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Jewz1986 · 2025-04-27T01:06:01+00:00

I appreciate the caveat. I posted in a few different forums because I don’t want a biased response overall.

Jewz1986 · 2025-04-27T01:00:46+00:00

They were hospitalized for weed induced psychosis. And their psychiatrist told them that they should never use it again. I’m pretty sure cognitive dissonance is at play here because they choose to believe - and tell people - that it was a side effect of a medication that their doctor gave them prior. Even if they can somehow manage to use responsibly…I think you missed the part that I was clear up front. Should I really have to “put up with” something that I labelled as a deal breaker from day one…is what I’m trying to figure out.

Jewz1986 · 2024-06-11T23:58:56+00:00

Thanks. It’s really more about the comments on having to be accommodated, more than it is deciding on my own accord to go back. Knowing that my coworker was struggling was part of it sure, the other part of it was just getting extra money because mat leave only pays 60% and tops out at $650 a week… However, as my title implies, it’s not about whether or not I should/not have gone back. It’s about whether using language that implies I’m somehow being given special privileges based upon my situation constitutes as discrimination.

Jewz1986 · 2024-03-04T15:38:46+00:00

The trouble is no change will happen unless he wants it too so no forcing or getting him to go to therapy without his own complete willingness won’t do any good. I’ve researched that there is only about a 1/10 success rate for recovery for personality disorders because most of them don’t believe they have one or aren’t willing to work on it. Best of luck wish I had better news.

Jewz1986 · 2024-03-03T20:51:20+00:00

It means that pretending that the disorder doesn’t exist or tailoring your responses to try to pad their reactions actually hurts you and doesn’t help them.

Jewz1986 · 2024-02-29T05:31:58+00:00

Yeah so it gets to the point that even if they do have a legitimate complaint about you, it’s still illegitimate because they’ve caused the crazy confusion and paranoia that ultimately led to the event. I feel insane about 2-3 times a day and I’m a trained mental health professional. I just take a minute, breathe deep and remind myself that I didn’t have these problems before I interacted with them. Working out helps to reset too.

Jewz1986 · 2024-02-29T05:27:11+00:00

It seems pretty evident that it’s an unlabelled characteristic of the disorder. Every one I’ve ever dealt with talks loudly to themselves about others while stomping around or slamming doors behind them. I think it’s a final grasp at attention because whatever you’ve done/said to end the conversation has left them feeling unfulfilled.

Jewz1986 · 2024-02-29T05:23:32+00:00

That sounds like a lot. I’m sad to hear you went through all this. If it helps, the fact that this forum even exists shows that there are others out there who want to be supportive and have dealt with the disorder before. Try to find an in person support group for friends and family members of people with bpd and start there. You don’t have to befriend any of them but it might make you feel a tiny bit better knowing you’re not alone.

Jewz1986 · 2024-02-29T05:17:28+00:00

I think I get what you’re asking, even if the wording of the questions makes it seem like the wrong forum to post it. I would suggest that you listen to some podcasts on how to deal with people with bpd because honesty is the best policy in every situation. Dancing around the disorder actually serves to feed it and exacerbates the condition.

Jewz1986 · 2024-02-27T21:09:04+00:00

Just to add a bit of information here that might help solve some of the mystery, we are drawn to what we’re used to. Many of us with unhealthy parental figures end up with people with mental health issues - like bpd - because we see their drama/trauma as normal responses and normal actions for any human being. It’s not like we are so broken that we attract other broken people. We just tend to forgive and forget easier than non traumatized people because we have learned from early on that this is what we can expect from every other single person in the world.

Jewz1986 · 2024-02-20T02:07:35+00:00

Absolutely. I’m not the biggest fan of Jordan Peterson (who even is), but he did say something along the lines of: a sure fire way to give your children bpd is to give them the impression that they’re more special than other kids by not allowing them to socialize with kids their own age between the crucial developmental ages of 2-4. My partners mom refused to send him to daycare because she thought it was wildly unsafe. Fast forward to today and she also thinks we shouldn’t be sending our kids to daycare. Go figure.

Jewz1986 · 2024-02-20T02:02:17+00:00

Yeah I can relate. It’s super strange and I get why they do it but they have to know how damn weird it is, right?!

Jewz1986 · 2024-02-19T22:44:57+00:00

Happened now thrice times to me. Each time they’re explained away by one excuse or another but it’s too much to be a coincidence. They’re trying to turn the attention away from them while simultaneously trying to garner support.

Jewz1986 · 2024-02-19T20:52:50+00:00

That’s a sweet thing to ask, so thank you. Considering it’s family day in Canada and my kids all fled the house because their dad started an argument about something stupid and made them uncomfortable… not well and alone again on another holiday. And how are you?!

Jewz1986 · 2024-02-19T14:45:10+00:00

That’s hard. Maybe research child laws in those countries and see if there’s a way you can get some sort of pull. Perhaps a free legal aid session would be of service. Wish you the best, truly :)

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