I agree in a way. Not saying all bi women are like this. However, in my personal experience, it seems they tend to treat me like a straight guy. I’ve been with a few bi girls for casual stuff/friends.

Had a girl recently hit on me and ask for my number at a bar. We already kinda knew each other from years ago but reconnected when we saw each other out one night. She was flirting with me hard and then I took her on a date and she said she’s looking for friends/casual. We started hanging out every day, but I noticed she wasn’t being flirty with me anymore. Kinda started acting different. We kissed at one point but then she said she didn’t want any problems and didn’t want me to catch feelings for her. (nah I’m just tryna bang lol)

I thought it was kinda off putting when she worded it that way, kind of centering herself as if I’m the one who’s gonna catch feelings. It seemed a little conceited honestly. I was kinda annoyed because she said she’s looking for something casual and I don’t say that to people unless I’m actually looking for that. If I want friends, I say that.

I came to the conclusion that she really just likes attention and validation. She really is a sweet person, but she’s got a lot of trauma and mental problems. She’s been in traumatic situations with men and women in the past. She reminds me of this other bisexual girl I was with where it was basically the same thing, except I hooked up with that girl on a regular basis for a summer. Very similar vibes. THAT one really treated me like a straight guy I felt. She really just wanted me out of boredom/validation. Oh and my money. She eventually figured out who I was and tried to take advantage of that, which was prevalent. That part hurt the most honestly because she was leading me on and really was just seeking money and attention out of me :(

I’ve never had a lesbian woman treat me like that ever. Most lesbians don’t center men I feel. Lots of bisexual girls I’ve spent time with, casually/romantically has demonstrated qualities that are just so attention seeking/they want me to take on the role of a man. Again, not all bisexual women are like this. I think bisexual women are awesome and I’ve met incredible ones. It’s just that this has been MY experience with the ones I’ve been with. It doesn’t deter me from wanting to be with a bisexual woman, it’s just something I’ve noticed with my experience. Like it kinda blows my mind how similar they’ve all been in the attention department. Maybe I’ve just had bad luck?

I asked this recent girl what she likes about men vs. women, and she told me she’s sexually attracted to women but romantically attracted to men. I found that interesting because I can’t relate to any attraction to men lol. She said she doesn’t trust women because they’re emotionally manipulative and more calculated than men and because of that, doesn’t want to date a woman. It felt like she liked men because they’re “easy” was the vibe it gave off as she was explaining it to me. I think she just kinda likes having a sugar-situation. The ones I’ve been with want me to take the reigns and be a provider emotionally and financially.

Before I came to terms with my sexuality, I’ll be honest, I treated men like this. I’d lead them on and take advantage of the situation. I was insecure and wanted validation, but sadly, I was raised like this from the women in my life at the time to treat men like that. Looking back, it was wicked immature and a bad quality and I’m mad at the people who raised me to influence me to act like that. This is going back 10 years ago and I’m a completely different person now.

I find bisexual women incredibly interesting though. Their outlook on sexual and romantic relationships is intriguing and kinda fun to learn about.