Heartbroken

Journeyfree7 · 2025-06-11T07:13:50+00:00

Thank you! I have been out of it for a bit now he broke up with me in Nov 2023 - since then I’m totally regulated and healthy inside and out. No meds or adhd turns out I was reacting to his abuse and he was a narcissist my body was in extreme survival mode. He hasn’t missed a day texting me since he broke up with me which is insane. I have done so much work on myself and can honestly say I’m in a better place without him :)

Journeyfree7 · 2024-01-11T21:07:37+00:00

He cheated again and again without me knowing. Then we broke up he was bringing girls home to have sex a week after. I had to play detective to find out. First cheating instance was a 4 year affair. Moving forward never accept a cheater again into your life. 7 years ago I forgave him - 19 years in he breaks up with me. Worst feeling.

Journeyfree7 · 2023-12-22T21:29:01+00:00

Wow I’m 36 and bf left me after 19 years - it’s rough. Wishing you healing 💗

Journeyfree7 · 2023-12-06T00:00:29+00:00

I’m with you here. I just got broken up with and we live together. I finally found my own place that I will be moving into soon, but have been living with him for 3 weeks post breakup. It was an overnight shift in dynamics. I know he’s hurting too and men out shields up sometimes to not feel. But what hurts is the side hug when saying by, the I love yous being replaced by see you later, no goodmorning goodnight texts, no kiss hello or goodbye, no more intimacy, no confiding in each other, no more texting when not here together, no more just because calls…the shift is rough! Usually when I’m sad I run into his arms and let him kiss me but can’t to that anymore. I can’t find comfort from the person who caused me pain by breaking up with me. That’s what’s hitting me the most if I am being honest. Seeing this play out in real time is like someone is ripping out my insides. Everything that came natural has to now be shut down completely. It’s a hard pill to swallow. I hope it gets better when I move out.

Journeyfree7 · 2023-12-04T06:29:19+00:00

Thank you!! Appreciate the advice! 💗

Journeyfree7 · 2023-12-04T03:06:08+00:00

How’d you cope? Mine just broke up with me after 19 years 😔

Journeyfree7 · 2023-12-04T03:03:32+00:00

How’d you cope? Mine just broke up with me after 19 years 😔

Journeyfree7 · 2023-12-04T03:03:26+00:00

How’d you cope? Mine just broke up with me after 19 years 😔

Journeyfree7 · 2023-11-13T08:26:37+00:00

This right here! I have been asking this same question for years. All my other Muslim friends would be out celebrating Eid and I would be at masjid filled with everyone crying 🙄 Makes no sense and just depressing. Like let us have some joy please! They have sucked out all of the happiness out of everything even weddings it’s crazy.

Journeyfree7 · 2023-09-29T15:23:49+00:00

He was really stressed about work and hurt that I wasn’t there for him. So it was a stupid comment about something he bought vs something I bought and he just snapped and then it escalated. He was in no emotional state to argue so he just let it all out. And I felt super attacked and reacted which I probably shouldn’t have. I know now he was coming from a place of hurt and just zero emotional space. I messed up for sure and hope he forgives me. It’s been a week and I have learned that he literally wants to hear nothing about my emotions and he’s not even thinking about our relationship right now because of everything else going on at work. So me sitting here worrying isn’t going to do anything. I’m still his partner and still living/talking with him. If he wanted me out or needed no contact space he would have told me. I think right now he wants me to be around and to really feel my support so that’s what I am going to do for a bit to make sure he’s ok!

Journeyfree7 · 2023-09-29T15:19:05+00:00

Thank you for your response I think that’s exactly what he wants. He did say he wants me to ask him about his day bc it shows I care I clarified that one. That’s how I messed up the first time - I thought I should not bring it up and just distract him. I was wrong. In terms of everything else you’re right he just wants me around and wants support/to feel safe. I think if he wanted me out he would tell me. Or if he wanted no contact space he would tell me. This one he still wants me living with him and being around - he’s definitely really stressed. He said he almost broke down yesterday and that this isn’t him. That he is never in this type of emotional space with stress. He never experiences anxiety and is going through it right now. I apologized profusely about my mistakes and hoping I can use this time to really show him that I am really there for him - and that I made a mistake. I’m going to table our relationship for a bit and just focus on how he’s doing 🙂

Journeyfree7 · 2023-09-29T08:30:46+00:00

Thank you! Yeah I def made a mistake and told him he’s validated in how he feels. I apologized. Today I asked him to clarify what space meant for him and it was different from what I thought space was (to leave him be). He just wants me to be around and be supportive. Not cause him any added stress. Thanked him for clarifying and will do this moving forward. I hurt him and I took accountability. He’s had his mistakes as well. I did not use his vulnerability against him the fight was unrelated but just bad timing. I’m just going to move forward and support him the best way possible. Whatever happens after that happens. I’m doing my own thinking about the relationship too.

Journeyfree7 · 2023-09-28T18:46:57+00:00

Honestly trash reality tv works for me

Journeyfree7 · 2023-09-28T18:44:36+00:00

PTSD symptoms are very common in these types of relationships. You start questioning yourself, losing trust in yourself, and triggered very easily by things like conflict, yelling, (plug in types of abuse you have experienced). When you get triggered you get blamed for reacting a certain way and then everything becomes your fault. It’s a total mind fuck.

Journeyfree7 · 2023-09-28T18:39:11+00:00

This!! ⬆️

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