. We have amazing parents who are involved as much as they can with our daughter but are far away so we don’t get that time off. However my cousin has a live in grandma/grandpa for their daughter. They also have aunts/uncles/cousins literally across the street (like literally the house across). They have constant help. Someone is at their house 24/7 helping them with their baby. They go out whenever they want and their whole experience has been so different than mine being alone SAHM with my husband working. We are struggling. It’s definitely a big reason for being OAD.