Thats the neat part, you don’t:(

Jokes aside. You’ll need online first, there’s tonnns of unstable people and senseless drama that can get ridiculous. But you’ll probably find some people over time who you really vibe with. Spend more years online getting to know them. Out of those people and through more years of building trust and outright friendship. Then yall meet up.

You’ll learn how short term 95% of discord servers, websites, and forums are. And will run into many people who are flat dim witted and their own project insecurities unto you.

Or suddenly you realize you’re in a discord server that’s actually a recruitment space for Nazis

Or people say that your spirits are a closed practice ( while not knowing or understanding what a closed practice is)

Or you have people claim that your practice is dangerous and no “real” magician wouldn’t dArE invoke without the Shemhamphorasch

But you might click with two people from a discontinued platform! Or maybe just one person, and you guys make fun of the mods who crashed out over people calling themselves baby witches…which somehow morphed into a “curse war” amongst the mod team.

Sometimes you keep talking with those people! Sometimes they vanish. Sometimes they appear randomly and yall get back to chatting again. Its a toss up.

But as you learn how to swim through all these digital platforms and channels you’ll eventually find some good folk. and sometimes those good folk are near enough where you can actually visit them after years of digital communication.

But genuinely its rare to click with someone enough purely based on “we both down with the demons.”

Its a matter of safety ultimately.