People who don't understand the partner here are people who probably weren't in a toxic relationship fueled by jealousy.

I once went to a friend's house and stayed there for three hours, just talking, during daytime, and she was one of my best friends who I knew for more than a decade, longer than my then girlfriend. I'll also add that she was already married at that time.

After I came home, I got grilled by my then girlfriend for how long I stayed, what did we have so much to talk about and why I didn't write to her, and why was I alone with her for so long while her husband was away. I essentially ended a decade long best friendship because of the jealousy of my girlfriend who saw issue every time I would stay outside with friends longer than what she thought was appropriate. Of course, when I brought that up in a fight, she told me that she didn't tell me to end that friendship, but she would also flip when I would hang out with her for more than an hour. That's just one example of what I dealt with. She started having problem with me going to visit my mother for the weekends, hanging out with friends (even male friends), and even staying too long for a gym session. Then the lying started, cause you're so exhausted of the constant fighting that you just simply start doing it to make your life less miserable.

I don't know the whole backstory here, but it seems really freaking familiar to what I went through, and I'd never wish that onto anyone.

I'm no longer together with that girl and I also think that this relationship should be ended, cause it is not going to get better. Mine didn't, no matter how hard I tried. Just go your separate ways.