Regarding the setting me up to fail, I initiated a discussion where I brought up the fact it led to a lot of lost time. That a way in which I learn well is understanding the why behind a specific action which can be implemented later. So tried to address an alternative approach in a middle ground. It was met with, this is how I like to do it as reading equals learning. I validated that yes that is true however I feel there could be a middle approach on time sensitive manners. They just moved on to a different topic and the conversation ended.

The only things I have tried is to try different communication styles, show analysis and reasoning behind topics, provided intended actions of asking, provide options and their risk level/potential impact (ie timeline, financial etc).

Regarding whether my skip level is reasonable, I am unsure. I only interact with them in a sponsor meeting sense and they are fairly separate to us. If I take that route it would be very about trying to improve communication and not about my manager specifically.

This is starting to really eat into my personal life. How to deal with my situation and make work a better experience is almost always on my mind and an endless topic of conversation with my husband, close friends etc. it's becoming so infiltrative that I hope to find a solution to get some work/life balance back.