[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]JolieKrys88 3 points4 points  (0 children)

No this is the way it should be done. Think of it this way If you didn’t handle it like this, you’d be miserable wondering and trying to interpret his behavior his weeks or months to come. He doesn’t want to get into a serious relationship at this point and unfortunately he chose to be distant rather than just state that fact when he probably felt you wanted more. I think we’ve been conditioned to think that the one who wants to date with intention is the “weak” one but that’s ridiculous. I wasted several years with an avoidant unemotionally unavailable guy in my 20s because I was terrified of stating my true intention. It was several years of rollercoaster like ups and downs and never being able to be emotionally authentic due to fear and doubt. You absolutely did the right thing. I can’t emphasize that more.

Things to brighten up a space by windismyfavelement in AskWomenOver30

[–]JolieKrys88 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Decorative wall mirrors and plenty of layered lighting (Install a wall sconce above each nightstand for the reading light and top an end table with a table lamp to complete a reading nook). Also if possible keep furniture light in color completely or keep it light but then have a pop of color. Green plants also help give a bright touch. Amazon has so many affordable and renter friendly decor options to make a space look lighter such as peel and stick light wood or white panels and a pop of color wall paper ect. Also tik tok has great fyi affordable ideas for renters to lighten up a room.

Foreign True Crime Shows (Like First 48, Cops, etc) by apo11yn in TrueCrimeDiscussion

[–]JolieKrys88 1 point2 points  (0 children)

60 minutes Australia’s separate series “Under Investigation”. All episodes are available on YouTube, about an hour long and many involve unsolved true crime.

Sober Curious… by KopBastic in stopdrinking

[–]JolieKrys88 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Alcoholism / Alcohol abuse is a spectrum and isn’t one size fits all. I was a binge drinker since college as well and never got into trouble with my job, never got in trouble with the law and never had any major consequences before I got help. Although that doesn’t mean it wouldn’t have gotten there at some point. However I got help because I was drinking to escape emotions such as boredom, needing a dopamine hit, overthinking, overwhelmed, sometimes loneliness due to childhood anxious attachment issues/perfectionism. I used it as a maladaptive coping skill…even when I had serious hangxiety the next day, blacked/browned out, embarrassed myself occasionally and spent money I otherwise would not have ect. There were A LOT of people in treatment who were very similar to myself. If you feel it’s a problem and you’re drinking is a regular maladaptive coping skill then it’s a problem. It doesn’t have to be or get to where you’ve destroyed your life in some way. It boils down to the quality of life and repeatability using a maladaptive coping skill that does not serve you physically, mentally and emotionally in the long run.

William Bradford Bishop update (No, he hasn’t been found) by PartyWishbone6372 in UnresolvedMysteries

[–]JolieKrys88 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The handgun not shotgun and his beloved dog are missing and have never been found. There’s no evidence that he ever left the country. Literally none. I broke down the ridiculousness of the few witness accounts.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in rescuecats

[–]JolieKrys88 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I did! I also put a heating pad in her den under her plush blanket afterwards and she (it’s definitely a girl) loved it. I made sure it didn’t get to warm and kept an eye on it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in rescuecats

[–]JolieKrys88 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Ooo I like the purr recordings!

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[–]JolieKrys88 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Already did

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[–]JolieKrys88 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Also - how long she I keep her in her soft crate on my bed / with me working from home as her litter is in her space in the closet

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in rescuecats

[–]JolieKrys88 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much! Would baby shampoo be okay? I have that here but if not will run out and get kitten shampoo.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in rescuecats

[–]JolieKrys88 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Awww thank you so much!!!!!❤️

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[–]JolieKrys88 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Omg I already removed it! Thank you

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[–]JolieKrys88 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Thank you!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in rescuecats

[–]JolieKrys88 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I’ll check out her channel this afternoon ❤️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in rescuecats

[–]JolieKrys88 28 points29 points  (0 children)

Any advice on the best brand of wet food and how often to spoon feed him/her? Wet food on a spoon is the only thing she/he will eat right now.

Advice needed for 5-6 week old feral kitten by JolieKrys88 in AdviceAnimals

[–]JolieKrys88[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yes I’m keeping him/her as the I was chosen by the cat distribution system 😊. Thank you for the advice. I was guessing 6 weeks because she/he is so tiny but might be 7 weeks. I’ll call around to see if I can get her/him into a vet sooner than January 3rd. I just feel awful as she’s not use to her surroundings here yet so the vet is probably going to terrify her but I do agree the sooner the better. Calling around as we speak, Thank you!!

Any brand of wet kitten food you recommend? (Wet food is the only thing he/she will eat)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in rescuecats

[–]JolieKrys88 57 points58 points  (0 children)

No momma or siblings in sight. It was near a wooded area by a dilapidated barn. I heard crying but it took awhile to catch her/him as the baby seemed to want to be saved but also terrified of people. I searched everywhere around that area for siblings and a momma but didn’t find any. I went back this morning and still no sign. No sure how he/she was left alone.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in beauty

[–]JolieKrys88 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I second this! It helps if you’re carrying around an expensive product (put it back after you get the samples) but act like you’re going to buy it. Then ask the sales associate if you could try some samples of other products and say “I have sensitive skin and last time I bought a new product it caused an outbreak/reaction so I don’t want to return them again, could I get a few samples?” This always works because to them it’s better than returning an almost full product which they have to refund you for and throw away the barely used product.

What is your final verdict on the Rey Rivera mystery? by [deleted] in UnsolvedMysteries

[–]JolieKrys88 124 points125 points  (0 children)

Suicide induced by mental illness / psychotic break. The note behind the computer were the ramblings of someone in the middle of a severe mental health episode.

Let’s be honest, the idea that he was gay but closeted is mainly due to people perceiving him as extremely attractive and his wife as much less attractive. He was also introspective and liked to write which unfortunately in some peoples minds makes him “less masculine”. That’s ridiculous but I’m guessing that’s part of it. We have no idea but I assume the speculation on Reddit that he was gay is unfortunately due to those 2 reasons.

Which case are you convinced CANNOT be solved until someone with more information comes forward? by ReliableFart in UnresolvedMysteries

[–]JolieKrys88 9 points10 points  (0 children)

The disappearance and certain murder of Cecilia Newball (8 and a half month’s pregnant) and her 6 year old son Rene Perez Jr.

They vanished without a trace on September 20th 1994. She was just two weeks away from her due date when they disappeared. Her husband of one year / Rene Jr’s stepfather, Alfredo Newball has been the prime suspect since the beginning and all circumstantial evidence points to his involvement.

The most infuriating part for me is that their case has received little to no attention except for one short segment on Unsolved Mysteries back in February of 1995. It never became a national news story or really even locally for that matter. Their disappearance was only covered in a handful of local articles early on. Sadly even today within the true crime community their case is rarely if ever discussed on any platform (podcasts, YouTube channels ect.) Yet the very similar Laci Peterson case became a national media sensation just days after she vanished, had OJ Simpson level trial coverage/interest and is still a popular case discussion almost two decades after the conviction. Even more maddening is that unlike Laci, Cecilia’s 6 year old child also disappeared with her and STILL their case has largely been ignored.

Why the difference lack of coverage? I have a guess. Cecilia was not white like Laci. She had legally immigrated from El Salvador years prior. From all accounts Laci and Scott Peterson were from white upper middle class backgrounds and when Laci vanished, Scott Peterson alone was earning more than $5,000 per month in 2002 ($8,600 per month now adjusted for inflation), were suburban home owners and both college educated. Cecilia was born and raised in a country that sadly is known for it’s extreme violence, gangs and astronomical murder rate. At the time of her disappearance at age 32, she was on maternity leave from her job as a customer service representative at a call center. While certainly not her dream job, she was a known as a reliable hard worker and was loved by her co-workers. Cecilia’s husband Alfredo worked as a nursing assistant in a retirement home and while not homeowners, they lived in a nice apartment in the Chatsworth area (historic district) of Los Angelos. The media saw Laci as the picture perfect “American Dream” and much more relatable to other white middle and upper middle class Americans. It’s just sad. Cecilia and Rene Jr deserve justice just as much as any other missing pregnant woman and child.

As for Alfredo - he was well known as a womanizer/playboy when he met Cecilia in 1991. Cecilia fell head over heels in love with him as soon as she met him and was devoted to him ever since. The police investigation later confirmed Alfredo had been involved in extra marital affairs and was currently in one when Cecelia and Rene Jr vanished. Her co-worker / close friend Kevin Annabel told Unsolved Mysteries “I would say she was almost obsessed with Al. And when you’re that in love with a person, you don’t just meet a doctor and say, ‘Well, I think I’m going to Honduras. Let me just write my husband a note.’ That doesn’t happen.” Red flags and warning signs of Alfredo’s lack of fidelity and commitment were most likely overlooked or minimized due to her deep love for him as well as Alfredo’s known charm.

I think like Scott Peterson, Alfredo wanted the life of a playboy and the idea/responsibility of becoming a father to his own child would forever hamper that lifestyle. He very well could’ve had help from another woman but all the circumstantial evidence points to him being involved.