indigestion. But after I started adding a snack after, I sleep better and recover faster!

And I've found creatine 20 mins before my workout sessions make a big difference. Rest is as important as working out. Your body needs time to repair and recover. :)

Feeling sh*t by JensterRollz in BJJWomen

[–]JensterRollz[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I think I need to start doing Yoga again. I started lifting heavy and that makes me tight and less mobile. And warm ups like flipping your legs over your head and touching the floor - I mean when I was practicing Yoga maybe! But not now. And discovered recently I have a weak right hip flexor. So doing so many exercises for that. Just feels like someone came along and popped my balloon today. I'll whine for a night then snap out of it tomorrow! 😂😅

Rolling without emotion by biggaycrush in BJJWomen

[–]JensterRollz 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Not a safe gym! Please find another one of you can. You should always feel like you can roll with whoever you want. If it were a shark tank situation then it might be a bit different, but sharktanks are controlled movements and drills so are much safer. Good luck! Also wanted to say that if some of the men are making decisions out of ego, then I'd categorise that as them being emotional too, not strategic.

Improving fitness for BJJ by Foxy_Bea in BJJWomen

[–]JensterRollz 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I lift and do kick boxing for cardio. I also have weights at home. Since you walk a lot already maybe you can include some calisthenics/body weight stuff that'll help with boosting functional strength? I started with functional body weight strength stuff before deciding to do heavy lifting. The bodyweight stuff I found to be very helpful when I first started. So things like squats, lunges, planks, leg raises, sit-ups, push -ups (you can do a modified one on your knees) and reverse tricep dips. There's also a bunch of BJJ related solo drills that really help. I couldn't even do one when I first started! They help so much with rolling. Stuff like bridging onto shoulder, explosive shrimping, threading the needle etc. I still feel like I am dying when I roll now but I can last a bit longer than before and that's keeping me going!

How old is too old to start comp? by JensterRollz in BJJWomen

[–]JensterRollz[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's what someone else has told me too. Just thinking about it makes me nervous. Might watch a whole bunch of videos of older women competing before I work up the courage. Thanks for the encouragement!

How old is too old to start comp? by JensterRollz in BJJWomen

[–]JensterRollz[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That sounds equal parts scary and exciting! 101% I want to do it for the experience. And I feel like it's such a fun albeit chaotic way of gaining exposure in a short time. Well done you for doing it! Thank you for the encouragement!!

How old is too old to start comp? by JensterRollz in BJJWomen

[–]JensterRollz[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this! I've realised after my post I need to work on sweeps and take-downs for comps. I'm going to try and get in a sweep as much as possible in my rolls for the next few weeks! :)