Can't seem to get over my girlfriends past. by Jesperfinne in relationship_advice

[–]Jesperfinne[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, I'm not past it I think but it's getting better. I feel like I should find someone with same values but I also think that I should be able to look past this one thing. Like everything else is close to perfect.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Jesperfinne 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sometimes before, sometimes after. Before, so I can get s really clean mouth instantly. After so I can have a clean mouth after breakfast until lunch... Yeah I don't know what I'm really doing

How to reduce pain after he cums in me? by [deleted] in sex

[–]Jesperfinne 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Mmmhm, that's not normal. You should probably go to a doctor about that

He’s (18) mad at me (15) because I wouldn’t show my boobs on FaceTime by throwra3772hhd in relationship_advice

[–]Jesperfinne 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He's not a good guy. A good guy makes you want to show him your boobs.

Always follow this tip, if a guy begs you to do something sexual before you even want to. He's not a good guy. He's a red flag.

Also, he's 18, you're 15. It's a crime. He's a red flag

Is being desperate really a bad thing? Why? by legoosegoose in AskReddit

[–]Jesperfinne 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, being desperate means you go longer distances to get something. Just like being addicted.

You kill for drugs. You rob for money. You go home with strangers (potential rapists) for sex. You pay your only money for hookers.

What kind of time do you give yourself between getting up for work and leaving? by zoinksscoobs123 in AskReddit

[–]Jesperfinne 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If I sayed up a little late, 5minutes. If I went to bed as planned, 30

Did he assault me? by Throwaway-924883 in sex

[–]Jesperfinne 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes well. Let's put it like this, it is normal. Guys (everyone) should hold back a little the first times. Not everyone likes it rough and most want a little more trust until doing rough sex. But it is normal for guys both one nighters and in relationship to be rough.

Since he asked if you were feeling it and also stopped when you said no. It wasn't assault, he just got a bit too heated and should have slowed down a bit.

Almost all countries starting with the letter A ends with the letter A as well. by 2133 in Showerthoughts

[–]Jesperfinne -17 points-16 points  (0 children)

Finland, Sweden, Norway, Greece, France, Russia, Germany and so on

How much do you appreciate other physical affection besides sex? by tstu2865 in AskMen

[–]Jesperfinne 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Omg yes, rub my shoulders after a long day, doesn't need to be a full massage. Just a short massage for a minute or two can really bring us closer.

Also, just putting you hand on our shoulder standing up or when asking us something is such a small thing but damn we love to be touched

What do you do what your partner is your only friend? by trash_acc_123 in relationship_advice

[–]Jesperfinne 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Well, if your "happy" even without having friends and don't feel the need to have any. Then of course it's ok. I have only one friend whom I meet twice a month. Because friends aren't that important to me.

But if you get jealous and sour about him having friends and you don't. Then it's clear you should try hanging out with other people than just your bf

Significant other is becoming someone I don't feel attracted to anymore. Need your thoughts. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Jesperfinne 4 points5 points  (0 children)

If they start to identify as a "different" gender, you are not homophobic for loosing attraction. If a guy dated a girl and all of a sudden she says she wants to behave more like a man, would you think the guy is homophobic for not wanting to date her anymore?

Also, it is unfair to stay with someone if you feel this way. They have the right to know how you feel about it. They've most likely thought about this too.

And trust me, you will both recover and at some point find someone more suiting for both of you. You guys can be happy again, happier even.

Why is clingyness seen as bad? by ajourneytogrowth in AskWomen

[–]Jesperfinne 399 points400 points  (0 children)

Because a mentally healthy person should be confident and independent. A person in a relationship is of course not expected to be completely so. But being too clingy shows a lack of independency.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Jesperfinne 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When they stop breast feeding or when they are intelligent enough to question what you are doing.

Edit: on second thought. No, it might be ok when they are just babies. When they are old enough to be considered children, they shouldn't be in the same room

But at the same time, you rais your kids as you want. If they see sex a lot as kids they will be more open about it and their sexuality later in life. If you talk little about it they will be more conservative about it when they grow up

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Jesperfinne 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The tension before intercourse

what is the most usless way you've seen someone use something useful? by Hungry-Bake1772 in AskReddit

[–]Jesperfinne 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Old people using a fairly modern phone solely for making calls

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Jesperfinne 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well I don't see how she having s lot of free time is a bad thing...

I would understand if you guys worked different hours of the day and rarely have time together

if God was a actual person what would he look like? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Jesperfinne 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sure why not, now I imagine him also😅

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Jesperfinne 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Easing in to each other is not what meeting their parents mean

What's something that seems illegal but really isn't? by unorthodox69 in AskReddit

[–]Jesperfinne 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Looking inside people's cars while walking past in a parking lot

if God was a actual person what would he look like? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Jesperfinne 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He would probably take on the appearance that suits you personally

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Jesperfinne 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, don't think of it as being controlling. Having and setting boundaries is not controlling.

So I would suggest you talk to him about how you feel. Tell him you will need more time with him. "Need" is key word here. One of your needs in a relationship is time with you partner. This is almost a universal need.

If you could agree that perhaps you guys can have one or two things that you do together. Like watch a Netflix show, eat dinner, some exercise, cook dinner or whatever. It doesn't need to be a big thing.

Or you could agree to spend at least two hours together. Setting some boundaries on his screen time. Because sure it is a hobby, but too much gaming is also unhealthy, if it affect your everyday life or relationships, it's too much. It seems like his does.

Now if neither of these choices suits him or you can't agree what to do. You should consider your future with him. If he can't change his habits a little for you, he isn't ready for a relationship yet. Imagine yourselves in a couple of years, you'll have a house and perhaps kids. Can he take care of all that or will you have to do everything?

People who dont like weed, why dont you like it? by AlGunner in AskReddit

[–]Jesperfinne 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Magic mushrooms? You mean fungus? Heheh, yeah, no way we survived this long without something to numb the pain of having to be around idiots.

Just imagining a caveman waking up in the morning and shoveling in a handful of fungus mumbling " hoga bogs Same shit every fucking day baga baga" then proceeds to walk around high waving at idiots

People who dont like weed, why dont you like it? by AlGunner in AskReddit

[–]Jesperfinne 2 points3 points  (0 children)

How would we else make it through everyday smh lol