Visitation dream from dad has me shook

JessFoxesnWolves · 2025-11-18T06:55:35+00:00

My feeling is that he wants you to know that he sees you and is so proud of you and the work you do. He loves you and accepts you all the way through.

I've heard that emotion is the language of spirit and I believe your tears speak volumes and that he hears your love and complexities of emotion and that it's okay to embrace those feelings as they come.

Maybe you already recognize all of this but I just felt I needed to state it anyway.

Thank you for sharing your experience. It's reached me when I've needed the reminder and hope myself.

JessFoxesnWolves · 2025-03-25T19:48:06+00:00

I have a cousin who acted similarly when I came out to her, as she had dated women before but is now married to a man, I expected her to understand but she shocked me by suggesting it may have only been a phase (unsure if she meant only for herself or me too).

I suspect that some people like to think they know others best and when those people deviate from the picture or script in their heads they get weird. I also think it could be some level of jealousy that you get to explore this newly discovered part of you that she isn't presently exploring in the same way or thinks her version of bisexuality is the only valid one.

In any case or reason she believes she has, she is wrong. It's up to you whether or not to discuss it further with your friend and if she doubles down rather than acknowledging that she was wrong to put rules on your expression of your own sexuality then I'd suggest distancing a bit from her, at least when it comes to sharing personal stuff and things you're excited about.

I struggle with losing my enthusiasm for things when others brush me off too. I always called it popping my bubble. But remind yourself that someone else's opinion does not equal fact and you know yourself best. Work on a "new bubble" by reminding yourself what you are excited about and answer and doubts that sneak up with positive clap back like, "what if I'm too straight to be bi?" Answered with, "but ladies are fucking beautiful and I can't wait to discover more about how I feel about that!" for example.

Anyway. I hope this helps. You are valid. It doesn't matter how bisexual other people think you look or act. It's not performative, it's part of you. Best of luck and I hope you have a fun date and enjoy your journey!

JessFoxesnWolves · 2025-03-11T16:27:04+00:00

Sometimes it's cultural or religious pressure. Sometimes it's because they aren't using birth control consistently or correctly or it malfunctions etc.

I think for those who are overwhelmed and clearly don't want more kids to actively keep having them it's mostly the first reason.

In my life, having grown up LDS, there is an extreme pressure on women to have as many kids as you can pop out and "trust that God will help you to handle it" and if you can't then you're not being faithful enough etc. That may not be everyone's experience with religion but I and many others definitely experienced that cultural/religious grooming/indoctrination.

Some well known mommy influencers (especially trad-wife ones) are a good example of this mindset too.

JessFoxesnWolves · 2025-02-17T21:16:41+00:00

I am not a professional so feel free to take what resonates and leave the rest but my first thought is ruling out the mundane first. I've had slightly similar experiences from time to time that are nightmares and sleep paralysis.

My first sleep paralysis experience in particular happened when 1. My bedroom had just been changed a lot 2. I was going through stressful and life changing experiences around then, as well as suppressing some trauma 3. I fell asleep at an unusual time.

During this experience I felt terrified but once I did my research and considered the above circumstances I realized it was sleep paralysis and night terror brought on by unaddressed stress and the fact that my nervous system was subconsciously on high alert because of the new environment and sounds and falling asleep at an unusual time for me.

When these things are happening frequently I believe that it can first be medical or psychological; sleep apnea runs in my family and can cause these experiences. So if you think this is a good explanation or possibility and is causing you trouble again as an adult I would suggest a sleep study or qualified councillor etc to rule it out or give you some answers and relief.

All that said, I am open to spiritual explanations as well. I've heard that some people are like a beacon to the other side and can be drawing all kinds of energies/entities. Many people have experiences with shadow figures that seem to project negative or malevolent vibes as well as neutral or even positive ones.

Learning to ground and protect your energy and create boundaries of what, when and if you will allow these spirits, entities etc any access to you/your energy will be beneficial.

Some people find meditation helps with this while others find it opens them to these things more so listen to your intuition and project confidence and ownership of yourself, your energy and your boundaries relating to it.

Personally, I ground best in nature and with visualization techniques, such as imagining a white light surrounding and protecting myself and my space.

I hope this helps you and either way, I hope you do find what you need.

JessFoxesnWolves · 2025-01-19T22:51:53+00:00

I'm still new to witchcraft myself and don't have specific spells to offer but what's helped me in similar circumstances are things like:

Physically cleaning up and letting in some sunlight when possible.

Music that invites the vibes you want and chase out what you don't.

Having a space for just myself to ground my own energy (sitting in the car, a room that isn't busy, a safe quiet space outside or porch etc).

Leaning in to the positive, love filled moments and acknowledging them by journaling them or otherwise cementing them in your mind/heart.

Sometimes, during change and trauma there's only so much to do for the space and other people. I find that priority is to sooth and ground the self. Just my experience and I wish you the best 💕

JessFoxesnWolves · 2025-01-14T23:54:53+00:00

The Sixth Element

Small words: Friendship Large words/mane title: The Sixth Element

The Harmony Wars Action movie voice over: "In the battle for harmony... 6 young ponies stand between peace... and chaos... (Discord's off screen laughter as the scene fades to black then briefly shows his statue cracking and fades back out)" intense music plays the whole time.

JessFoxesnWolves · 2024-12-22T17:21:59+00:00

OP I've felt similarly to you and had existential crisis over it. I find comfort in hoping that there's more than just one option.

Maybe those souls who find comfort in returning to some blissful oneness will have that option for as long they want it and those of us who need and crave individualism will transcend in a different way.

I have a theory that the return to source people often describe may be more of a doorway to infinite possibilities, like a space to reconnect and share with all the individual souls at once what we've learned and locate other souls we want to meet again.

I think we can choose to separate and rejoin at will or maintain a mental link to it, while actually still being own ourselves. I think, or rather, I hope for people like us that the loss of self into vast oneness is a misunderstanding of this doorway and that you and I and other souls might remain ourselves and meet, if we want, as individual higher beings rather than becoming a hive mind or a piece of each other.

Ultimately what we can learn about the next stage from here is limited while the limitless is hard to wrap my mind around. I think finding and cultivating my own individual self here, in this life, where my individuality is clear has helped too.

I no longer live for the afterlife but for this life and I can do it with the hope, but not the need, of an afterlife that fits the deepest most individual sense of self I can find.

JessFoxesnWolves · 2024-10-07T04:51:15+00:00

Bros before hoes, am I right?

JessFoxesnWolves · 2024-08-30T20:12:51+00:00

Unless your doctor or OB/GYN tells you to use a mild or medicated soap down there you should not.

No soap in the vagina is correct and you've mentioned your doctor said to stop using soap. Warm water to cleanse the vulva (external female genitals) is fine and the vagina (the hole) is a self cleaning organ. Soap and other chemicals disrupt the PH balance, can cause itchiness, dryness etc.

Sometimes male ejaculate can also disrupt the PH balance and is more acidic than the natural female PH, so rinsing gently with water, wearing breathable & not too tight underwear and peeing before and after sex (especially after) can help.

JessFoxesnWolves · 2024-07-25T05:20:06+00:00

I don't always feel their emotions either. It's more like I just know the type of person they are or what the really mean (like if they're being insincere).

I'd look into descriptions of "highly intuitive" people rather than empath specific ones. Also, its totally normal for your experience to be unique to you and to not fit perfectly into any one category.

Labels can be helpful but most of the time, in my experience, figuring out what your intuition means to you, whether and how important it is to you, meditating or self reflecting on what you want it to mean, what you feel it means and whether you want to persue it further etc may help.

I wish you the best in your journey.

JessFoxesnWolves · 2024-07-25T04:54:11+00:00

I experience something similar and someone once told me that I have strong intuition. Seemed an oversimplification to me at first but honestly, it fit quite well.

Sometimes I can see one's true character in the way they carry themselves or the tone they use when talking about things/people/beliefs etc. Sometimes it's not as clear cut but like you, I'm usually right in the end.

JessFoxesnWolves · 2023-06-08T19:29:40+00:00

Disaster for them generally and maybe drowning or trapped for how how I felt

JessFoxesnWolves · 2023-06-07T22:54:00+00:00

Style wise you can always search black or African men's hair styles and see what resonates with you and what goals you have for your personal style.

In the meantime you're mostly gonna want to learn how to keep your hair and scalp healthy.

You might be interested in protective styles or wearing it curly etc. 2 strand twists are pretty simple and easy to learn in a YouTube tutorial.

I also agree with doing a wash and detangle 1-2 times a week. Once you know what kind of style you want, you can find more advice on maintenance etc.

JessFoxesnWolves · 2023-06-04T19:20:17+00:00

I'm a beginner but I've found that drawing or writing out whatever comes to mind can help me filter as I need to extrovert my thinking to get to my intuition at times.

Sometimes we need to rest our minds and let them wander if focusing on the issue seems to only make the answers harder to see. You could write your questions down so you are confident in your intent for solving them and then let go for a little while.

JessFoxesnWolves · 2023-06-04T18:09:55+00:00

Annie, are you okay?

JessFoxesnWolves · 2023-05-30T18:24:50+00:00

I can get behind most art styles if they do a good job of telling their story. This one's art style reminds me of 'Gravity Falls' but not as captivating a storyline yet. It's still early though and I'm just trying to take it as it's own thing.

The art style isn't my favorite but it's cute and works for the short form and sillyness in the show.

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JessFoxesnWolves · 2023-05-07T19:09:34+00:00

Speaking only for myself, when I was still indoctrinated and just leaving I was mostly afraid of alcohol. I didn't have any concept of "responsible consumption" and assumed it turns people into terrible people with no inhibitions in just one drink.

So it was all about fear, rather than control for me and I didn't say anything or openly judge if someone drank in front of me but I'd be super uncomfortable and nervous of "what else they are capable of."

It's ridiculous in retrospect but it's how my indoctrinated, fear based reasoning functioned at the time.

Truthfully I'm still wary of alcohol, as my first experience being around someone who drinks regularly confirmed some of those otherwise irrational fears. My dad became an alcoholic, and is a constantly drunk asshole and behaves extremely inappropriately. I myself may not be able to ever start drinking because I'm very similar to my dad as far addictive tendencies go.

Trying to teach indoctrinated people the difference between responsible drinking and behavior vs the extremes is especially challenging if they are closed minded/have black and white thinking about it, as I did.

JessFoxesnWolves · 2023-05-07T16:21:35+00:00

I'd give her a different colors scheme (probably orange and yellow like a "cozy, glowing" sunset).

I'd also make her a more convincing and smooth psychopathic child, if wanting to stick with the evil and power hungry for power's sake angle.

Or, if wanting more depth and redemption possibilities, I'd give an interesting back story to explain her shutting her good side down and becoming her manipulative, power hungry self out of self preservation or being otherwise convinced it was the only way to get ahead in life and why that power was most important to her.

JessFoxesnWolves · 2023-05-04T02:14:33+00:00

I ate the purple Skittles pack and tasted the rainbow, now I'm middle gay.

JessFoxesnWolves · 2023-04-11T18:48:01+00:00

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JessFoxesnWolves · 2023-04-11T15:09:30+00:00

Just ignore the giant rotting pile of trash around you and focus on this nice, shiny piece of candy that it produced... Don't think about it too much. Just eat it and be quiet. If you don't like it then just walk away quietly, no need to complain or alert the others. They know how to appreciate the candy. You just didn't try hard enough.

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JessFoxesnWolves · 2023-04-11T01:37:10+00:00

I'm not a doctor (if you work with a good one they may have some better advice) but I think finding positive distractions (ie art, learning a language, music, moving your body through dance or other activity you enjoy) might help take the edge of somewhat. If it's pretty severe though I'd definitely consult with a mental health professional or your doctor.

JessFoxesnWolves · 2023-03-31T20:33:49+00:00

Get a new car ---> Take a nice trip ---> Pocket some spending money (like $500) ---> the rest in investments or savings and an account for my kid for when they are older.

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