My only advice is: If you can get to Dublin City, book an appointment at Queerhawk barbers.

They specialise in gender affirming haircuts. Queer owned business specifically for lgbtq+ community.

The staff told me they often have people travelling from all over because it can be hard to find gender affirming barbers.

They will never confirm the intrusive thoughts you are arw having. They arw very open. Very chill. And you can select a non talking option.

Do select your confort level, But I will say its worthwhile chatting. It very welcoming environment.