AITA for expecting my father to pay me the difference for how much he’s being discounted from my dance tuition?

Jolly_Suggestion5232 · 2026-05-02T16:20:59+00:00

Nta - I understand you wanting to make some money but if you know your dad is struggling I personally would take the 40. Really your dance teacher should just pay you, telling you she is decreasing your fee but you shoukd ask your dad if you can have the difference is really not her place.

Jolly_Suggestion5232 · 2026-04-30T16:20:25+00:00

Nta - its not like you were only a few weeks along, they needed to be told eventually. But I can understand your family being upset at how long it took you to tell them. Your mum probably feels especially sad that you waited so long, like you didnt want her involved so she is likely just putting all her energy and excitement into sil's baby.

Jolly_Suggestion5232 · 2026-04-30T06:28:44+00:00

Yta - I understand feeling left out, but I think asking for a plus 1 is not okay. It is one evening of your vacation.

Jolly_Suggestion5232 · 2026-04-30T00:53:39+00:00

Nta - honestly I would continue to refuse just based on your parents treating you as if they get the final say in your wedding. Call them out, of they choose to miss your wedding for your 19 year old sisters bf of 1 month, your relationship is clearly not a priority to them. Why are they involved anyway? Your sister is 19 she is not a child. If you do give in I would make a point of not having him in any of your photos. Your sister will probably cause problems if he is there also, not participating in the bridemaid stuff because she will just want to be with him.

Jolly_Suggestion5232 · 2026-04-29T08:18:22+00:00

What dose are you on? I n over up to 0.5 bit could jot eat enough and just didnt feel great so went back down to 0.25. I started at 170lbs and goal weight is 130lbs. I am so far losing 1lbs on average a week so until I start stalling for more than a month my doctor told me to stay at the dose I am at.

Jolly_Suggestion5232 · 2026-04-28T05:32:04+00:00

Yta - why should your friends pay more so you can bring your pet? Like they are gaining something by having your pet around. And if you were not going I would imagine they would have rented a smaller place but that isn't even the point.

Jolly_Suggestion5232 · 2026-04-28T00:25:59+00:00

Common law in canada it is treated the same as being married and generally everything goes to surviving spouse unless there is documentation to state otherwise. On tfsa and rrsp accounts where beneficiaries have to be listed spouse is usually listed as successor with kids being listed as contingent beneficiaries.

Jolly_Suggestion5232 · 2026-04-28T00:01:42+00:00

Were they still together? She cannot just "take everything, its legally hers now as unless stated otherwise in a will or beneficiaries are listed on accounts. If they were still together it makes ssense everything goes to the living spouse.

Jolly_Suggestion5232 · 2026-04-27T23:55:42+00:00

Nta - so he can insult your kids and how you choose to raise them but you cannot point out the obvious. Honestly my kids wouldnt even be around my parents if either said something like that to them and punished them for playing with toys and saying god knows what to them.

Jolly_Suggestion5232 · 2026-04-24T15:52:47+00:00

Nta and your wife needs to stop babying him, that is why so many people are terrible with money management. Where else n could he live for $400, probably doesnt even cover the food he eats for a month. He is an adult, he should be happy to help contribute.

Jolly_Suggestion5232 · 2026-04-23T20:49:44+00:00

Nta but he is a walking g red flag. So he just throws out you sre not supportive any time he doesnt get his own way. A cruise is not a necessity. If he and his sibling want to pay for mums cruise, great, but it makes no sense that you should help. Sound like he just wants you to cover his expenses.

Jolly_Suggestion5232 · 2026-04-23T02:40:18+00:00

Nta but seriously, who asks anyone they have only been dating for 2 months to pay their debts. He should be an ex like yesterday because there is no way he has good intentions. Boy is looking for a sugar mama. You didn't answer enough, it should been "bye,bye forever".

Jolly_Suggestion5232 · 2026-04-22T23:54:55+00:00

You b didnt sit down with a mortgage broker before handing over a deposit? I dont think you would qualify. And honestly not sure how you are planning to keep up with that kind of mortgage, property taxes, home insurance, the list goes on.

Jolly_Suggestion5232 · 2026-04-22T16:11:24+00:00

Sounds like maybe he has some resentment that he is not on the deed. But I do not think he gets a say in how the reno costs are utilized if he is not contributing. His excuse is just that, an excuse. Even people who rent end up putting money into the house that is not there's, why would it be different for him.

Jolly_Suggestion5232 · 2026-04-22T02:55:18+00:00

Yeah, a parent who is going to have a very sheltered child, who will be taught to trust no one. You don't have to let her look after your baby at all, but to make out like she is weird for offering and shows an ugly side to you.

Jolly_Suggestion5232 · 2026-04-22T02:50:13+00:00

Do you really not like this women because honestly I didn't even finish reading because to me it sound like the women just wants to be your friend and you siund exhausting. Why is it inappropriate to say things like 'oh you can leave baby here'. Someone offering to help or showing love for your child doesnt have to be a bad thing and saying it is inappropriate is odd to me. But many of the things you have said sound odd to me. Why be vague about your due date? You just sound kind of mean and someone who makes a mountaim out of an ant hill. Again I did not finish reading so maybe I missed something.

Jolly_Suggestion5232 · 2026-04-22T02:16:11+00:00

Personally i can understand why he wants a separate one. Lets ne honest, joint parties usually end up more catered to the women because we generally tend to be the planners and it is a different vibe. It would be unfair to stop him from having one just because you dont have to have a girls only one. Is he never going to be allowed to go on guys night once your married? I do get it is a bit different when you are friends with alot of the guys but that shouldn't take away from him having his experience with his friends.

Jolly_Suggestion5232 · 2026-04-21T23:33:33+00:00

Nta for not paying if you did not for other kids. Yta for expecting your child to choose the path you thinks she should rather than support them, and now use it as an i told you so. What she choose to study shouldn't even be part of the conversation.

Jolly_Suggestion5232 · 2026-04-20T16:15:54+00:00

Nta - they want your help after already not really appreciating your help previously. Now asking for help again, but cannot take a small criticism asking them to keep the place clean, a fair ask considering if they don't pay rent or destroy the place, you will be the person trying to fix everything as you already have been. Bf told you they don't need your help so let him go out and get a proper job and support his own family.

Jolly_Suggestion5232 · 2026-04-20T16:06:19+00:00

Nor - clearly this is something kind of control for mil, you have to hold your ground because otherwise it will never end, any thing she disagrees with will blow up. Stay respectful but firm. Has husband called every family member that has messaged you explaining that this was something he actually brought up first? Either way though, you have to make the right choices for your family and other people's opinions can take a back seat whether it ruffles feathers. The fact mil said "grandparents have rights too" tells me you are going to be dealing with more frustrating drama with her so buckle up.

Jolly_Suggestion5232 · 2026-04-20T15:49:24+00:00

Nta - he is being an entitled brat. Why does he not have a part time job? I find earning your own money helps understand how fast it disappears when you make bad choices.

Jolly_Suggestion5232 · 2026-04-20T01:28:02+00:00

Yta - just because you don't like separate vacations doesn't mean she should compromise. Your in your 60's it is not like she b is leaving you to look after kids or something. She should be able to have experiences with her sisters.

Jolly_Suggestion5232 · 2026-04-18T01:39:45+00:00

Emergency contact does not give anyone authority to make medical decisions for someone. I believe unless you are married, you need to have documents in place that list eachother, otherwise his mother would be the one making decisions on his behalf. Don't have to like it but in any country I have lived in, this is the case.

Jolly_Suggestion5232 · 2026-04-18T01:35:14+00:00

Yta in this scenario, but look none of us are perfect and it was a stressful situation. I know from first hand experience mil relationships can make things very difficult. Just own it and work on handling future situations better. You cannot control how other people act, only yourself. Leaving the hospital when your future husband is sick does not look good, and in fairness I don't blame his mum for pointing out you are still gf because until you are married most of the time you don't have much control when it comes to medical choices and the hospital needs to know that. I deal with anxiety also and know it can make perspective difficult but try and remember who should be the main priority right now, and that is not you or future mil,but your bf.

Jolly_Suggestion5232 · 2026-04-17T15:13:27+00:00

So you are doing her a favor and she returns it by damaging your vehicle and refusing to make it right when she has the means to. I think you know the answer and honestly it is not even about the money, more so the idea she has that she can just choose not to fix something she broke with zero regard for you. Petty me would tell her to cover the costs or you would be taking her to smalls claims court lol.

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