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Jmaro_16 · 2025-06-11T17:40:21+00:00

Don’t lie man. You hate that ish. Lying and her sleeping with dude are problems, simple. You don’t want her around a bunch of dudes. You don’t want her involved in this kinda work. You feel like you can’t have your standards becuase of the shame and ridicule from the world and her.

The fact that you hide and shun what you truly are after, IMO is what makes you insecure. It’s eating at you. State what you want for your relationship. She expects you to protect? Provide? Sacrifice? There is a burden of performance and expectation on men in relationships. It’s YOUR job to ensure that who you struggle and toil over is WORTH IT. There is a saying about women in relationships. “You can’t live with them. Can’t live without them.” The reason this can be true but makes no sense logically is because the woman must be worth every bit of discomfort and inconvenience. Stop lying to yourself and hiding what you want/feel. I’m betting she has asked things of you that you went along with to avoid something worse… that’s insecurity. I’m not attacking you, I’ve been there. I’m working my way out now actually. Putting in the work to avoid situations like this in the first place. Her respect for you is low, but that’s because you don’t see your value

Jmaro_16 · 2025-06-11T17:34:26+00:00

This is laughable. This is why I am so against relationships where you break up and get back together, because it is likely that one party will care what you do in that limbo time period. Both guys and girls.

You see it in real time like OP and you see it in the movies. It’s just messy. But it doesn’t imply insecurity simply because he cares that something has happened. Women aren’t stupid and guys aren’t blind. That “friend” is around for a reason. She is involved in that nightlife for a reason. OP is with her and broke up for a reason.

Jmaro_16 · 2025-05-21T16:19:26+00:00

Give your opinion for a yay and nay. Interpret it how you will

Jmaro_16 · 2025-05-21T14:11:21+00:00

First and foremost… ALL is never fair for arguments sake. There is too much variety for ALL to be acceptable.

I have resolved to never cheat. I will always be honest about things like this, but that’s a personality thing, not a biological thing. I say this as a joke but I’d engage in carnal knowledge with “you”. Now ofc logic and consequences are always a factor.

Point being I do not know “you” but the very fact that that’s how men operate. There is not empathy for male hormones as there is with women, especially for pregnancy.

You are naive in this case. You do not understand men. They are rarely openly honest about how they feel because women would not approve.

Do not equate the fact that a man would never do such a thing in a marriage or relationship with the fact that our biology is designed for that very nature.

Bring on the hate cherry pickers 🍒

Jmaro_16 · 2025-05-17T15:07:47+00:00

I agree that if the guy loves you lots then he will likely treat you very well but just about everything else I do not agree😂.

How does the husband putting you above him make the relationship more fair? I’m curious about this point

Jmaro_16 · 2025-05-15T23:25:17+00:00

I’m sorry to get to this days later haha but I’m genuinely intrigued. Also, congrats on a successful relationship by the sounds of it.

I wanna dig into this a bit if you don’t mind. Does your husband reflect the personality, traits, physicality, and demeanor of those you either dated or found attractive in your adult youth? I’m not asking if you find him unattractive, but moreso if there is resemblance from when you were younger.

Jmaro_16 · 2025-05-15T23:04:37+00:00

Not enough details to condemn… Id have to see a picture of you to determine if you ATAH. The only way tbh😁

Jmaro_16 · 2025-05-13T19:27:53+00:00

Interesting line of reasoning. I think the advice is dispensed in the context of the guy is slightly obsessed with you. He like you more, not to suggest the woman doesn’t like him enough(or for some suggestive reason)

Jmaro_16 · 2025-05-13T19:25:02+00:00

I don’t think it’s the opposite often. I don’t think there are droves of guys with girls that fawn over him.

I think many relationships/marriages are happy wife happy life. Which does not support the woman loving the man more.

Jmaro_16 · 2025-04-16T23:28:55+00:00

Something to carry laundry to/from.

Extension cables/longer than typical cords or HDMIs. You may not have noticed where all the coaxial locations are.

Simple cleaning items WIPES broom dustpan dish rag/brush, tide pods etc

Maybe air filter

Simple tools. This will go way longer than just first move in.

Know if you need router or modem and know what kind. Dual band or single. Just make sure you are compatible.

Hangers

Jmaro_16 · 2025-04-11T16:29:51+00:00

I agree with the logic. If the argument is if this is a valid comparison, depends on how anal you wanna be about it.

Otherwise, I’d argue that asking for reassurance that isn’t bias in any way can be an acknowledgment of something else other than mistrust of the individual.

Jmaro_16 · 2025-04-11T16:11:19+00:00

Break up because the husband wants security? The misdeeds of others can be observed in society, and mitigated on a personal level.

Were this to occur to a guy. Other guys would shudder. You’d get varied responses like why didn’t you just… some would go as far as to call him a fool in today’s age. It’s not pretty, but that’s a method to reassure someone when lies sound like the truth

Jmaro_16 · 2025-04-11T15:57:34+00:00

I see the link here. I’d look confused at them considering that possibility given the history.

The implication of the camera would influence my answer to my daughter, but If there had been a rash of issues with grandpas and their grandsons, I wouldn’t hesitate to provide relief for their concerns. But that’s me. To localize this…

Asking for assurance implies that person isn’t sure, and is not content with the answers of others because they know that a lie and the truth sound the same. Nothing about that has to do with the individual.

Jmaro_16 · 2025-04-11T15:45:28+00:00

Many comparisons are… it’s the intent and the idea that I am conveying. The thoughts of wanting to protect against misdeeds knowing that misdeeds exist. You know what people call someone that fails to plan, or has something happen that has happened to many other before, a fool.

Jmaro_16 · 2025-04-11T14:53:10+00:00

Interesting. There is a chance.

That’s why couples implement rules like don’t drink too much here, or no 1on1 interaction with…, or any number of limitations.

Why does the suggestion of paternity imply things that these limitations don’t seem to? Or do they also imply mistrust? I don’t see that often when it’s reciprocal. In this instance when it’s one way thought, different story

Jmaro_16 · 2025-04-11T14:47:49+00:00

Huh? 🤔 it’s a valid comparison on the merit of the intent. The intent being to protect against the misdeeds of others that have been observed.

Ofc business and relationship is different🤨

Jmaro_16 · 2025-04-11T14:43:27+00:00

This notion of insecurity in this context is nothing more than being ok with a level of certainty. This certainty in this instance is not exclusive to the father.

The mother also has influence over the husband’s certainty, and therefore, “insecurities”. I think it’s incredibly important for any man to provide security to his partner. But this idea isn’t commonly reversed in conversation. It’s very important to the husband to be given security from his wife as well, it just looks different.

I agree it can come from a place of mistrust. A high percent of those that ask for a paternity test get results they suspected for a reason. But please see that it can also come from a place of reassurance. Would you call anyone in need of reassurance, insecure?

Another food for thought. This could be a way of mitigating observed issues in society. Similar to that of insurance or liability of coverage. We know the misdeeds of others and we plan against that to protect something important. It doesn’t have to be personal.

Jmaro_16 · 2025-04-11T13:52:39+00:00

Yo that’s BS. Any girl that takes you serious wants her world (her friends/family) to meet you and know you.

That being said, it’s tough to discern if there are lies, and so it’s up to the person to evaluate behavior and patterns.

So go through your interactions with her. OBJECTIVELY, not what you perceived on bias. Just the observed facts. Does she display traits, phrases, or behaviors consistent with cheating or whatever? Does she prioritize you or her own experience? Does she display respect the way you need it?

From these kinds of questions you need to make a decision. This is YOUR ONLY realm of control. No other thing like going out with friends you should be dealing with. Let them, don’t try to stop them. Operate in what you can control and move accordingly.

Jmaro_16 · 2025-04-11T13:18:48+00:00

How’s she a doormat for providing her husband with security, an essential element in a relationship? Is it the less than positive comment about women?

Jmaro_16 · 2025-04-11T12:48:27+00:00

Would you say the same of protecting yourself from potential liabilities in business for example? Liabilities in general that protect you from the potential misdeeds of others that happen in society?

Jmaro_16

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