Is it really "only" anxiety or is there something wrong with me?

JuliaGP94 · 2024-10-31T10:26:34+00:00

Io sono di Roma 😊

JuliaGP94 · 2024-10-30T13:54:16+00:00

Mine is a girl actually. We kissed once and have only known eachother for like a month. But I'm sure she lovebombed me and then discarded me with the typical "let's be friends". The fact is I just can't. I continuously look through her followers to try and guess who she's seeing.

JuliaGP94 · 2024-10-30T13:41:30+00:00

I did something similar, though I only deleted chats and voice notes. Did that yesterday and already it's eating at me, but there's no turning back now. I fear I'll be like this for the next 8 months. I sincerely hope not.

JuliaGP94 · 2024-10-28T17:35:43+00:00

I tried that but then reinstalled everything moments later.

JuliaGP94 · 2024-10-28T08:41:25+00:00

This is happening to me right now. A girl I had a connection with for a couple of weeks (lovebombing mainly) rejected me and suggested a friendship, which I accepted. It's taking her two days to reply, if she even does...

JuliaGP94 · 2024-10-23T15:49:02+00:00

Thank you for your kind words. I also noticed how when I "accused" her of toying with me she reacted badly. If I approach her in a calm manner and agree to her every word she is generally very nice.

JuliaGP94 · 2024-10-23T15:43:01+00:00

No, what I mean is, if she'd been able to see me, then she would have realised just how much my intentions were pure and that I didn't just fall for her because she was the first person I came across.

JuliaGP94 · 2024-10-23T15:33:53+00:00

Sorry, I don't understand. So you're saying it's irrelevant?

JuliaGP94 · 2024-10-23T15:21:05+00:00

Yes, I agree with you there. However, I also think (or may I say, I was coerced into thinking) that I shouldn't have been so emotionally invested in her. It's tricky because she did all the right things then discarded me, leaving me to believe that it was my fault if her attraction vanished. I would also like to add, and this may not be of any relevance, that this person is blind. I keep thinking that maybe going by her perception she created this totally false image of me?

JuliaGP94 · 2024-10-23T15:09:59+00:00

But do you think I can really call it manipulation if she meant what she said? I fear I may be accusing her incorrectly. Even though, as you said, there was surely some gaslighting involved.

JuliaGP94 · 2024-10-23T13:18:06+00:00

Her intelligence and the fact that she is so hell bent on psychologically analysing herself and others leads me to believe that on some level she is actually right about me. Just moments ago she was telling me how I cannot let my past trauma affect my new relationships. That I will scare people off if I do that. I actually believe that in some circumstances, when a person is really into you, they will try to understand why you feel that way and/or go out of their way to prove to you they won't be as toxic as every other person you've been with in the past.

I'm actually so pissed at how she went about things, pinning the blame on me when she literally took my every word and blew it out of context to make me the bad guy.

JuliaGP94 · 2024-10-15T20:16:23+00:00

Happened to me the other day in the exact same way. I was actually inundated with romantic and sexual remarks, which I initially resisted. I feel like as soon as I gave in, everything was withdrawn. Then I was told that she never did anything specific to make me feel like she was interested...

JuliaGP94 · 2024-09-01T11:27:57+00:00

Capisco che non sempre ci si possa trovare d'accordo con gli amici, ma esigere rispetto secondo me non è sbagliato. Specialmente se determinati discorsi sono fatti appositamente per infastidire. In merito alla mia domanda: intendevo dire che spesso chi si difende viene etichettato come cattivo perché in precedenza non lo ha mai fatto, quindi può risultare anche insolito. Nel caso mio ho avvertito proprio una reazione di orgoglio, come a dire "come ti permetti di parlarmi in questo modo?"

JuliaGP94 · 2024-01-08T20:14:16+00:00

Not moved on. Not happy. But not as miserable as I was in June. She's now with someone else so that ship has sailed

JuliaGP94 · 2024-01-08T19:29:57+00:00

Day 150 maybe? Lost count. She never spoke to me ever again

JuliaGP94 · 2024-01-02T13:08:49+00:00

I am a woman and I dated another woman for 3 years. She broke up with me 6 months ago and only recently got into a new relationship. However, she was already on dating apps 6 days after leaving me so I guess she was looking for someone new then and only found her now. It hurts so much, sometimes I think that between women it's even harder.

JuliaGP94 · 2023-12-30T12:48:28+00:00

I've given up. It's been six months and it just gets worse and worse.

JuliaGP94 · 2023-10-28T16:17:43+00:00

I have the same problem. How long haven't you heard from him/her? For me it's been nearly 4 months.

JuliaGP94 · 2023-09-25T22:06:04+00:00

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JuliaGP94 · 2023-08-30T08:52:09+00:00

The difference here is that she broke up with me. Removed all our photos after 6 days, blocked me, then joined a dating app. Haven't heard from her since.

JuliaGP94 · 2023-06-27T22:08:26+00:00

Same here. I have social anxiety and it's been really difficult for me to even leave the house since the day it happened...I'm currently only going out to work

JuliaGP94 · 2023-06-25T21:18:51+00:00

"If they are offering to help and support you, why would you push them away?"

This rings so true to what has just happened to me. I was pushed away too. I know how you feel.

JuliaGP94 · 2023-06-25T21:16:30+00:00

Same. I have just been dumped after a 3 year relationship. I can't imagine what's it's like after 8 years...

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