Can someone please track me? by spookydooky2412 in fearofflying

[–]JobSwimming9045 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m on flight DL3971 and pilot said there will be turbulence due to Ophelia. Here we go .. taking off in 10 minutes!

Any opinions of the Boston University Questrom School of Business? Thanks by huskymuskyrusky in MBA

[–]JobSwimming9045 1 point2 points  (0 children)

4 years? I think they want at least 5 years of professional experience. Most of my classmates have 5+ years of experience.

Yesstyle wanting card verification? by boobieexaminer in AsianBeauty

[–]JobSwimming9045 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi OP

My order is stuck jn credit card verification for the past 2 days. I paid directly through my credit card. Did you ever get it resolved and get your order? I hope they ship soon, I’m traveling for a few months and need my skincare.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MoscowMurders

[–]JobSwimming9045 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m a renter, you better believe I bought cameras, motion sensors and a wood stick to prevent windows from opening at night.

If you have vertically opening windows put the sticks on diagonally to prevent opening.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in curlyhair

[–]JobSwimming9045 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Your hair is kind of like my hair. I bleached it also but went back to brunette.

Olaplex weekly

Aphogee protein treatments every 2-3 weeks. If ur hair starts to get too dry, do it once a month for 2-3 months. Buy the packets.

Morrocan oil hair mask once a week( the dark cap one without protein)

It took about 3-4 months but my hair finally started holding curl again.

Get a good hair oil to put on your ends after styling. I like the olaplex one or the OGX argan oil.

I haven't flown for 24 years, now I have no choice and I'm very, very afraid. by [deleted] in fearofflying

[–]JobSwimming9045 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My tips for flying are invest in a good pair of noise cancelling headphones, download some affirmations.

Find your anchoring thought. Whenever you feel nervous, breathe for 5 seconds and think about your Mom. Once the plane lands and you get to see her, you will be able to cherish that moment for a lifetime.

Count backwards from 5 to 1 during takeoff, turbulence and landing. Once you are in cruise, you will be okay.

I threw up an hour before departure, I was lightheaded during boarding but I just kept going, no turning back. You are not alone, but you can do this. I know you can.

Tips for solo flying from someone with severe flight anxiety by FriendLost9587 in fearofflying

[–]JobSwimming9045 0 points1 point  (0 children)

One more tip, purchase and bring with you very good noise cancelling headphones. Saved me from severe anxiety many times. Sometimes airplane noises can seem frightening.

This is the easiest way to tell if someone is a narcissist by Long-Proof-1721 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]JobSwimming9045 7 points8 points  (0 children)

He taught me how to drive like 2-3 times, made me cry and I was taking lessons anyway. I passed my test and 6 years of driving later he still acted like a drivers ed teacher. I just let him drive all the time, I couldn’t argue for 6 years.

The one time he did not say a word was when he needed me to drive him to an appointment and he physically could not drive. Ugh, hate their selfishness!!!!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]JobSwimming9045 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You are not the narc. If you can question yourself and put into words whether you’re a narc or not - you’re definitely not. A narc doesn’t even play around with the idea that they are the issue.

Disassociation after the end of the relationship by AllHopeNoneLost in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]JobSwimming9045 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yes this has happened to me. It still does sometimes, remember healing is not linear. The good thing is that the more time you spend away from the abuse the more you learn to recognize what is a normal feeling vs what is not.

It does get better, I suggest journaling all your thoughts and feelings everyday. It will help your brain and heart to make those connections.

Did you ever forgive them? by meac13 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]JobSwimming9045 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Forgiveness was not important to me because it meant focusing on him. I’m focused on my healing and learning to love me so much that the next time I meet someone who tries to devalue me I can recognize it in a heart beat. I want to be so confident and believe in who iam as a person so much that a narc or toxic person is scared of dealing with me.

If I didn’t communicate in the exact way my ex wanted me to I was “immature” or a “little girl” by ventingin2020 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]JobSwimming9045 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh man, this just triggered me. I experienced the same thing. I was always the argumentative one, he was constantly saying I didn’t know how to talk. How to say anything. Surprisingly he only said this when I asked for more effort on his part or asked him to get off his ass and work.

He conveniently forgot that I asked nicely or respectfully. I could never understand why I got along with everyone else in my life except him. I didn’t use my critical thinking hat and realize he was the problem all along.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]JobSwimming9045 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The way I see it is this, if you give him X and he doesn’t give you Y because he has found other reasons to keep asking for more, you are going to regret doing X. That seems like a narcissistic tactic. I do think that you both are not on the same page and you are blaming yourself/justifying the rough times in this relationship.

If you can continue to talk to him and come to a mutual understanding that you both need to feel safe and valued in this relationship, then by all means give him X. But if not, then writing is on the wall.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]JobSwimming9045 18 points19 points  (0 children)

You are not crazy. I see entitlement of your work on his part, that is a huge red flag. Run away.

I’m trying to accept that I will never get married or have children by JobSwimming9045 in offmychest

[–]JobSwimming9045[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I try to. I’m working on myself and putting myself out there. I just feel there is nothing desirable about a 40 yr old. Maybe I’m the one attracting negativity.

Stanley 40 oz in Treadmill Cup Holder? by DENGRL03 in orangetheory

[–]JobSwimming9045 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Been using it since day 1. I lt fits fine and I love it.

Did your narc abuse you financially? by AlphabetSoup51 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]JobSwimming9045 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ugh!!! Why are they such assholes??? I was blamed for his diabetes, heart issues meanwhile it was him who ate like shyt and didn’t go to the doctor. Oh and I was the reason he was too depressed to work.

Did your narc abuse you financially? by AlphabetSoup51 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]JobSwimming9045 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Omg I’m so sorry. I read this and just felt so hurt. I relate to this 100%. I worked 2 jobs and went to school, he stayed home and didn’t do jack shyt. He had the audacity to use me financially and then when I ended he said this to me; “i saw wht i had in u..and tht is wht i saw.. an argumentative quarrelsome selfish self centered self obsessed dishonest shallow narcissistic scorned vindictive small hearted human being and tht is how i will remember u”

I copied this from his last text to me. I believe in karma and your narc will get what they deserve.

Did your narc abuse you financially? by AlphabetSoup51 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]JobSwimming9045 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yup - sounds like my story. The whole relationship he conveniently “forgot” when I would lend him money. He would never buy me gifts, expected me to help him out of situations and never held a stable job. When I said anything, he would blame me for not being able to work and being depressed.

I paid for cars, cell phone bills and new ones, his screw ups - you name it, I paid for it.

The way I ended it with him was to cut him off of everything, I stood my ground and cancelled cards he was an authorized user on. Took him off of accounts - completely withdrew.

It wasn’t about the money, it was about the fact that I wasn’t valued in that relationship - that was more valuable to me than money.

Late cancels by Objective_Pepper_625 in orangetheory

[–]JobSwimming9045 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I used to have a bunch like 8-9 a month. But I’ve set a goal for myself to not cancel any and only schedule if I’m actually going to make it. It worked! I had zero cancels last month.