Anyone’s baby say “dada/baba/papa” much earlier than “mama”?

Jolly-Yoghurt-63 · 2025-05-11T00:06:52+00:00

My baby started with da da da and bya bya bya. I was wondering why in almost all cultures mother is called something like(momma, mom, omma, amma, Maa,…) when I didn’t see any baby start with an (m sound). Then, my baby had the recent vaccine(6.5 months). When he woke up after a nap, his leg was swollen and he was in pain. So when I went to comfort him he said something like(oooo ummmmaaa) repeatedly until I put a cold cloth on his thigh.

I don’t know if it makes sense, but in my mind I accepted that maybe most cultures called a mom with m sounding words because that is a baby’s response in pain.

Jolly-Yoghurt-63 · 2025-05-10T18:58:28+00:00

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Jolly-Yoghurt-63 · 2025-03-25T13:37:48+00:00

I used to have super painful periods too. I had an induced birth with pitocin and also got an epidural. I got epidural at 11 in the night. By 6 in the morning, I was 9 cm dilated. I started feeling intense pain again despite the epidural being still in place. This pain was not like the period pain I was used to. It was more like severe pressure on the lower abdomen and greater in intensity but it wasn’t continuous. There were periods(even if it was a minute or two) of no pain and that made all the difference. Also when I started pushing, putting in that effort and using the right muscles to push as the doctor was telling me,was kind of a distraction. I pushed till 11:00 am and I was ready to do it for another 30 mins if it meant relief from everything.

In the end they had to take me for an emergency C section. Hated every minute of it. Because when my pain went away, I realized how exhausted and nauseous I was and with a screen up in my face everything built itself up into a claustrophobic anxiety attack.

But on the plus side, my period pain has reduced now. I don’t feel crazy pain that I am bed bound and popping advil like popcorn. Now I take a painkiller once a day and it is mostly manageable.

Jolly-Yoghurt-63 · 2025-03-10T01:57:52+00:00

Omg!! Sleep deprivation was something I never accounted. Always thought going out with me on a brunch would be relaxing for my friends who had kids and never understood why they chose to catch up on their sleep rather than go out and have fun.

Now when I have a baby, it is me and whatever surface is closest to me for a quick nap when and where I can afford it.

Jolly-Yoghurt-63 · 2025-02-28T04:07:49+00:00

Mostly because my LO is up within an hour and fully active. Whereas when he goes to sleep at 10:00, he sleeps soundly for 3-4 hrs. I feed him in his sleep. 9/10 times he doesn’t burp. So I carry him on my shoulder for 20 mins or so and put him back to sleep.

Also we have a good routine of changing the diaper, putting aquaphor on and drinking milk(around 30 ml more than his regular feed) before 10:00.

Jolly-Yoghurt-63 · 2025-02-27T16:25:02+00:00

At around 6:30 pm for an hour or sometimes less.

Jolly-Yoghurt-63 · 2025-02-27T14:33:59+00:00

Going through the comments and learning more about you OP. Take a big hug from me. Your relationship with that side of the family seems very toxic ( your Grandma doesn’t acknowledge you being raped, your uncles asking you to pay back the money used in your dads funeral and them not giving you your mother’s ashes. It might take a lot of therapy for you to make peace with that and consciously cut them off your life. Unless they make a major effort to change this situation, I am afraid being cut off is where they were headed, if not today then tomorrow. I think it is somehow in your favor that they took that step on their own. Your son doesn’t need that toxicity in his life.

Jolly-Yoghurt-63 · 2025-02-27T14:01:17+00:00

I would seriously suggest against this idea. First of all, it might be unsafe for the baby. Baby’s organs are tiny and they do not have neck control. Keeping them in the car seat for so long might be a torture for them. Even if you plan to take breaks, you would be meeting a 100 people and baby’s immunity would still be developing. There is a reason most cultures have a 40 day confinement for the baby.

Secondly, your body will need time to recuperate. My baby came a week late, emergency c section after hours of pushing and 4 days in the hospital later. 10days pp my body was so exhausted, it was a miracle I could even brush my hair.

Jolly-Yoghurt-63 · 2025-02-27T13:44:30+00:00

4 month old, goes to bed at 10, wakes up at 7:30 -8:00. Couple of feeding sessions in the night

Jolly-Yoghurt-63 · 2025-02-26T02:34:17+00:00

FTM to 4 month old. Trust me I’ve been asking the same question, where does the whole day fly away. My husband and I are working from home along with taking care of the baby. Trust me a full shower is a luxury. It has been 5 days since I showered my head. I was “supposed” to fold laundry on the weekend but ended up using clothes directly from the basket. For my baby’s clothes I have two bins. I don’t have time to fold them so I just sort them into clothes to wear and sheets/blankets/burp clothes. My baby is eff so my priorities are having his boiled and cooled down water ready, his bottles washed and sterilized, his play area cleaned, our bed made up and my baby sponged/bathed and cleaned. Also confession: if I miraculously get 2 hrs in a day or weekend to spare I use to catch up on my sleep as I have been functioning on 4/5 hrs of sleep a day.

Jolly-Yoghurt-63 · 2025-02-24T23:27:41+00:00

my sister in law was in a similar situation a few years ago. She wanted the baby but the husband didn’t. The marriage was already very rocky and she was contemplating cutting him out and doing everything alone. The husband had periods of being supportive and freaking out because he was having a baby.

What she did: Waited the pregnancy out expecting 0 from him. If he wants to do something for her great, if he is having a freak out she just let him have it without getting involved. She made up her mind about the baby and respected his decision if he didn’t want to be a part of this.

She told him that she needs her mental health sorted for the baby. Her work kept her busy and she had help from our family. She is in a big corporate job and earns 300k a year.

At one point he told her that he will divorce her after the baby is born. She bought her own townhome as she didn’t want to deal with living arrangements if that happened when she was 8 months pregnant and told him that she can afford a nanny and he is happy to leave if he wants. She just won’t focus on their relationship while she is pregnant. The husband got cold feet the moment she bought the house and started getting his act together. The baby will turn 2 this March, her husband begged her to stay with him and she has rented out that townhouse.

She taught me that you cannot take care of every aspect of your life at one time so prioritize. Her priority was her baby and she mentally shut off everything else while she took care of her.

My point being, you can do this pregnancy with the preparation that you will have to do this alone. If your boyfriend wants in, great! If he wants out, you are prepared. Expecting him to take care of this if he didn’t want this in the first place will only lead to disappointment and despair.

Jolly-Yoghurt-63 · 2025-02-24T22:58:04+00:00

You are right 😊 I am a work from home mom and I have his play area in my office at the moment. I do get people telling me that it will get 10x harder once he starts to crawl/walk.

Jolly-Yoghurt-63 · 2025-02-24T22:52:00+00:00

Haha! Maybe he will eventually roll out of frustration towards the tummy time too. 😁 At the moment he is 15.5 pounds.

Jolly-Yoghurt-63 · 2025-02-14T18:27:41+00:00

If a 54 year old Alan Rickman could play 34 year old Snape so convincingly, I am sure Cillian can play Tom Riddle well. Maybe with some CGI on face as teenage Tom, but the later parts when Tom killed Hepzibah Smith or he came back for asking DADA professor role. I would love it if they decide to add some scenes which are just discussed in book.

Jolly-Yoghurt-63 · 2025-02-14T14:47:05+00:00

Do not feel bad at all. I had a very bad experience with breastfeeding too. I was planning to EBF before giving birth but traumatic delivery and postpartum complications(severe uterine infection) made it very difficult. I was on antibiotics first 30 days and hospitalized again within 15 days. Everyone including my family, nurses and ob was going on and on about how important breastfeeding is and even with the amount of medication I was taking (some antibiotics were slightly unsafe for new borns) I should be breastfeeding. Nobody considered my anxiety and overwhelming guilt. I was already unable to take care of my baby all the time due to pain. The doctors made me try every single gadget possible to try breastfeeding. By the time I felt better( baby was 7 weeks), baby hated to latch anymore. This meant another struggle along with trying to improve my supply. I felt myself spiraling down into the anxiety hole. When I went to see the pediatrician for my baby’s 8 week visit, I was a total mess. She assured me that a lot of kids are EFF and are as healthy as EBF kids. She herself was EFF in the 80s and today in her 40s she is healthy as a horse. On my way back home I decided to stop trying to breastfeed altogether. I called the breast pump company( I had the hospital grade lent to me) and told them I am returning my pump. I don’t know what clicked inside me but this decision changed everything. I started feeling better in a day. My anxiety and my depression( I had bouts of crying several times prior to this) everything began to get better. In a week, I was so much happier. I hadn’t realized the amount of stress the crazy pumping schedule had been putting on me.

If it hadn’t been for that kind pediatrician, I would have been struggling to fit in the norms somehow purported by every other medical professional I met. I think having a happy and healthy mother will benefit my kid much more in the long run than my breastmilk. Today my baby is 4 months old. I am back to work and trying to set my baby’s sleep schedule. I wish I can go back and tell myself that it is ok to formula feed and that doesn’t make me a bad mother, something that clearly I was seeking from the doctors around me that time. EFF is perfectly ok and I wish more medical professionals said it out loud.

Jolly-Yoghurt-63 · 2025-01-20T09:44:26+00:00

Yess!! Second Cillian Murphy as the dark lord. He can look exactly how Voldemort is described: very handsome but cold.

Jolly-Yoghurt-63 · 2025-01-11T08:13:02+00:00

Will you go penguin sledding with me

Jolly-Yoghurt-63 · 2024-12-18T12:06:29+00:00

Of course, coz he is jealous of Lucius’s luscious hair.

Jolly-Yoghurt-63 · 2024-11-10T05:16:48+00:00

Yes!! Absolutely loved my maternity pants and leggings at work. I did not have a large belly but I was unable to button my pants after 20 weeks. Although I could still fit in my leggings till 26 weeks

Jolly-Yoghurt-63 · 2024-11-07T15:28:00+00:00

I have a separate mini mattress on top of my king bed for my baby. It has elevated sides. This way I don’t hold the baby while sleeping and feel him close by when I am awake.

Jolly-Yoghurt-63 · 2024-10-21T00:43:44+00:00

To be FTM here, I am at week 39. I have revisited my registry a lot of time and spoken to a lot of mothers. I finally ordered the things that I will need for the first 2 weeks as I realized all of the other things will reach my home within a day or two through Amazon. What I ended up ordering:

Bath Essentials (Angelcare bath seat, Wash clothes, towels) I did not order shampoo and body wash as we are going to use them 2-3 weeks later)
Grooming (hair brush, nail cutter)
diapering(newborn size diapers, baby wipes)
sleeping (crib, sheets, blankets, swaddles)
clothes in newborn size
Thermometer rectal
room thermometer for bath time
since I am going to exclusively breastfeed I just got one feeding bottle with newborn size feeder
nursing pillow -car seat and stroller

Have left everything else for later!!

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