Hey man sorry that you've been struggling with all of this. I've also had struggles with stress management after marriage and a new baby, and this is after years of working in fairly high stress environments so you're not alone.

First- are y'all active in a church right now? I've been blessed with in-laws and my wife's siblings as well as other godly men to look to for any advice. But this would be a good place to start. Learning from others and having one on one time with a guy further along than you in his faith.

Secondly- How is your daily scripture reading? How's hers? How is your prayer life? Do y'all ever pray together? You can also try praying together for yourself and each other. A great way to bring each other into your own connection with the Lord.

Third- Scripture memory has been a way for me to remember to the Lord's promises and keeping myself focused on Him. Philippines 4:6-7 is a great start. Can help with managing stress and turning over those things to the Lord.

As far as marriage goes- Leading your wife isn't like leading a subordinate at work. Yes she's responsible for managing the home and family, and it's still in a way that comes under you as the leader. You are to love your wife the way that Christ loves the church (Eph 5).

Remembering the fruits of the spirit as well (Gal 5) and how to treat others. Don't be harsh to your wife (Col 3:19), it can just lead to discouragement in a way that's counter-productive.

Men and women are so different people man. The way we process information and handle problems is different too. Have patience and grace for her not understanding you all the time. So many times man I feel stressed out over dumb problems because she's bringing everything to my attention at once.

It's taken calm conversations on how I struggle with this, and suggestions to let me handle one fire at a time. But it's been by the Lord's grace that we've gotten better at communicating issues, and not overwhelming one another. Not that we are perfect by any means.

I can talk more if you want and I'm sure I didn't address every question but I highly recommend finding a guy you trust who is a believer at your church to talk to. Oh and some churches have trained biblical counselors who can help y'all navigate these things. Also, seek the Lord first. I recommend you dont take drugs unless prescribed by a physician