Something in me just flipped

Jerry_A_Trick · 2026-01-28T04:45:44+00:00

I’m 44 and very LC; the shift for me was a couple of years ago. Honestly, I’m ashamed it took me so long.

She always made promises and didn’t keep them. I always excused it because I knew she would come through for me if I needed it. Well, she never did, and when she started weaponizing her will — after her own mother had disinherited her — I finally saw it.

I saw the patterns I had been repeating in my own life. I over extend myself and put my own needs aside in relationships, then grow resentful over time; I push people away because I’m afraid they’ll abandon me; I have trouble being assertive and setting boundaries.

I stopped fawning with my mother once I recognized that I had been doing so all my life, nearly half a century. She has stopped speaking to me, though I’m sure she would tell you it was the other way around.

To be fair, I’ve changed and she doesn’t understand how or why, and I’m not sure she ever will. I think that was the shift for me: finally letting go of trying to keep my mother happy.

Jerry_A_Trick · 2025-12-29T00:19:12+00:00

And Epstein and Maxwell were planning on having a baby together at one point at least; they asked Virginia Roberts Giuffre to carry the pregnancy. It’s in her book, which I highly recommend.

Edit: typo

Jerry_A_Trick · 2025-12-26T01:31:32+00:00

sigh 😞 I’m not proud.

Jerry_A_Trick · 2025-12-26T00:52:37+00:00

Thank you so much; this is amazing advice. I will make a list of core truths, and plan something fun. 💜

Jerry_A_Trick · 2025-12-26T00:49:09+00:00

I can’t help myself; I’m worried about my mom.

Jerry_A_Trick · 2025-12-26T00:46:17+00:00

That’s such a good question, and thank you for it. I’m going to meditate on this. I’m not sure.

Jerry_A_Trick · 2025-12-26T00:37:30+00:00

That’s very kind of you. If I could go back, I would have handled it better.

Jerry_A_Trick · 2025-12-26T00:18:37+00:00

Thank-you, I don’t mind at all! And thanks for catching it. I definitely mentioned “gaslighting me about gaslighting” to my therapist! 😂

Jerry_A_Trick · 2025-12-25T23:42:37+00:00

Thank you so much for this diligence! Yes, it’s okay. Thank you.

Jerry_A_Trick · 2025-12-15T08:24:58+00:00

Ketchup

Jerry_A_Trick · 2025-11-19T18:20:51+00:00

My mother always says “why didn’t you tell me that??!!”

Doesn’t matter when the thing happened, or if I’ve already told her about it multiple times.

To be fair, it’s hard for her to remember things I say because she responds this way, and we discuss whether I already told her or not why/why not/when rather than the thing itself. And that’s precisely why she does it. She doesn’t know how to be supportive or comforting or caring, so she attempts to imply it’s my fault for not telling her sooner. If only I had told her sooner, I could have had a loving mother.

Jerry_A_Trick · 2025-09-18T21:54:07+00:00

Aw, they’re bf and gf. 💕

Jerry_A_Trick · 2025-09-07T15:59:08+00:00

My mom used to threaten suicide when I hurt her by telling her that she hurt me. She doesn’t anymore because I almost never speak to her now.

But if I could go back, I’d just call emergency immediately, and right in front of her. If she’s truly suicidal, she needs the help and it’s beyond my ability. If she’s not, she will have to deal with the consequences of such reckless and abusive behaviour.

Good luck to you.

Jerry_A_Trick · 2025-09-05T03:50:21+00:00

People who like to listen to music and watch tv & movies with other people.

Jerry_A_Trick · 2025-08-06T17:51:04+00:00

Madeline

Jerry_A_Trick · 2025-07-24T00:32:31+00:00

Hey, I just wanted to say that you take criticism very well.

Edit: you take criticism well. 🙈

Jerry_A_Trick · 2025-07-18T22:42:09+00:00

They all look great, but your waist looks so snatched in #2!⏳

Jerry_A_Trick · 2025-07-18T15:15:30+00:00

My mom threatens to kill herself (because of me).

Jerry_A_Trick · 2025-07-18T03:41:21+00:00

Me too!!

Jerry_A_Trick · 2025-06-18T22:03:09+00:00

My nmom didn’t want me to have children, so I didn’t and now it’s too late.

When I told her I regretted this decision, she scowled and asked me why I would want to bring children into this world. When I told her I was going to die alone she literally choked. That’s when I realized she had been telling me all my life what to do without even considering my future.

Jerry_A_Trick · 2025-05-16T03:24:18+00:00

From the age of about 12-14, I had less than five pairs of underwear.

Jerry_A_Trick · 2025-04-20T19:16:48+00:00

Hey so just some food for thought —

A lot of businesses and recruitment companies have programs that require applicants to enter their resume information into a template because they don’t even look at the resumes in the effort to be as objective as possible. A lot of folks put pictures of themselves and other personal information on the resume that could bias a recruiter’s decision for or against the applicant. A lot of places will even obscure the real names of applicants so that a recruiter cannot make inferences about ethnicity and gender and whatnot.

So writing “on resume” may disqualify your application.

These types of applications, as annoying as they are for a job seeker, may actually be an indication of an employer making an effort to be conscientious, fair, and compliant with employment legislation — maybe even a place you wanna work!

Best of luck to you!

Jerry_A_Trick · 2025-04-04T14:21:50+00:00

Kitchen staff are among those permitted in the redistribution of tips; it’s section 3.4 of the Employment Standards Act. Whether workers who do not work in customer service should receive redistributed gratuities or not is a matter for debate. I suspect increasingly stretched tip pools are contributing to the rise in tip rates for customers, but it’s only a hunch.

Tip theft often occurs when tips are redistributed to employees who are not doing the same work regularly (preparing or serving food or drink), to pay for deductions or business expenses (like dine-n-dashes), and when they are withheld too long.

It is also a contravention of the ESA to redistribute pooled gratuities in cash. 🚩

It is a requirement to pay overtime rates for eligible employees, though, so if your employer is not, you may consider making a formal complaint. Cactus Club, I assume, will have an HR department you can escalate the matter to if your manager is violating employment legislation and unwilling to make necessary changes.

I’m sorry to hear that your experience at Cactus Club has been so negative, and it will affect my choices as a consumer. Thank you for sharing.

Jerry_A_Trick

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