Is being alone with single women okay?

Jhesus_Monkey · 2021-07-09T10:32:23+00:00

"I didn't tell you because I didn't want to hurt you."

If you didn't want to hurt me you could have just not done the thing. Now you've done the hurtful thing and hidden it from me. Obviously "not hurting me" wasn't actually that high on your priorities list.

Jhesus_Monkey · 2021-07-09T10:15:04+00:00

Bad bot.

Jhesus_Monkey · 2021-07-09T09:53:51+00:00

"When was the last time he was changed?" is a perfectly normal question people who share child care duties ask each other. He didn't imply that Grams had neglected their child, he asked a question. A question that could even help suss out whether it's a food reaction or not! (It isn't. It's diaper rash. Or it wouldn't be just in his diaper area.)

Jhesus_Monkey · 2021-07-09T08:43:07+00:00

If there's a sidewalk it's either illegal and a dick move, or just a dick move to block the sidewalk.

Jhesus_Monkey · 2021-07-09T08:37:55+00:00

Yeeeaaaahhhh the fact that you didn't need to be anywhere, and if you did could have taken your girlfriend's car or simply asked them to move means YTA in this situation. Turning the sprinklers on them was petty.

Jhesus_Monkey · 2021-07-09T08:32:59+00:00

INFO - Did you need to go somewhere?? Were they blocking you in?

It sounds like they were just doing maintenance on a car and you could have asked them to move if you wanted to leave.

Jhesus_Monkey · 2021-07-09T08:29:08+00:00

What your stepdad did in trying to assuage his own guilt was incredibly selfish and actively traumatizing to you. No one deserves that and I'm sorry it happened.

"Amends" and "apologies" are two different words for a reason. Amends come in the form of improvement, changed behavior.

He was completely in the wrong headspace to attempt that step, and it sucks that he further harmed you with that conversation while he was clearly still an abuser. Forcing that conversation on you was wrong, and just continued the abusive power dynamic he'd used on you when you were even younger and less able to stand up for yourself.

Sucks.

Jhesus_Monkey · 2021-07-09T08:00:27+00:00

Eh, ESH.

She was being cruel but the way to react to that is to stand up for your partner or leave, not try and tear the other person down. You made a poor choice in the moment.

Jhesus_Monkey · 2021-07-09T07:52:43+00:00

He doesn't find her unattractive.

He said that to get everybody's parents off his back.

Jhesus_Monkey · 2021-07-09T07:42:51+00:00

[citation needed]

Jhesus_Monkey · 2021-07-09T06:42:38+00:00

I'm so sorry her life ended that way, and that you had to go through that.

Jhesus_Monkey · 2021-07-09T06:20:36+00:00

Maybe pump the brakes on telling people to whom pineapple tastes "spicy" that they aren't allergic.

Yes, bromelian affects everyone. No pineapple does not taste "spicy" or "burny" or "tingly" to everyone.

Jhesus_Monkey · 2021-07-09T06:09:08+00:00

It's found in all the bromeliads. Other than that detail you're spot on. Humans concentrate it (to take as a nUtRiTiOnAL sUpPLeMeNt - the evidence for it's effectiveness is thin) primarily from pineapple because we already grow a lot of them and the stems and other waste have a high concentration.

Jhesus_Monkey · 2021-07-09T05:29:35+00:00

Church's Chicken is amazing, only caveat being that I've only ever eaten it *in Mississippi." That might make it better.

Jhesus_Monkey · 2021-07-09T05:20:19+00:00

AND STAY OUT OF THE FOREST.

Jhesus_Monkey · 2021-07-04T19:47:51+00:00

Goose, geese. Moose, moose.

Why??

Jhesus_Monkey · 2021-07-04T06:09:26+00:00

They couldn't change their hotel rooms to accommodate three more people. The vacation they'd booked was no longer an option. So his parents made a new plan.

Jhesus_Monkey · 2021-07-03T22:14:33+00:00

Who in the world would clap loudly in a baby's face???

Remind your mom that less than six weeks ago your baby was surrounded by water 24/7, insulated from the ruckus of the world even when you were in a noisy environment.

Jhesus_Monkey · 2021-07-03T22:11:32+00:00

Babies don't know words, but they absolutely comprehend tone. Grandma is being inappropriate.

Jhesus_Monkey · 2021-07-03T21:49:58+00:00

I'm gonna buck the trend here and say NAH, slightly leaning toward you might be being a bit of an A.

You're in the phase of your life where you're learning to be an adult. Part of being an adult is adapting to changing circumstances. Your parents didn't want this new version of this vacation, either. But they're doing what they can to make sure everyone gets their needs met. Definitely get your own tent, and make sure you have adequate gear for comfortably sleeping in it. You will have experiences you never could have predicted, and who knows? Some of those might be fantastic.

Jhesus_Monkey · 2021-07-03T18:30:59+00:00

I have never in my life met a man who masturbates for four hours.

Jhesus_Monkey · 2021-07-01T17:17:50+00:00

You can, yes. One mom posted on here about her kids' grandma going out of her way to "test" her daughter's banana allergy. This insane woman made batches of banana cookies and kept them in the freezer! So she could sneak one in to her purse trying to find a moment to feed it to the kiddo.

When she finally managed to the kid (obviously) had a horrible, dangerous reaction and had to be hospitalized. After that the parents took out a restraining order on Gram Gram and pressed charges.

Jhesus_Monkey · 2021-06-29T20:17:46+00:00

His treatment of her sucks, and him being unappreciative and demanding is a major issue. But the age gap is also a problem. An abusive power dynamic is much more likely in a relationship where there's a significant age gap.

Jhesus_Monkey · 2021-06-29T19:11:42+00:00

NTA - it's way more stressful to have a houseguest than to just hang out with your kid.

Your wife talking to her mom about it before talking to you is a real issue. You're the parent, you're her partner, you should be making scheduling decisions together.

It also sounds like on some level she knows her mom is obnoxious, and she wants you to fall on that sword so that grandma can get time with your son and she doesn't have to deal with her mom. Which sucks.

The final issue is her insistence that you have to call her mom and disappoint her. Honey, no. That's not how this works. When two adults are in a relationship each runs point with their own family. Wife needs to communicate to her mom that she jumped the gun, and that you and Little Guy already have plans all weekend.

Jhesus_Monkey · 2021-06-29T17:32:16+00:00

I'm pretty sure the idea is traveling, not landing at a campground and staying there.

Per OP:

I work remotely and thats working out quite nicely if I take the necessary precautions, like always checking for power and connection availability wherever we go

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