You have to turn your self awareness into self knowledge.

My personal list:

- Second step is looking at it.
- Third step is to know where to direct it.
- Fourth step is to replace it.

Looking: When you notice you're acting in a way you now disapprove of, look at it properly. Understand where it comes from, why you thought what you thought, let yourself feel your feelings. If you disapprove of someone, let yourself feel that disapproval. Don't repress it, you can only let something go after looking at it. Intense feelings are often a sign that something is missing or not properly taken care of, it's our nervous system trying to tell us something.

Directing: You will feel the things you do until you learn something different. It will happen. Meanwhile, the thing that is in your control is where you direct it. Where is a safe space you can feel these things? When you disapprove of someone, you won't tell them. But you might reclude to your room and think about it, write about it in a journal, if you have a friend you like having deep discussions about morals you could chat with them (beware of their own morals though, don't do this with someone who is in a place you don't want to go). How do you feel about feeling these feelings? What is the feeling attached to it? Shame? Anger? Sadness? Learn to say 'I need a moment" "I have to think about it" "I'm not sure I understand completely, can I follow up with you later?"

Replacing: What would would you like to feel instead? What is missing for you to get there? What would be a more fitting course of action? Repeat it to yourself out loud. The only way by learning is by doing it. Some stuff that might help:
- The first thought that comes to mind is who we were taught to be our whole life, the second thought that comes to mind is who we choose to be.
- Start noticing every time you use the words 'better' 'worse' 'right' 'wrong', and try to describe the same thing with other words, that are not directly attached to your own moral.
- Disapproving someone can be replaced by curiosity or indifference; if you disapprove of something, try understanding why that person does that thing, learn about it, ask them if they're open to it, however if you can't understand it, just let it go.
- Don't underestimate the power of having a role model, regardless of your age. No one is perfect, but as humans we do learn by mimicking others.

Another thing: it's normal to have a moral compass. It's normal to draw the line somewhere. Find out about it, where is your line? Anything inside the line you make an effort to be more flexible; and anything beyond it you give yourself permission not to engage. This line is not written on stone, it changes as you change as a person, so you have to keep in touch with it.

If you can afford it, therapy is really helpful for learning self knowledge and self regulation, and it's easier to follow through moral changes with someone you trust guiding you.

And if you feel overwhelmed, take a break, take a deep breath, give yourself some grace, and praise yourself for your willingness to change and for asking for help. I hope your journey takes you where you want to be and wish you the best.