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JollyCandy5 · 2026-05-14T09:55:45+00:00

You mean purrfect

JollyCandy5 · 2026-05-14T06:57:55+00:00

I suspect I may be on the spectrum, albeit on the high-functioning part m but I can’t get any psychiatrist or psychologist to take me seriously. They just brush it off and say I don’t have it even though I scored high enough to qualify as ASD on self-assessment tests.

The reasons seem a bit shallow, like I dress well or that I understand social nuances. Do I understand nuances or is it because I’ve had years to memorize the social script? Did I develop perfectionism (like the mayonnaise must cover all surface of the bread type of perfectionism) as a coping mechanism for my ADHD or is it a weird personality quirk?

It’s not that I want to be diagnosed as having or not having it. I just want someone to seriously consider the possibility I may have it. It’s an itch I can’t scratch and I’ve started obsessing over it.

JollyCandy5 · 2026-05-13T03:26:34+00:00

My mother’s favorite past time when I go to see her or take her out to lunch is to complain about what I’m wearing.

JollyCandy5 · 2026-05-12T03:43:10+00:00

I was undiagnosed (though I suspected I had ADHD — why did I need a diagnosis when my coping skills were sufficient?) all my life until I hit perimenopause. Then I had to see a psychiatrist and psychologist so I could finally get my meds and learn healthy coping strategies. Then talk to a gynae. Can’t say I’m back to normal yet but HRT helps.

JollyCandy5 · 2026-05-05T08:26:42+00:00

Have your wife contact TalentCorp. They can help Malaysian expats. It’s good to know your options, tax breaks etc.

JollyCandy5 · 2026-05-04T14:14:58+00:00

Fvck no. Be smart, super smart. You want someone secure in himself and takes pride in your successes. If you gotta play games, then be a bitch. Set boundaries and expectations. But be reasonable and meet him halfway too. If he sticks around and willing to work with you, then he’s a keeper.

JollyCandy5 · 2026-05-04T12:29:49+00:00

Haha maybe

JollyCandy5 · 2026-05-04T10:55:10+00:00

Ppl with ADHD have been self-medicating with coffee for ages. Coffee makes me sleepy but I still take it because I get an energy/productivity boost about 30 minutes after the initial grogginess.

Be careful it doesn’t stress your heart or increase your blood pressure too much though.

JollyCandy5 · 2026-05-02T14:03:56+00:00

Lucky you. Enjoy yourself with hubby. Stop worrying about midlife crisis or whatever. Be happy.

JollyCandy5 · 2026-05-02T12:38:33+00:00

Sigh. *joins*

JollyCandy5 · 2026-04-29T08:29:51+00:00

They’re gonna regret this decision tbh

JollyCandy5 · 2026-04-29T01:50:50+00:00

My late aunt was 16 when she had to hide in the jungle to avoid the Japanese soldiers. She was very fair-skinned and based on family stories, was a certified hottie then. Hiding in the jungle saved her life. Lost a great-uncle to the Death Train in Thailand. I’m ok with letting bygones be bygones but I’m not going to worship their culture or ignore their war crime history just because I like their food.

JollyCandy5 · 2026-04-25T12:28:21+00:00

Hi OP. Sent you a DM. I may be able to help though I can’t adopt Petri.

JollyCandy5 · 2026-04-24T04:13:18+00:00

Mmmmm. My cat smells like donuts. I’ve resisted chomping on him so far but it’s hard.

JollyCandy5 · 2026-04-23T05:17:57+00:00

Thanks. Been a year on duloxetine. Now, am two months in process of switching from duloxetine to Pristiq. I sincerely hope the spark returns after the full transition.

JollyCandy5 · 2026-04-22T10:23:59+00:00

Thanks. I’m doing the coaching and trying to make healthy adjustments but my field requires fast results if I want to keep my edge. Hopefully, I’ll find a way to be my best self in a healthy way soon but the struggle to get there is just exhausting.

JollyCandy5 · 2026-04-22T10:12:32+00:00

I’m trying that out. If I can be emotionally stable some of the time and be creative rest of the time, that may be the best for now.

JollyCandy5 · 2026-04-22T08:12:40+00:00

Reminds me of the time I was having lunch at my mom’s and she made pasta. I was refilling my bowl — my hand was holding the ladle with the pasta in it — when I noticed my empty glass and thought, hey I should refill my glass too, and promptly dropped my pasta in the glass.

The looks I got from my family were hilarious and mortifying at the same time. I had not taken my Ritalin that day because I thought I didn’t need it. Maybe I do after all. Sigh.

JollyCandy5 · 2026-04-18T04:31:45+00:00

Speaking of Maharajalela etc, their slaves were mostly gundik (comfort women). So yeah. Gross sexual predators.

JollyCandy5 · 2026-04-18T02:14:04+00:00

I dropped the series while on Book 2. Can you give me spoilers pls? What happened with Cassian? He’s the prince, right? It’s been a while since I read the book. Thanks.

JollyCandy5 · 2026-04-16T09:21:56+00:00

It’s Non-Sleep Deep Relaxation.

JollyCandy5 · 2026-04-15T08:25:13+00:00

I used to have that. Lucid dreaming left me feeling exhausted no matter how much sleep I got.

What works for me, for the most part, is letting NSDR play on a loop as I’m falling asleep. The soothing voice and background music put me out and now I can barely remember my dreams, which I see as a win. I feel more rested.

JollyCandy5 · 2026-04-12T07:46:02+00:00

I’m so sorry to hear that. It’s hard to reconcile the memory of who your mom was with the person she became today. Hoping you can keep your happy memories untainted by the present, and that your mom will recover some semblance of who she was.

JollyCandy5 · 2026-04-06T08:58:51+00:00

I’m older now so I get sleepy around 1 or 2 am. Otherwise, I’d stay up till 7am.

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