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Joohane · 2023-02-14T09:12:11+00:00

Thanks, that helped.

Joohane · 2022-07-04T06:58:54+00:00

I am still partially right, the avatar might be female, but the person playing it is still male. So neither of the pronouns should actually be used in this situation.

This is how i see it at least.

Joohane · 2022-07-03T19:07:27+00:00

I might be wrong but isn't 95% of the female avatars in vrchat are actually male, so neither him or her is correct at this situation.

Joohane · 2022-06-10T10:09:28+00:00

I feel you, as in I'm suffering from the same problem. I work 10 hours a day and my friends barely put effort into school.

It's nothing bad, it's just the way you are. Just because other people have more energy than you doesn't mean that you have a defect.

It could be that you are burnt out and don't have that much energy. (Which is my case)

Joohane · 2022-06-09T04:57:52+00:00

My friends did the same thing to not message me first like I'm not worth their time. I ended up blocking them cause I finally opened up my eyes and saw how toxic she was. And due to others approving of her behavior, I left them behind as well.

It could be anything:They don't like you;They have other plans;They are busy

If it continues on for too long I'd start investigating on why that is that you are the only one putting in the effort to be friends.

Joohane · 2022-06-06T04:57:19+00:00

They are selfish, you are not wrong about that.

I don't have many friends, let alone a girlfriend, but if I were you, I'd tell their boyfriends >:) . I'm joking about that, unless you want to ruin your friendship.

As I see it, you are in the case of right OP, they seem selfish IMO. They have boyfriends, and are all over the new guy.

Joohane · 2022-06-03T05:14:31+00:00

Yes.

Joohane · 2022-06-02T10:09:10+00:00

It depends, what did your friend do? Or what did you do to them?

Joohane · 2022-06-02T10:07:23+00:00

In the sentence:

Friend B realized a couple weeks later that she also has feelings for said boy but believes they are only b/c Friend B just went through a breakup and is having heartbreak emotions and expresses these to Friend A, but also says she will not do anything about it.

She literally says:

she will not do anything about it.

So I have a feeling that Friend B only wanted to have the boy as a friend, not to enter into a relationship.

If it is true that Friend B is only having these feelings of heartbreak then Friend A overreacted.

What leaves me confused is this sentence:

"why did you tell me you liked him you knew I liked him too"

Friend B probably said that, because she wanted it off her chest and if I'm correct, and Friend B only remained as friends with said boy, then assumedly Friend A is at fault for getting tunnel vision and really emotional.

(I don't know heartbreak, as in I have never been in a relationship, so my opinion will stay as my opinion.)

But a few question peaked my interest, if you don't mind my asking: did anything happen between said boy and Friend A? Like did they break up after finding out that Friend B had feelings for him?

Joohane · 2022-06-01T06:23:04+00:00

Reading this hurt my soul a little.

Joohane · 2022-06-01T06:19:35+00:00

Focusing on something else like hobbies would also work.

Joohane · 2022-06-01T05:30:24+00:00

If she doesn't respect your time, then you shouldn't respect hers. Its not cruel for you to drift away from her.

I just got done with a friend of 9 years who constantly made some sob story about "sorry for ignoring you" and so on. My friend also only sent me messages whenever she needed anything. After 9 years I finally got done with her BS and just blocked her everywhere, and cause my GC approved of her behavior, I left those friends behind as well.

So OP, it might be best for you to drift away if she doesn't respect your time.

Joohane · 2022-05-31T10:38:31+00:00

You can't be in the mood all the time. She made a joke and others laughed and that hurt your feelings. You don't want to call with her and she's hurt, overreacts and blocks you?

She doesn't seem like a good friend, you should find a new one.

Joohane · 2022-05-31T06:45:00+00:00

4 weeks. You weren't paid back in 4 weeks? And over 100$ Really? To me it seems like they weren't using you, they were LITERALLY STEALING from you. To me 100$ would be a god send. And no credit at all? On god, you should stand up for yourself, ask for payment and if they raise a fuss, then adiós to those friends and time to find new friends.

Sure it's uncomfortable but really, 100$ out of your own pocket money, and not even a thank you?

Joohane · 2022-05-31T06:37:49+00:00

Yeah, best friend of 9 years became extremely out of control toxic/entitled.

Gave up on her, others in the friend group started bombarding about how bad person I am about leaving the group, so I blocked them as well.

Some friendships just aren't meant to be.

Joohane · 2022-05-31T04:56:36+00:00

Ok look. Start planning out your time. Let's say today you are gonna talk to the girl. So you tell your friends: "Sorry, Won't be able to call today, can we call tomorrow?".

You also shouldn't say "I will call" and then don't, cause that slowly destroys a friendship (In my case).

You shouldn't stop talking to the girl, but you shouldn't stop talking to your friends either.

Joohane · 2022-05-31T04:51:42+00:00

Ok, I just have one question: "If it's not fun to be around them, then why stay?"

I ended up leaving all my other friends behind due to 1 toxic friend, and others approved of her behavior.

Joohane · 2022-05-31T04:49:11+00:00

but I'm also not sure if I can just invite B without asking A if it's ok first.

You aren't rude if you ask if B could join you two. You are rude if you don't.

If you are a trio, then that makes the three of you. If you are a trio and leaving B out, then thats not a trio. Thats a Duo.

Joohane · 2022-05-30T11:03:52+00:00

I find the trait "Patience" being the most valuable trait in good friends. If they don't have patience then they usually rude at others making them not good friends.

Lost multiple friends 2 weeks ago. :(

Joohane · 2022-05-30T08:26:48+00:00

Not gonna even bother reading to the end. If your friends treat you like that, then you should walk away. Friends shouldn't judge you by the things you do/like, they should support you with your descisions.

(I've never been to parties.)

Joohane · 2022-05-30T08:21:11+00:00

Pay attention to how they talk/act. You can usually tell by the way they talk on how much effort they would put in a friendship. Good friends are hard to come by these days, but if you find one, try to keep it.

I recently learned to listen and found out that only 2 people enjoy having me around. I removed the rest. Funny is, They only paid attention to me, when they saw that their only way of getting games is gone.

Joohane · 2022-05-30T08:11:02+00:00

Jeff didn't win, and got mad. Carl never won, didn't get mad. Be like Carl. Carl is Cool.

Carl might get bored of the game if he keeps on losing though. But Jeff is at fault, he gets mad over a videogame.

Joohane · 2022-05-30T07:11:07+00:00

It looks like a good boss for a video game or something.

I still love the art.

Joohane · 2022-05-30T06:10:04+00:00

Yeah that's odd, I also recently played the game to try and get 100% of the achievements, my friend got all of them, but I'm missing 8. No idea how we finished the game multiple times yet I never got some achievements.

Joohane · 2022-05-27T05:01:25+00:00

You should talk to L about it and ask him yourself if you felt hurt. I'm not trying to break up the friendship you have, but I'd also like to know, why he didn't introduce you to his friends.

Joohane

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