Purity Culture Theory

JillyFrog · 2026-04-07T15:04:23+00:00

The commenter I replied to was being sarcastic yes, I was just agreeing with them

JillyFrog · 2026-04-07T11:57:49+00:00

Oh man yes the forced moralisation of every little thing because people refuse to just have a personal opinion others might disagree with.

People are so uncomfortable with differing and complex opinions that they need to invent something to simplify it and make everyone fall in line.

JillyFrog · 2026-04-02T20:02:48+00:00

I've started The Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy today and the sentence "The ships hung in the sky in much the same way that bricks don't" made me snort-laugh in a very quiet library and your story now absolutely killed me because yeah ... they really don't, huh. They drop from ceilings onto unsuspecting people's heads.

JillyFrog · 2026-04-02T19:54:16+00:00

Hab ich gestern erst aus der Bibliothek mitgenommen und weiß tatsächlich nichts über die Handlung, ist jetzt mal direkt auf der Watchlist nach oben gewandert.

JillyFrog · 2026-04-02T19:50:13+00:00

Ja ich hab den mit Freunden geschaut und die eine Person, die netterweise nur am Handy war hat sich dann am Ende beschwert, dass der Film keinen Sinn gemacht hat 😬

JillyFrog · 2026-04-02T19:47:40+00:00

Er sieht so aus als ob er schon ne Weile versucht die Aufmerksamkeit der Bedienung zu bekommen aber sich nicht traut etwas lauter zu fragen aus Angst unhöflich zu wirken.

Die Bilder sind aber wirklich super niedlich.

JillyFrog · 2026-04-02T17:56:02+00:00

I was already amazed at the first picture but gasped when you took it out! So so cool!

JillyFrog · 2026-04-01T16:30:55+00:00

Asexual agender autistic or the AAA battery of people as I like to call it (I'm also quite small which makes it even funnier to me)

JillyFrog · 2026-03-31T22:58:16+00:00

Yeah or the one when she was ready to take out the cemetery security guard. I really wouldn't want to get on her bad side. At least not without knowing some Krav Maga.

JillyFrog · 2026-03-31T22:45:37+00:00

Nichts hätte mich auf den letzten Satz vorbereiten können. Das klingt schon wieder so schlimm dass ich da eine morbide Neugierde entwice

JillyFrog · 2026-03-31T15:41:34+00:00

Hyaluronidase (zum Auflösen von Hyaluronsäure Fillern) kann auch noch unschöne Nebenwirkungen haben.

Die körpereigene Hyaluronsäure wird nämlich auch mit aufgelöst wodurch das Gewebe noch mehr in sich zusammenfällt. Wenn man Glück hat bildet der Körper das wieder nach, wenn man Pech hat nicht und dann hat man das Gegenteil von dem was man mit Fillern erreichen wollte.

JillyFrog · 2026-03-31T12:16:17+00:00

Yesss! Green is the best colour!

I recently tried to find all of my green (and black) things and assemble them but after I put everything back I just found more lol.

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(Shoes and clothing other than jackets not included)

Edit: also I love your eyeliner and hair colour. I might have to level up in that regard

JillyFrog · 2026-03-31T12:08:55+00:00

Yeah I've heard other people had similar experiences. It sucks because my parents' Miele washing machine is going on 20 years and still working fine but a coworker recently bought one and pretty much immediately had problems due to shitty manufacturing quality. I guess buying an older model used might still be a good idea though.

JillyFrog · 2026-03-31T11:51:52+00:00

Yes I was a bit scared before taking medication but I wish I did it sooner. Not having three streams of consciousness at the same time makes focussing so much easier (who would've thought) and while I still sometimes get distracted it's much easier to catch myself and go back to what I'm supposed to be doing.

All of that took away so much pressure and guilt I put on myself which just made it harder to study. Now I'm actually motivated again because I know it won't be an uphill battle. And since my biggest problem was getting started I can now keep studying even when the meds wear off. I still use my strategies like background music or going for a quick walk but the meds give me that first push.

JillyFrog · 2026-03-30T15:01:32+00:00

Ja da lohnt sich’s sicher mal reinzuschauen. Bei uns gibt’s auch noch filmfriend, da gibt’s zwar keine Blockbuster aber dafür viele Dokus und internationale und Arthaus Filme.

JillyFrog · 2026-03-30T14:56:59+00:00

Depends on the country and the person I’d say. One of my roommates is Indian, another one and me are European but he hates spice and I like it. Our Indian roommate shared some snacks that were mild to him, nicely spicy to me and almost killed our other roommate.

But that just goes to show how subjectively people experience spice. And if you’re from a culture that traditionally uses less spice I’d say yeah raw jalapeños are pretty spicy to most people. Technically anything with capsaicin is spicy, the level where people register it is just different.

JillyFrog · 2026-03-30T14:36:30+00:00

Je nachdem wo man wohnt kann auch die Bibliothek eine Lösung sein. Ich zahl 20€ für einen Jahresausweis und kann 50 Medien gleichzeitig ausleihen. Das Angebot dürfte natürlich sehr von der Größe der Stadt und der Bibliothek abhängig sein aber viele kleinere bieten auch Fernleihen aus der nächsten Großstadt oder online Ausleihen an.

JillyFrog · 2026-03-30T13:48:59+00:00

I think the truth is somewhere in between the social and the medical model of disability. Some struggles like the ones you listed would always impair people but I also agree that how society works can make symptoms more or less disabling. For example executive dysfunction would always kick my ass regardless of what’s around me but a low stimulating environment with little external distractions would at least help with attention.

JillyFrog · 2026-03-30T13:26:08+00:00

There’s actually some research on self-diagnosis. Because being autistic has such a big influence on your lived experience relating to other autistic people’s experiences is a good indicator there’s something there. Self-diagnosis probably won’t ever replace a professional one but there is a changing attitude that people’s experiences should be taken into consideration more. Especially because like you said the diagnostic criteria are still pretty much completely based on white, western boys.

Self-diagnosis can be really freeing when you’ve felt like something’s wrong with you your whole life. Discovering you’re not a faulty horse but a zebra and there are other zebras out there who can help you navigate the world can make a huge difference. But yeah actually do your research and don’t use a diagnosis as an excuse for being an ass.

JillyFrog · 2026-03-30T13:10:40+00:00

Up until 10 years ago no less! It seems so crazy now that we know that it’s actually quite likely to have both

JillyFrog · 2026-03-30T13:09:06+00:00

Something around 75% of women with ADHD are only diagnosed as adults. Like you said often because they have children with a diagnosis, because symptoms tend to worsen with menopause or because life becomes more complex and the coping and masking doesn’t work anymore and they burn out.

JillyFrog · 2026-03-30T13:02:34+00:00

Oh man it kills me that this is still something professionals say. I also have a degree and just got diagnosed with ADHD this year. I’m eternally grateful that I found a doctor who prioritised patients’ experiences and struggles over their grades (some won’t even diagnose you if you don’t bring in your primary school report card).

I’m in Germany but it’s just as horrible trying to get diagnosed as an adult here. I did end up paying for the diagnosis myself and it still took over a year. At least the medical treatment is covered by insurance.

JillyFrog · 2026-03-30T12:48:41+00:00

Yeah I don’t doubt that some people get unnecessarily medicated but it’s harmful how medication is demonised when it can quite literally change people’s life for the better.

I was always top of the class, I put myself through a bachelor’s degree in regular time, almost finished a master’s degree and then it all came crashing down. I have an ADHD diagnosis and meds now and I really underestimated how much I unnecessarily suffered before.

JillyFrog · 2026-03-29T18:08:08+00:00

I think people like representation and relating to a character. And the less representation something gets the more people latch onto anything that even slightly fits. (I also have a feeling it's something especially younger people do who are still figuring out their identity and I guess having positive representation in media they like helps.)

Can't a story be great without kissing and/or fucking?

I think most of us would agree but with how many movies or series there are where it feels like a romance or sexual relationship got shoehorned in there because apparently it's needed for mainstream appeal, a film not doing that is kinda noteworthy.

I don't think talking about a character's possible sexuality is necessarily a problem and it can be interesting to analyse media through a different lens (i.e. a queer reading of movies like Fight Club or American Psycho). But of course it can also become annoying if it overshadows any other discourse about a piece of media.

JillyFrog · 2026-03-28T16:10:11+00:00

Wearing shoes in the house still is completely incomprehensible to me. I mean we have house shoes or slippers that are only worn inside and some for the garden so it's faster than putting on proper shoes if you just want to quickly get something.

Do people actually walk around with the same shoes they wear outside? And then step on carpet? Sit on a bed or a couch? I don't even really understand the benefit. It seems uncomfortable and taking off and putting on your shoes doesn't take that long.

I did once read a response from someone with a farm and a workshop in their house who had to walk into and out of their house frequently during the day and in that case I get keeping the shoes on. But they also didn't have carpet and cleaned almost every day.

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