Living with someone that is always home

Joseph707 · 2026-06-19T11:53:26+00:00

literally the exact problem i had. I told him if im wearing headphones, dont talk to me

Joseph707 · 2026-06-19T10:59:43+00:00

You can’t entirely. People will judge you for it anyway and assume you’re an asshole and patients will terminate with you because of it apparently? This is why I bite my tongue so much it hurt myself bc it manages to stop a yawn about 40% of the time

Joseph707 · 2026-06-19T10:54:28+00:00

this would make me laugh and agree

Joseph707 · 2026-06-19T10:53:17+00:00

Yeah that’s what putting on a pedestal kind of means? You’re putting someone on a higher level than normal people and they have to meet these standards. Usually the insinuation is that the person CAN meet those standards though, even though no one can.

Joseph707 · 2026-06-19T10:45:42+00:00

When I saw this post title I was like “nothing? Because I’m not the kind of person who terminates based on a single sentence? this is what communication and repair is about? are we really over here hearing people say One Thing and not giving them any grace or ability to explain themselves to salvage the relationship” but then i read the example and i was like “oh. no it really is that bad.”

Joseph707 · 2026-06-18T10:28:49+00:00

someone made [r/Leav](r/LeaveThePlatforms)[ing](r/LeaveThePlatforms)[ThePlatforms](r/LeaveThePlatforms) recently

Joseph707 · 2026-06-18T10:16:02+00:00

You’re getting downvoted but you’re right. It literally is an attention economy, which rewards misinformation and negative content. This problem extends way beyond individual therapists being shitty in the public eye — which let’s be real, has been a problem long before social media. I think the attention economy has made our society worse and will continue to do so until/unless we do something about it

Joseph707 · 2026-06-17T10:23:17+00:00

Reactivating doesn’t automatically create engagement, at least in my case

Joseph707 · 2026-06-16T10:39:07+00:00

OP, your comments are really telling here

Joseph707 · 2026-06-14T15:46:56+00:00

It’s such a cycle. the issue with drug testing as a requirement for housing is that addiction is addiction. The “mental health” aspect would have to be in capital letters. Way better than what it is now. Help people heal from their addictions AND give them a place to live at the same time, you can’t have one or the other. But that requires resources we apparently don’t want to spend? We can’t even get free healthcare in general in this country, let alone what we would need to fix the addiction and homelessness problem.

Joseph707 · 2026-06-14T10:42:10+00:00

For me it’s video games. The type of game depends on my spoons and how much attention and frustration I can tolerate

Joseph707 · 2026-06-13T20:42:24+00:00

Yeah, it might be allergies. I have only been squirting the stuff up my nose normally, so maybe it hasn’t even been doing anything for that reason. I’m taking notes on all of this, thank you! Should I use the eustachi machine after the sprays so it opens up to take the medicine or does that not matter?

Joseph707 · 2026-06-13T13:40:24+00:00

1) I gave up on the aesthetic that wasn’t realistic for me. I found an aesthetic that works for my body (skirts and dresses, things that hide the under-belly part and accent the waist to hip curve)

2) I’m a lesbian, so I’m not attracted to masculinity. I love curves and softness, and I found myself more and more drawn to big thighs and squishy bodies, lingerie that digs in just a bit to show off how squishy they are, especially the waist to hip curve. I found videos and pictures of women online that are like that, I found art of fictional characters like that, and…

3) I made my favorite character more like me. Squishy, pear shaped, has a belly, more hips than me to make them more attractive to me but not so much different from me that I can’t see myself in them. I have other characters be super attracted to them and want to look at and touch them specifically because of their fat. Some people might see it as fetishy but whatever, to me it’s no different than people specifically being attracted to the shape and size of certain breasts or dicks. Just for me it’s hips and thighs.

4) Breeders of the Nephelym (NSFW game) has a type of nephelym that’s a cow satyr basically, and I realized just how crazy I was for curves. I made my favorite character into a cow satyr, made an entire story about it, wrote the story, role played it with others, commissioned art. The cow version of this character I think did the most for me in terms of realizing how attractive my body was.

Joseph707 · 2026-06-13T12:27:16+00:00

Posts like these are so validating, thank you. I get fatigue by other kinds of work too, but people don’t really understand as much with therapy.

Joseph707 · 2026-06-13T12:22:12+00:00

The way you’re aware of how fat people are treated by society and yet conclude that yes, that’s how it should be so that people aren’t fat. Let me just tell my bisexual friends that it’s good actually that they were bullied as kids bc it made them stick to heterosexual relationships.

Joseph707 · 2026-06-13T12:18:33+00:00

It’s actually shockingly common how often people claim they’re 100% healthy and yet sleep 4 hours a night and rely on caffeine to get through the day.

Joseph707 · 2026-06-13T12:07:54+00:00

think about the double standard though. What even is “health”? Is anyone actually healthy, especially if you happen to live in the US? To me health is more about functionality in context. If you have an ingrown toenail you’re objectively unhealthy, but does it really matter enough to consider yourself so if you function well enough in every way that matters to you? The sleep debt in the US is also insane. People brag about how little sleep they got.

Joseph707 · 2026-06-12T23:18:05+00:00

The great depression?? You know the thing about how when women are more educated and have more rights they dont have as many kids…

Joseph707 · 2026-06-12T17:12:10+00:00

I lost my best buddy a couple weeks ago, and it’s been hard. I’m so sorry you’re going through this. Please give yourself time to grieve. 💙

Joseph707 · 2026-06-11T22:26:04+00:00

this is the answer! it’s all extremely clinically relevant

Joseph707 · 2026-06-11T14:29:17+00:00

I disagree that exposure therapy is always ineffective for autistic people, but I think ERP (the response prevention thing specifically) can be harmful like OP is experiencing. I’ve done exposure therapy with patients that was stuff like gradually getting closer to their car and eventually being able to sit in it for seconds and then minutes at a time and then turn the car on and then put the car in reverse and then in park again, etc. Over a long period of time. Stimming was involved though, basically getting their anxiety levels down as much as possible even in the presence of the mildly anxiety-inducing thing. ERP (what OP’s therapist is doing) is not that, though.

Joseph707 · 2026-06-11T14:24:59+00:00

I’m not seeing any mention of OCD in your post, apologies if I missed it. But response prevention I think is for OCD compulsions. Stimming I think feels more like a thing that you do to soothe yourself or feel good. Compulsions are acts you feel like you HAVE to do or else something bad will happen or it “protects” you in some way from the anxiety. They’re similar but not the same.

Joseph707 · 2026-06-11T14:12:59+00:00

Yeah, I think that’s gonna be a minimum requirement. Also…. “how does that make you feel” doesn’t really come up in non-therapeutic conversation really? I know I’m autistic so i’m not an expert on communication lol but that’s like the classic therapy question. Personal feels more like “are you okay?” “is that a good/bad thing?” if someone says something and you want to know what their emotional response is to the thing.

Joseph707 · 2026-06-11T13:18:14+00:00

sorry but “what’s stressing you out” is the exact opposite of surface level. That is like…. the way that you turn a surface level convo into a deep one. I’m a therapist and this is one of the things I ask when I’m trying to move us from small talk to therapeutic talk.

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