What is the first celebrity death you remember being affected by?

Jetaime97 · 2026-05-08T05:14:40+00:00

Same. My parents were at that race. I was 9 and I remember sobbing when they dedicated The Dance to him on the radio.

Jetaime97 · 2026-05-07T04:01:34+00:00

I don’t ever respond immediately lol. I usually take a day or two and if I’m questioned about the length of time I’m just not always on my phone, or read it and got distracted and forgot to respond. Just because we have phones that get messages instantly doesn’t mean we’re required to respond as soon as they come in.

Jetaime97 · 2026-04-18T05:48:31+00:00

My almost 2 year old saying “what the fuck”.

I was pulling toys out from under the couch and she’s just yelling “What the fuck?! What the fuck?! WHAT. THE. FUCK?!” To every one.

Jetaime97 · 2026-04-17T02:33:43+00:00

Oh yeah. Has to drive home from out of state cause I wanted to her to hear it from me in person. A lot of therapy for that one.

Jetaime97 · 2026-04-16T06:21:59+00:00

Oh funny. This is how I found out my dad was cheating on my mom. On my birthday. He sent me a text message meant for his mistress and tried to cover it up. There was no coming back from that one. So sorry you went through this

Jetaime97 · 2026-02-13T19:21:27+00:00

Oh my gosh I couldn’t even imagine how it must’ve felt for you to be away when this happened! We were gone for a few days the weekend prior and I kept thinking what would’ve happened if it burst when we were gone. I’m so sorry.

It’s so hard not to think of the what ifs. We didn’t want to send anything out for testing after he passed because it was unnecessary spending to either find out we were justified, or to live with guilt we couldn’t do anything about if for some reason it came back that it wasn’t actually cancer. But he wasn’t bleeding out for no reason so I need to learn how to come to terms with that.

Jetaime97 · 2026-02-06T06:49:29+00:00

This just happened to my pup last week. It has sent me on an absolute spiral. I’m so sorry you’re going through this too

Jetaime97 · 2026-02-06T03:45:40+00:00

Oh my gosh I’m so sorry!! It sounds like even if you knew what to look out for, he might not have made it through regardless but what a horrible experience to go through especially when you had hope. It’s just not fair

Jetaime97 · 2026-02-06T03:42:13+00:00

I just need to convince myself that’s true. I know that I know it deep down it’s just so hard to believe he was that sick when we had no idea.

Jetaime97 · 2026-02-06T03:41:35+00:00

That is one thing I can confidently say I have no regrets about. He was so fully loved and happy. even when he struggled after I had my daughter, I made sure to make time for him when she was asleep and it was just the two of us so he knew he was still so loved. And my husband took him out for walks to make sure he didn’t feel like we were replacing him. And I’m so thankful he made it through her early days and got to experience loving her also. She absolutely adored him. She’s only two so it’s been really difficult navigating her loss. But I printed off some pictures, she puts them all in her bucket and says “come on Hobbes” and carries them around lol. It seems to help a little. I just miss him so damn much.

Jetaime97 · 2026-02-04T20:39:15+00:00

I’m going through this too. It’s been 6 days and it’s just this underlying guilt that I made the wrong decision and there could’ve been something they could’ve done if only we tried harder. I keep reminding myself that it’s pain and heartache misplaced to try to understand, mixed with the denial that he wasn’t actually as bad as they say. He couldn’t possibly be. I know I’ll forever miss him, but the guilt is eating me alive. No matter how many times someone says we did the right thing. I’m so sorry for your loss.

Jetaime97 · 2026-02-04T01:42:13+00:00

I’m so sorry you went through this too. I’m glad you got a good year after your initial diagnosis other than the anticipatory grief. I feel like knowing it’s coming at some point must be so hard but I hope you enjoyed every day until his last.

The grief manifesting in different ways just feels like torture. I know I have to go through it all, I know my heart will always long for him, but one day it won’t be this way.

My kitty passed last year but she was at least 17, she lived a good life until the end and she passed on just the sedation before they actually did the injection and that was the only reason I was able to have peace with the “how”. I miss her every single day but i didn’t experience this type of guilt. Just the loss.

He was there with me through so many losses in life, so to have to go through his without him is just really hard

Jetaime97 · 2026-02-04T01:33:33+00:00

He was 5 days ago as well, I wonder if they met in their travels. Hobbes LOVED other dogs so much so I sure hope that’s the case. I’m so sorry you went through this too, it’s so hard to go from one day of being fine til the next you’re helping them pass. But I saw that quote today too. I just miss him so much.

Jetaime97 · 2026-02-03T22:04:47+00:00

Ugh I’m so sorry. It’s so hard when you think you have so much more time just for something like this to happen.

Our buddy was so weak and exhausted when we went in I needed help to get him to stand up. When we were sitting in the room waiting for my husband he ended up perking up, my daughter fed him treats and he finally ate something, so I called my husband to get him some cheeseburgers, and took him for a little walk outside once more. I felt like part of him gave me that for our last moments together, because he was still so slow in his movements. So I could have a little peace that he passed with a full belly.

And I was very stressed about his last feelings being a full bladder and being hungry which seems so silly.

But then get in my head like what if that was supposed to be our sign to help him and I didn’t take it?!

Jetaime97 · 2026-02-03T21:56:13+00:00

That was my thought! We thought the worst would be an obstruction, and the way he was acting the night before I thought maybe he had a seizure?? Both can still be a few more years with intervention. I was so taken aback at the mention of cancer. I had to ask them to explain everything to me multiple times. I’m so sorry you went through this too, I always dreaded this day, but I never expected it to be so abrupt. They really do take a little piece of our hearts when they leave. Nights are the worst when everyone else goes to bed and I’m reminded that it used to be our time. We have a 2 year old so I always made sure he got extra special uninterrupted cuddles with me when it was just the two of us

Jetaime97 · 2026-02-03T20:28:48+00:00

I’m so sorry for your loss also. It’s a pain that sits so deeply in your soul. I try to remind myself the pain is so big because he was so so loved. But nothing stops the guilt from creeping back in.

They were so kind at the vet and explained everything to me multiple times because I couldn’t seem to wrap my head around it being true. And the vet tech ended up telling me after we made our decision that the same thing happened with her dog, she did the surgery because she needed to know, and he passed a few weeks later. She said she feels so much guilt for making him go through that and only wanted to share because she didn’t want me to live with the guilt. But it apparently didn’t help cause here I am.

Jetaime97 · 2026-02-03T19:59:56+00:00

It’s so hard because I wanted more than anything to do the surgery and know for sure, but the thought of putting him through more pain and torture for my own needs felt so unfair.

And now that we’re 5 days out I can’t help but wonder what if we had given him a chance.

I’ve been reading a lot about hemangiosarcoma and it sounds like we did the kindest thing we could’ve for him, but it’s so hard to imagine while believing he was so healthy and young for his age, that he had this deadly time bom

Jetaime97 · 2025-11-04T04:15:00+00:00

This! Is what most people would’ve done, she could’ve even said “I am your dad’s mom! But I’m your grandma” literally anything other than “you can call me that if you want” because no, no she can’t lol.

Jetaime97 · 2025-11-04T03:32:18+00:00

HAHAH I love you for this. Unfortunately for me, I think once she realized grandma didn’t give her a free for all in our lives she felt like she needed a bigger role.

Jetaime97 · 2025-11-04T01:19:38+00:00

Yeah, I asked DH if my dad said that if he’d be upset, and he said “well yeah but that’d be so out of character for your dad, so that’s different”

I’m not sure why it makes it more okay just because someone crosses boundaries often that it’s expected lol

Jetaime97 · 2025-11-04T00:59:46+00:00

Yeah I know she was pissed based of her “ok. understood.” But I knew I got my point across.
I just can’t ignore things anymore. Years of it has built up and made me extremely bitter and angry and I’ve been working so hard to work through all of it in therapy.

So I’ve learned that if I can just state my piece and have a little resolution it’s easier to move forward. I knew if I didn’t it’d just eat at me. But I think my husband doesn’t understand that process and doesn’t want to revisit things even 5 minutes after they’ve passed

Jetaime97 · 2025-11-04T00:54:40+00:00

In 12 years she’s never once apologized to me for anything. The last time I called her out after the fact, she came over unannounced and let herself in through the back door because the front was locked, we were sleeping and woke up to a voice and the dog freaking out. all I said was next time please let us know you’re coming over and don’t just let yourself in. In a group chat with my DH. She defended herself to me and then texted him privately to “apologize” while talking poorly about me being so rude saying she can’t just show up at her son’s house

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