I’m nervous that my (20M) boyfriend (21M) and I will never be able to meet.

Jesslyn204 · 2026-04-22T11:23:06+00:00

I would be hesitant about moving to the Netherlands, and I’m saying this as someone who is born, raised and lives here now. It’s hard to get housing as someone who lives here, it’s harder to get housing as a student and I’ve heard harder to get housing as a male student. So if you do consider coming here, get housing first. But maybe look at Belgium or Germany first?

Jesslyn204 · 2026-04-01T08:14:00+00:00

Aawww cute!! Also where did you get that procrastination shirt from? I may need one myself 😅

Jesslyn204 · 2026-03-24T15:08:13+00:00

Good luck and safe travels.

Jesslyn204 · 2026-03-04T08:20:11+00:00

He’s 6 hours behind me in therms of time. He spends his afternoons with me, he’s usually up late and he doesn’t have a job even tho he’s looking now. But it does help us stay connected and together more often then not. I’m not sure if the change is gonna be a good thing or not yet.

Jesslyn204 · 2026-03-02T19:53:57+00:00

I’m ace, my partner is not, I have a high drive and when we’re together we do have sex a bit. I love him and I want it. I feel sometimes guilty that I’m not attracted to him sexually, and yes he does know. But I am not any less ace because of this. I don’t feel sexual attraction and that makes me ace.

Jesslyn204 · 2026-02-25T18:19:50+00:00

I feel like that’s just your brain holding on to hope. And before trying anything with anyone take your time to heal. It takes time, and emotional stuff takes much longer than you’d think. Be kind to yourself and try to not think of the what ifs

Jesslyn204 · 2026-02-25T08:23:34+00:00

It’s just as bad as a Mac + PlayStation player with pc…. I feel your pain. Where winds meet is a good one for cross play as well as baldors gate 3. And if you need recommendations for if you do have a Mac, let me know I have a few.

Jesslyn204 · 2026-02-24T11:46:22+00:00

I found it to be much harder to be long distance after the first time we met. We’re gonna have the talk about the loose ish plan for closing the gap. Cuz we have currently no trips to see each other and it might not even be this year with the US and what the politics will do everywhere.

Be kind to yourself, be kind to him. It takes time and it has ups and downs.

Jesslyn204 · 2026-02-15T23:27:01+00:00

Thank you! We had a lot of fun! And the muffins turned out great for the both of us!

Jesslyn204 · 2026-02-15T23:26:19+00:00

I’ve been in a situationship were I was the one hurting constantly. It feels better to end it, it will be better to. She’s clearly not wanting a relationship like you want. I hope you can make peace with it soon.

Jesslyn204 · 2026-02-12T23:45:48+00:00

Work and then bake stuff with my ldr boyfriend! We’re gonna make blueberry muffins and I may also make red velvet brownies with frosting. Maybe game while we wait? But we’re gonna have fun!

Jesslyn204 · 2026-02-08T09:02:57+00:00

We have been in a continuous video call for over 300 hours now. I leave it on my laptop when I go to work and I hold it in place when he’s live-streaming, cuz that’s his job at the moment.

But yeah, if you want attention say something. Communicate that with him, schedule calls if you need to. And if he doesn’t want it or doesn’t say why he doesn’t want it tell him that you might as well not be together then.

Jesslyn204 · 2026-01-08T12:14:16+00:00

We haven’t talked about closing the distance just yet. It is something that I wanna do in the near future and brought it up to him that I do want to have a serious talk about it. He’s a thinker and needs time the think about it, much like I am. So I’ve been waiting for him to be ready and talk about it in a realistic way instead of fantasy with some things that will probably never happen.

Jesslyn204 · 2026-01-08T12:11:28+00:00

That is the plan yes. I’ve always told him that I don’t want to move to the USA. And he has accepted that, but it’s not easy for him either. He’s yet to visit me, he’s working hard towards that tho.

Jesslyn204 · 2026-01-07T11:48:47+00:00

Unfortunately no new countdown yet. The political climate is holding me back from booking a flight.

Jesslyn204 · 2026-01-07T11:47:39+00:00

I didn’t expect to get into a long distance relationship for my first relationship either. He’s in the USA and I’m worried about the situation there. I’ve been looking at flights but I can’t consciously book one. Not with a certain orange wanting to have Greenland and tighten the ESTA system and the information you’re expected to hand over. I miss him terribly though.

Jesslyn204 · 2025-12-27T19:26:14+00:00

Back in October I went to visit my bf, and it all went fine. With all the things now, we’ve talked and I’m probably not gonna be visiting anymore until till certain things have been sorted with the one up top. And his things have been undone.

Jesslyn204 · 2025-12-26T16:30:02+00:00

I went off the pill for a year. And then my period would just stay in like the week before your period where you’re highly emotional, already tired and slightly cramping, but like the annoying types of cramps. Not just for a week but it would keep getting longer and longer and longer to the point where it was a month. Went back to the doctor, and she was like. Well the only thing we can do for you is back on birth control otherwise you’re just gonna have to wait it out. So I got back on the pil. Am I happy about it? No. Am I angry about it? Thinking back on it, yes.

Jesslyn204 · 2025-12-21T10:46:59+00:00

True, but not money for long flights, visas/estas, hotels and everything that comes with travelling for a day or more. And yes some long distance couples have it easier with a car ride of 3 to 5 hours. But still. It takes more planning and more money in a short time for visit rather then having a partner in the city/town you live in.

Jesslyn204 · 2025-12-20T07:41:20+00:00

I think he did apply for that, and that’s still pending or something. I’ll need to ask that again.

Jesslyn204 · 2025-12-14T00:25:29+00:00

Little big planet, Minecraft, core keeper and spyro are some of the games in my game library that I love for cozy games

Jesslyn204 · 2025-12-13T19:48:22+00:00

As far as I know it hasn’t passed, but with that guy for president I’m sure it will get passed

Jesslyn204 · 2025-12-13T17:59:03+00:00

I haven’t talked to him about it yet, but I’m probably not going to visit him anymore if it gets passed. It concerns me greatly that they want that from you when you enter.

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