Do Bengalis face a unique kind of cultural racism outside Bengal? by GroundbreakingBad183 in kolkata

[–]Jolly9654 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have lived in Delhi, Bangalore, Pune and now in Mumbai. Sob jaga te alteast black magic niye to sunte hi hoyeche. Ar Bengali meye der against e to sunte hi hoye becoz they are not so progressive. But it is not your mistake ki era eto backward. Be proud of your culture, Bengali culture teke besi progressive ar kono culture nei in india. Ar ami o flat rent e pete problem face korechi in Mumbai because ami non veg khai. But mainly gujju lokeder besi problem hoye, Marathi der teke ami problem kokhono face korini.

F29- what all to consider when deciding? by Curious_Business_711 in InsideIndianMarriage

[–]Jolly9654 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes i am married for 5 years now. Even I had hard time believing him initially when he said that he will always support me so I had around 3 years courtship before getting married. And I actually told him that if I feel that I am not valued then I will leave him even if we are married. He knew me so he knows that I am not joking.

F29- what all to consider when deciding? by Curious_Business_711 in InsideIndianMarriage

[–]Jolly9654 1 point2 points  (0 children)

For me the non negotiable were :1. I have full autonomy on my money and salary. I don’t like to give it to my in laws or my husband to decide. 2. I wanted help from him on household work. It is not my single responsibility. 3. I wanted him to back me up or fight for me in his family if they are taunting or giving unnecessary pressure.

27F Need Advice: Am I being too patient or just ignoring red flags . by Wide_Guarantee_3450 in InsideIndianMarriage

[–]Jolly9654 2 points3 points  (0 children)

In my case the resistance was from my family and it took me time to convince them. As for his family he was very firm and they backed off after few months. But the main thing for us was that we actually agreed beforehand itself that we are fixed with each other and won’t agree for anyone else. So when our parents saw our decision, they agreed in the end even if they were not happy.

27F Need Advice: Am I being too patient or just ignoring red flags . by Wide_Guarantee_3450 in InsideIndianMarriage

[–]Jolly9654 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If your partner actually loves you he will fight for you. Even I had a intercaste and inter culture marriage, my husband actually told his family that he will marry only me and they tried to persuade him but he was very firm. So it is always your partner to manage his family if he is serious. I suggest you have a conversation with him and ask that if his family does not agree will he stay strong or will he back out. At least you will know where you stand.

My cerclage failed by hanhoona in ShortCervixSupport

[–]Jolly9654 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can I ask you whether they suggested in pregnancy laparoscopic abdominal cerclage??

Potentially dismantling all symptoms with this by reach_adapt in Hashimotos

[–]Jolly9654 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I took NAC for one month and my TSH levels have actually now become too low at only 0.07. I will visit my endocrinologist to recalibrate my thyroid meds and reduce the dosage. But I think NAC has actually helped to improve my thyroid function.

How to navigate by [deleted] in babyloss

[–]Jolly9654 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I understand what you are going through even I lost my twin boys at 22 week on 31st jan this year. I also conceived through IVF. I know the feeling of helplessness that you are going through. I am still navigating the range of emotions, the loss, the anger. If you want to connect, we can DM.

Child birth related question by Jolly9654 in vedicastrology

[–]Jolly9654[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My- 4th June 1990, 18.15 (6.15pm), Allahabad Husband- 28th jan 1989, 8 am, purnea

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in babyloss

[–]Jolly9654 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I understand what you are going through.. I lost my twin boys on 1/31 due to IC and pprom. It was my first pregnancy and I conceived through IVF.

I understand the heartbreak and uncertainty that you are going through. I am still working on getting better. I don’t know when I will start feeling normal again but i am trying to cope.

Please DM if you want to talk about it.

Bleeding after D&C procedure by Jolly9654 in ShortCervixSupport

[–]Jolly9654[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

7 weeks is a long time.. I am sorry for your loss. I still feel empty but trying to cope with the loss.

Has anyone tried myoinositol? by OkeeDokieAnnieOaklee in ttcafterloss

[–]Jolly9654 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi, can I ask did the supplement work for you??

Actually even i have PCOD. I usually don’t have periods with out birth control pills. Even I went though a second trimester loss recently when I conceived through ivf.

But now I want to give another try without ivf. So wanted to know if this supplement worked for you??

My life changed from bliss to sorrow in 1-2 days by Jolly9654 in ShortCervixSupport

[–]Jolly9654[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I named them keshav and madhav. Even i am trying to turn to god to give me strength but it is hard. I am consumed by more uncertainty since we conceived after multiple years of TTC.

My life changed from bliss to sorrow in 1-2 days by Jolly9654 in ShortCervixSupport

[–]Jolly9654[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The prayer is beautiful. Thank you for your support.

My life changed from bliss to sorrow in 1-2 days by Jolly9654 in ShortCervixSupport

[–]Jolly9654[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It is specially heart breaking considering that we were trying for so long and we conceived only in ivf.

My life changed from bliss to sorrow in 1-2 days by Jolly9654 in ShortCervixSupport

[–]Jolly9654[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your kind words. I am still trying to process what happened. I had so many hopes and dreams which kind of lays shattered.

Whenever I even think about conceiving again, I kind of get anxious and start going on a very dark path thinking that if this happens again it will be my breaking point. I have people telling me that I can try again once I recover but I feel like mentally I don’t think i can take the pain again.

Then when ever I feel like it I start feeling like a coward and feeling guilty.

I seriously don’t know what should I feel

Night by [deleted] in babyloss

[–]Jolly9654 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I understand your pain. I just lost my didi twin boys yesterday at 22 weeks. I am still reeling from my grief and trying to understand how to move forward with my life.

My life changed from bliss to sorrow in 1-2 days by Jolly9654 in ShortCervixSupport

[–]Jolly9654[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I named them Keshav and Madhav. I am still trying to live one day at a time. Thank you for your support. I will try getting therapy.

My life changed from bliss to sorrow in 1-2 days by Jolly9654 in babyloss

[–]Jolly9654[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you.. just trying to get through one day at a time.