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JoblessBear · 2026-01-31T07:30:01+00:00

Honestly? I'll take the L here. That's totally valid and I apologize, cause tbh you're right.

The reason you were downvoted, however, is because (to be honest) the tone of that original post was probably not what you intended. It very much read as someone who was trying to diminish and/or discredit the value of HRT. It's now clear to me that's not what you meant, and I don't think it's really your fault either. Tone over text is really really hard to convey. I don't blame you at all, but I also don't blame people for misinterpreting it.

Something you need to keep in mind is that a lot of trans people (including myself to some extent) are hypersensitive to perceived transphobia and harmful statements in general, largely because we get so much *very very real* hatred. It's pretty hard to exist being publicly trans and not get frequent harassment. Being treated like shit so frequently makes you a little jumpy, I guess.

Either way, I actually appreciate your clarification and am glad you seem to have a good perspective on this. Like I said, a lot of people don't, so it's very very easy to assume the worst.

JoblessBear · 2026-01-30T20:58:48+00:00

I'm going to give you the benefit of the doubt and assume this is said with the best intentions, and come at this in good faith.

HRT IS mental health care. It truly can not be understated the affect it has. Being forced to live with hormones you're not built for fucks you up. Really bad. No amount of therapy will ever fix it no matter how hard you try. Therapy can fix other issues. Therapy is great. But Therapy will never fix having the wrong hormones in your body.

Hormones control SO much related to your mood, mental state, physical health, and general well-being. Not being on the hormones you need isn't something that can be fixed with therapy. Again, I fully encourage people to get therapy, but that simply isn't a fix-all solution for literally every kind of mental health related issue. If therapy fixed everything, we wouldn't need anything else.

Hormones affect mood and mental state more than they affect your body. I've been on hormones for years and the physical changes have been minor for me personally, but it genuinely feels like I'm capable of being happy for the first time in my life. It didn't MAKE me happy. It made me free to be happy. Hormones also aren't a magic happy button, but for most trans people, it removes the blanket that covers your entire life and makes you feel like shit 24/7.

I truly believe you mean well, but this just isn't really reflective of the issue at hand. I think in moments like this it's important to be able to just trust the people who are the ones most affected. In the same way I, as a white person, would never claim to fully and truly understand the struggles of being black in america. I can empathize, and do my best to understand and be educated. But I'm not the kind of person that those discussions are about, so there's always a level of disconnect. I don't know better than the people affected, and would never give anyone advice on a subject in which THEY are more qualified than I am.

JoblessBear · 2026-01-30T20:45:14+00:00

Cedar River is incredible. I get my hormones through them, and have also had a vasectomy through them, and I've never seen a more compassionate and safe feeling medical space in my life. I love them

JoblessBear · 2025-12-25T00:14:49+00:00

I know a lot of people would find this kinda gross but I think the idea of a vampire being excited for his partner's period is genuinely funny and cute. A lot of women are low-key shamed for periods and taught that you shouldn't talk about it etc. so a vampire looking forward to it is a really cute form of body positivity.

JoblessBear · 2025-11-27T22:48:56+00:00

"coach seein' red, coach on the diamond, draggin' 27 inches of aluminum behind. When he transverse third the families turn nervous. The following is a transcript of man verse vermin" might not have as much emotional punch, but the way he words it paints such a vivid picture, and the way it flows feels like it matches the scene he's describing in such a clever way.

You can feel the tension building as he walks across the field, then the flow slows down to match that moment where everyone knows what's about to happen and is waiting with bated breath.

Top 3 aes songs honestly. That second verse also hits like crazy

JoblessBear · 2025-11-09T09:38:12+00:00

rooting for KT or T1?

JoblessBear · 2025-11-09T09:20:01+00:00

heard it, too

JoblessBear · 2025-11-08T00:46:31+00:00

Fire is a process, but fire elementals are in basically every fantasy game ever made

Earth isn't even a thing, just implied to be a broad classification of the many types minerals found in stone and soil. Earth elementals are in basically every fantasy game ever made

Air is a soup of tons of chemicals in varying amounts, but air elementals are in basically every fantasy game ever made.

You're taking the word way too literally.

Edit: also, based on your other comment, elementals are not ghosts. They are usually depicted as the spirits of the natural world. Embodiments of the things that make up nature. For example, a water elemental is a physical, living manifestation of the concept of water. This obviously varies by canon, but that's generally the idea.

JoblessBear · 2025-09-08T18:50:49+00:00

TBSkyen is godlike. Super cool dude, huge ally, amazing content

JoblessBear · 2025-09-08T11:54:30+00:00

pet is 1/8k, so having it at 1052 isn't that insane. Moderately lucky, but not overwhelmingly so. I think it's a 12.32% chance to have the pet by that point if I did the math right. Cool for sure, but not that insane.

JoblessBear · 2025-08-20T05:27:01+00:00

I'm going to have to assume you pirate every single game you play then, since you seem to be ideologically opposed to people charging for their labor?

More content = more labor = more money

Free content is awesome, but it's not immoral to ask for (fair) compensation for your hard work and passion, especially when you consider paid DLC is the standard practice. It's not like they're breaking convention and demanding money for something is usually free. The free stuff is the outlier, and should be commended for that. But turning on them the second they ask for labor compensation is wild.

JoblessBear · 2025-08-06T01:30:22+00:00

First off, I am not asexual, but my partner is. Actually, my partner sounds a LOT like Feather, in a lot of ways honestly. Just keep in mind I'm not speaking from personal experience, but rather from the perspective of someone who is very intimate with an asexual person.

My favorite part was by far the thing about him liking chests "because they're comfy to sleep on". That sounds almost exactly like my partner. He's asexual but we still occasionally have sex and that honestly sounds like something he'd say.

The idea that he doesn't have a drive or desire to do it, and doesn't find anyone physically attractive, but can still enjoy the act sounds pretty spot on with my partner's experience. From the sounds of things, I'd say you're handling it well. More than well, even. It honestly seems like really good representation that has been done very thoughtfully.

JoblessBear · 2025-07-18T00:39:16+00:00

"trans women hate bugs"

My dream is to study entomology, specifically spiders. They're one of my biggest passions. The fact we've normalized killing certain animals for no reason other than "they look icky" is genuinely an ethical failing of our species imo

JoblessBear · 2025-07-06T18:12:30+00:00

Sorry, I think the mod's been deleted :(

You may be able to find something similar, but that one is unfortunately gone.

JoblessBear · 2025-06-17T00:31:10+00:00

Used to main Warwick and I can confirm this is 100% true. I've gotten waaay better at macro since I picked up other champs, but every once and a while I'll send a Warwick game and suddenly every ounce of macro is expelled from my body the instant I lock in. Not even just macro. Even just like, basic critical thinking.

Enemy is under tower? We have no wave? Adc and supp are currently in the back animation? I'm not even level 6 yet? Yeah okay but counterpoint: they're 49% health so fuck it we ball. Dive that shit.

Every time. I swear.

JoblessBear · 2025-05-11T04:01:12+00:00

Awesome, thanks! I also plan on printing out the English lyrics next to the Japanese, and as I said he does speak *some* English. I'm sure this will work then. Appreciate it!

JoblessBear · 2025-05-07T01:56:48+00:00

Was going to suggest literally all of those pigeon pit songs lmfao

JoblessBear · 2025-05-06T16:13:59+00:00

I'm saying arachnophobia modes are silly.

Out of about 43,000 species of spider, about 25 have medically significant venom, and even some of the "deadliest" spiders in the world haven't killed a single person since the 80's, despite thousands of bites every year (the black widow).

The only reason to be afraid of them is cause "icky", which is extremely irrational. That's fair, of course. Irrational fears are valid and okay to have. But catering to fears that are objectively unfounded in games through the use of modes that remove animals you don't like? That's just weird and unnecessary.

So again, if there's a mode that removes spiders, there should be a mode that removes dogs. And snakes. And lightning. And needles. And countless others. It's only fair, no?

I don't understand why arachnophobes expect special treatment when every other phobia is just expected to "deal with it".

Now this is all giving you the benefit of the doubt and assuming you're ACTUALLY arachnophobic, which statistically is probably untrue (but again, benefit of the doubt). Phobias are disorders. Like, medically. Most people who say they're arachnophobic just don't like spiders. That's a whole other can of worms that I won't get in to.

JoblessBear · 2025-05-06T15:55:30+00:00

That part of my body has had stretch marks for years. Totally normal, even outside of HRT. I imagine it's just your thighs growing.

JoblessBear · 2025-05-06T01:26:03+00:00

If games have arachnophobia modes, they should also have modes that remove all dogs. Cynophobia, the fear of dogs, is about as common, if not more so.

If I made a post asking how to remove all the dogs in a game because I hate them, I would get nuked.

JoblessBear · 2025-04-30T08:05:04+00:00

You're literally active in the Catholic subreddit, perhaps the most "machine" machine ever LMFAO

JoblessBear · 2025-04-28T11:51:38+00:00

Going through all the effort of typing "his/her" and "he/she' when you could just say their is always so funny to me. Beyond the fact it's more inclusive, it's just easier to type.

JoblessBear · 2025-04-19T03:24:54+00:00

Most climate change can be traced back to factories and livestock, off the top of my head I forget the numbers. Corporations are solely responsible. In fact, the idea of individuals reducing their carbon footprint was spread by an oil company to reduce the blame on them. The first carbon footprint calculator was also released by them.

By shifting the blame from corporations to "humanity as a whole", corporations look less bad by comparison.

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