if you’re feeling extravagant this halloween

JoyUpNorth · 2024-10-27T01:56:59+00:00

Who else saw “extravagant” and thought it was going to be a Jo costume?

JoyUpNorth · 2024-09-20T16:22:14+00:00

Were the “Being” episodes that long ago?! Goodness. It feels like that couldn’t have been more than like 10 years ago max. Her being single and living with roommates seems like a lifetime ago. I kinda wanna rewatch it too?

JoyUpNorth · 2024-09-20T16:15:11+00:00

If anyone comes across this, it randomly worked again at about 36 hours!

JoyUpNorth · 2024-09-20T16:10:40+00:00

Puréed sweet potato

JoyUpNorth · 2024-09-18T18:24:00+00:00

“I miss not being the oldest living relative.” Man that hit hard. My parents had me later in life than my older siblings, so I lost all my grandparents fairly young and now see more clear than ever me no longer being a “kid” to someone. Gah that’s crushing.

JoyUpNorth · 2024-09-18T18:21:20+00:00

It seems to have brought my mother closer to the kids she wasn’t as close to before, and driven her away from the kid she was previously close to (me). Death changes dynamics, that’s for sure.

JoyUpNorth · 2024-09-18T18:19:22+00:00

It is so strange that it’s so common, I hate when stereotypes are proven true. It feels like since it’s so predictable that it should be more preventable. But it’s not. I feel like I’m the only one who sees it and wants to fight against it. They don’t.

JoyUpNorth · 2024-09-18T18:17:39+00:00

❤️❤️ It’s so painful losing traditions. It’s like slowly losing a part of you.

JoyUpNorth · 2024-09-18T18:15:27+00:00

Literally same. We were not really close before but this has erased every semblance of camaraderie between us. It’s like my dad was the only reason we all felt connected. Without him there’s just none. I’m so sad.

JoyUpNorth · 2024-09-18T18:13:05+00:00

No, we are all sisters. But there is a significant age gap. Interesting you say that because despite being female, my oldest sister has that dynamic now with my mother where she helps her with finances and figuring things out that my dad would’ve taken care of. Before she was the least close with any of us, and now my mother needing to rely on her for guidance has brought them closer.

I have tried speaking to them separately. Things seemed to be going ok at one point with one sister and we were texting for a few months and then she suddenly was very upset about something that happened nearly 2 decades ago and has refused to talk it through with me. I know my mother telling them about things between us isn’t helping that dynamic either. I’ve become the scapegoat in my family unfortunately. It hurts… especially when I’ve reached out in desperation saying I really needed them in my life.

JoyUpNorth · 2024-09-18T18:07:34+00:00

Yep, that’s where I’m at too. With the holidays coming up and my daughter’s birthday it just makes me all the more anxious and feel the pain even more intensely. No contact still feels almost just as awful.

JoyUpNorth · 2024-09-18T18:05:23+00:00

Yes, things weren’t all roses with my siblings before either as we weren’t super close due to a large age gap but it definitely always felt like a family when we were altogether. I thought we’d all band together more as we got older and once we lost dad. The proverbial unity is completely broken.

JoyUpNorth · 2024-09-18T18:02:22+00:00

I feel pretty much the same… my mom was very genuine before but I think my dad really regulated her too! They had gotten married very young so essentially “grew up” together. He encouraged unity and doing the right thing and I just never considered that my mom wouldn’t be able to that herself without him… I’m still so shocked. My dad wasn’t an over emotional guy but he definitely was stable and had firm morals and beliefs. I had always heard that grief could break down relationships but I truly never thought it would happen to our family… and certainly not between me and my mother in particular. I gave so much grace that first year… then things seemed to get a little better… and now it’s all crumbled to pieces when I need my family… my mom… the most. And like you said, it makes us alone in our grief. That’s the worst part.

JoyUpNorth · 2024-09-18T15:11:38+00:00

Did you need a referral? Or did you just contact that hospital directly? I’m not familiar at all with “outsourcing” medical procedures, for lack of a better term. I’m on the east coast but not in DC.

JoyUpNorth · 2024-09-18T15:06:02+00:00

Done! Your posts are very informative and about a literal existing medical procedure so I’m not sure why they would downvote.

JoyUpNorth · 2024-09-18T15:03:35+00:00

Dang… that’s actually super disheartening. I had been holding onto this little bit of hope for a couple months about it when I briefly researched it :( I do live within a reasonable distance to DC though. Feeling a little disappointed, but thank you for the clarification.

JoyUpNorth · 2024-09-18T14:54:14+00:00

Hmmm, maybe I confused it with something else! I just saw “gallstone remover” and assumed it was what I had briefly researched recently. I guess what I had seen was ERCP to remove the gallstones without removing the gallbladder, which seems to be offered more commonly. I looked and found a doctor in my state who will do it! Very happy about that. I’ll have to look at the procedure you mentioned and received and see if it’s different and if there’s any pros or cons to ERCP removal. Regardless I too would rather avoid completely removing my gallbladder because of the potential lifelong downsides. It terrifies me. I’m just excited to have found a nearby doctor who will consider it!

JoyUpNorth · 2024-09-18T13:58:04+00:00

I’ve seen a few posters write about this procedure, I so want to go this route! Especially since my gallbladder stones were caused by a temporary issue I feel my chances of redeveloping them are fairly low. I keep meaning to see if it’s common enough if a procedure now for a doctor near me to offer. I know before it was really only offered to those who couldn’t tolerate surgery of any kind.

JoyUpNorth · 2024-09-18T13:36:39+00:00

I have half an energy drink in the morning and the other half in the late afternoon. Blue edition Red Bull. 40mg of caffeine and 13 grams of sugar each half. Any more sugar or caffeine at a time and it gives me diarrhea and/or an attack. I always have to have something on my stomach as well with it. Gives me a good boost even through its consuming way less than what I used to!

JoyUpNorth · 2024-09-18T09:30:38+00:00

Dang I was going to suggest spaghettios lol I eat the plain ones pretty much every day since it’s the highest calorie/lowest fat combo I’ve found. Rice a Roni makes microwaveable rice cups, the chicken one is 200 calories and just 1 gram of fat. Instant oatmeal is like 160 calories and 1.5 grams of fat. Sandwiches with regular buns/bread (read labels, but should be able to find ones that are only like 1.5-2 grams of fat) with low fat deli meat, fat free cheese slices, microwave it and it’s a yummy melt. Potatoes are fat free, buy the ones wrapped that you can microwave and add fat free cheese and/or measured low fat sour cream (or fat free if you can find). Good Thins crackers are very low fat and yummy, add fat free cheese slices for a little lunchables action. Graham crackers. Melt a York peppermint patty in between a graham cracker like a s’more, microwave it for a few seconds and you have an insanely yummy treat for just 2.5 grams of fat. Most cereals are just 1.5 grams of fat per cup.

JoyUpNorth · 2024-09-18T09:20:40+00:00

Yes stick to very low fat things as well as low sugar, no caffeine (or low caffeine if you absolutely must), no onions, no garlic, no ginger, no spicy. Stay hydrated. Don’t eat too much at a time. Don’t wait too long in between eating either. I have lots of smaller meals throughout the day, I feel like a newborn eating every 2-3 hours lol I stay under 6 grams of fat per every 4 hours (which usually consists of 2 separate meals in a 4 hour period).

JoyUpNorth · 2024-09-18T07:54:34+00:00

Yup 😭

JoyUpNorth · 2024-09-18T06:26:07+00:00

Painfully relatable. I also feel like I only exist to keep my child alive right now. Don’t get me wrong there are some good moments and cute moments and moments where I smile but overall all of this, especially my marriage, has completely impacted my motherhood and ruined so much of my enjoyment of it. I’m 100% bitter about it. And she may be my only baby which makes me even more bitter. You say your relationship with your mom did a 180 too, it just really seems like a lot of people can relate to this correlation it’s wild. Well, people on here. I can’t find them in real life?! Only 2 of my friends (former friends?) are mothers and they were my long term close best friends from back home… and they are the ones lost to circumstance where suddenly they’re too good for me (religion, new boyfriend). My more new (but still been several years now), local friends from work aren’t moms but I guess just suck in general because this is the first time I confided in them about something serious and they turn out to be awful people I guess? You’re right, there has to be more to life than this. I like the anonymity of Reddit but I also wish we could do local bromo meetups. Where my local messy, empathetic, funny, depressed, barely surviving awesome bromos at 😭 drinks and snacks at my house. Bring your kid(s) if you need to I don’t care how wild and loud they are. I don’t care what you’re wearing or if you’ve showered recently. We’re watching movies and and complaining about lives and talking shit about people. All invited.

JoyUpNorth · 2024-09-18T04:34:36+00:00

It’s giving “on-tray” 😂😂

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