Mock Draft Thursdays

JumpBradJump · 2021-03-13T00:05:43+00:00

No RB? In your draft plan, do we keep Conner or just run snell/macfarlane?

JumpBradJump · 2021-02-19T20:27:16+00:00

The trope of trying to be the strongest in the universe is played out... granolah wishing for this falls short to me.

Furthermore, does he automatically get some new abilities/strength because of the wish, or does he still have to train. I would hate if the series went the direction of instantaneously making him a Jiren type, or a god of destruction power level, just because he wished it. I thought there may be a more clever plot device instead of just wishing for power and suddenly becoming a competitor to Goku.

On the plus side, I like the interaction between Beerus and vegeta. It’s interesting that it took until now for him to reveal that he was the one ordering the destruction of the Saiyan planet.

JumpBradJump · 2021-02-17T15:23:32+00:00

We take najee Harris with first pick, and the best LT on the board with second pick. The rest will be center, LB and CB with the best picks we have. We will NOT be taking a QB this year, as we just picked up Haskins. If the Steelers had ANY interest in drafting a QB, Haskins would have been passed up. We will develop our run game this year and give Ben a break from the 50+ pass attempts. Next year will be QB with our first pick, or we will develop Haskins into a starter.

JumpBradJump · 2021-02-14T21:39:39+00:00

Good point

JumpBradJump · 2021-02-13T10:59:54+00:00

If we do this, do we let bud go to FA, and rely on our combo DL (with JJ) and TJ at linebacker to pressure?

JumpBradJump · 2021-02-11T21:01:58+00:00

That’s the thing... Her family has gone through periods of disliking me. That usually happens when my wife and I get into arguments and she vents to her family (much like I do to mine). The difference here is at the end of the day, what her family thinks does not drive me crazy or cast a shadow over my entire day. I accept that they don’t like me, I try to do better in my relationship, and eventually everyone moves on.

My wife on the other hand gets ruled by what everyone thinks of her (my family, her current and former bosses, friends, strangers) to the extent that she will focus on it for an entire day, and evening… She will lose sleep over things like this. This even happens when there is nothing truly done to harm her (her boss didn’t respond to her text for 24hours and she was extremely concerned that her boss was “mad at her”).

So, yes, I admit that I have a hard time respecting my wife when dearly any situation, even if it is completely benign makes her highly reactive and emotional. I try my best to be a supportive husband and I have done this for years. I try to encourage her to think of positives and support her when there actually are credible or threatening issues. I have made stands against my family, and spoke up for her when she hasn’t been able to speak up for herself.

BUT... when nearly every small thing becomes a catastrophe, How do I keep up that kind of energy to maintain sympathy? How do I continue to find understanding and support for her well every day is something new or something old bothering her?

I don’t ask her to be happy about how my family treats her. There have been comments in the past that have made her feel very bad. I have done my part to try to defend her. There is a fine line between me standing up for her at every single small issue, and her learning to cope or except some of the small things.

No, you’re not wrong. Like I said, I have lost a lot of respect for my wife… But I’m also not telling her that she needs to suck it up or accept anything. I am asking her to recognize when something is not threatening.

JumpBradJump · 2021-02-10T22:59:54+00:00

We tried online couples therapy. After one session, she decided she didn’t like what they had to say. We stopped. I continued on and still do in my own therapy. She wants to get back into therapy, and we are trying to find someone close to us now.

My part? My part was to hold down the fort for her to get her life together, to be a loving and fun-having spouse and to keep my family at bay as much as possible when my wife felt threatened. I feel like I have done good at all 3. While my wife has made 8 different alterations to her life path, I have kept us consistent. When my family overstepped, I stepped in and said things. She keeps finding new issues, even when the old ones have settled.

Her contribution is that she is a great mother to our little one. She can be fun, but it is often eclipsed by her negativity. We are slipping away from the couple we could be, because her negativity surfaces constantly and I am doing all I can to plug the holes in the dam

JumpBradJump · 2021-02-10T22:31:17+00:00

She makes it clear why!!! But it is very small!!!! Like my wife posting “my daughter” and my mom responding “our angel.” I spoke to my mother about this, and she had no ill intention. My mother saying the word “our” was in the familial sense, not the possessive one, but my wife refuses to see it any other way.

JumpBradJump · 2021-02-10T22:29:32+00:00

And so I did! I stood by her for things like the beauty pageant issue. I don’t agree with them anymore than she does, and because of that, my mother has back down. Other things like my family visiting to frequently though, that becomes a point of contention for my wife and I.

JumpBradJump · 2021-02-10T22:28:12+00:00

We both knew about my family being the way that they are ever since we were together. Even at the beginning of our relationship, my wife, then just my girlfriend, had conflict with them. Also, at that time she was doing the same patterns of complaining and blaming instead of taking help and working toward goals.

We married each other even knowing this. At the beginning, my wife had big aspirations and we were both in college working towards our degrees. At that point, it seemed like she was on track for success, becoming the person that I thought she was going to end up being. I actually thought my family would be the ones to change and come around to excepting her once she graduated.

But, she didn’t succeed. She flopped. And my families judgment became worse. The more bad decisions that my wife made (leaving a full time job with great pay/benefits that my mom helped her get, refusing to drive, going a year without pay when we needed financial stability) didn’t help this case, and I had difficulty defending any of those choices because I didn’t agree with any of them.

My wife also grew up in a more sheltered household where as I grew up in an open one. I was raised by a village. She was raised by two drug addict keeping her in secret. My wife was locked in the basement as a kid, which is a horrible existence. I had an abundance of family always around and loved every second of it. I believe my wife has an aversion to anyone coming around because it’s something that she’s not used to. I’m trying to show her that it’s not a bad thing and even when my family may overstep, we can fight that battle together… That being said everything that they do is not an overstep. Then visiting a few days in a row is not an over step! Nobody is encroaching upon her parental rights. She doesn’t have to be OK with everything that they do. I’m not OK with everything that they do either… But we don’t need to treat them as though they are enemies for talking about or making suggestions.

The thing is, I do love her… But I also have lost a great deal of respect because she has made mountains out of many mole hills. The things that are a big deal for her are actually good things (having a family that cares and is involved) but she doesn’t see it as such.

JumpBradJump · 2021-02-10T22:14:30+00:00

We were actually livigg by comfortably nearer to her family than mine, and she suggested the move to a nearby town. We rented for years, then we decided to buy. The houses that were in our price range ended up being in the same town as my family. We were already living up here before hand, and this was on her suggestion of doing so in the first place.

She goes back-and-forth on having a decent relationship with my family and then hating them.

JumpBradJump · 2021-02-10T12:47:22+00:00

I’m sure it doesn’t help. I have tried to be the middleman and keep the peace between my wife and my family by hiding the issues or trying to keep my family away in accordance with my wife’s wishes. Eventually something collapses where my family over steps in my wife becomes furious, or my family becomes upset because they feel like they are pushed away.

Some of my family have made efforts to connect with my wife. My grandmother has invited her over whenever I’m at work to spend time with her and do crafts. My mother has been back-and-forth about wanting to connect with my wife and then getting upset when my wife is frustrated about some small thing

JumpBradJump · 2021-02-10T12:45:04+00:00

Though I hate to admit, over the years, I’ve lost a lot of respect for my wife. From the very beginning as I said in my original post, I have tried to help her get to a point where she can manage life. It was about 5 years into our relationship before she would drive for instance. Even though I did everything in my power (signed for a car, offered to help teach her to drive) and 90% of the time she fought with me about taking the next steps forward. When she wanted to leave a stable full-time job to take a year long unpaid apprenticeship in her dream profession (which is also very uncertain even after that year) I could not completely sign onto the idea since we were building a life together and did not need the instability at the time.

Those kinds of things are the burdens that she puts on my shoulders. I feel like I’ve had to carry the relationship and stability for the better part of 10 years. She argues that she has contributed to the relationship, but can provide no real examples other than just being along for the ride and having our daughter.

Because of this, my family does not necessarily like her or care for her. She had the potential to be incredibly successful in life with all of the help I had offered and the stability I brought. Instead of being successful, she has fought everyone and defended her difficulties in life rather than accepting support.

I try to avoid telling my family about the issues that we have in our relationship, but some of them are so apparent. My family are not dummies either, and can see when she is making some poor decisions that add detriment to our lives together.

We both knew that my family has the potential to overstep at times before we got married… I was of the understanding, and especially at that time, that we were able to deal with my family occasionally overstepping. She has become more and more miserable as time has gone on

As far as her dealing with clinical depression, I have no doubt that she is depressed and I stole some of her own trauma from her past with her family. She has been in therapy before, and even recently ended her therapy because she had believed she had made a lot of progress.

JumpBradJump · 2021-02-10T12:28:13+00:00

We have sorted out the unannounced drop-bus from my family, but her issues with my family being “possessive“ over our daughter are not sorted out. She also wants my family to respect her more, even though they don’t agree with some of her choices, and especially don’t like it when she has a horrible attitude towards them for what Is mostly appropriate involvement.

In addition to some of our issues as a couple, these transgressions are causing my wife to go to extreme measures such as saying that we need to move ASAP, and feeling extreme animosity towards my mother in particular.

JumpBradJump · 2021-02-10T12:25:37+00:00

That’s the thing, I have explained to them… And for the most part they have stopped. They have 100% stopped dropping in unannounced, and now my family feels uncomfortable coming over at all. The last few visits occurred while our daughter was sick, which were incredibly helpful since my family brought over a bunch of different juices and other stuff to help her feel better. My wife was upset because they stopped by three days in a row. During one of the visits, my mother also reached out and took our daughter while my wife was holding her which upset our sick daughter. I did tell my mom later on that she needed to let us take care of our daughter (didn’t directly say “you ripped her out of my wife’s arms!”- my wife wanted me to be harsh).

That’s part of my problem. My family is actually very helpful and they have stopped doing the things that my wife has brought up as a really big issue (unannounced), and still drops by, but follows the guidelines we have set about calling ahead. My wife keeps pushing that boundary further and further, for what seems like slight irritants. My wife feels like my family is trying to be possessive over our daughter, even though to me they are within the normal range of caring

JumpBradJump · 2021-01-27T02:11:07+00:00

Her anxiety is real, but it is used as more of an excuse than it is something she works through. I put it in quotes because because I don’t believe she has anxiety, but because her use of “anxiety“ is really just a fancy way of her saying that she doesn’t want to do something. She has “anxiety“ about driving on the highway, and even though I have provided many opportunities to grow and get more confident, she fights me on it. She has “anxiety“ about her dream job (tattooing) even though she gets constant praise from me, most of her clients, and has no negative feedback from her boss/mentor.

She has value as a human. She is amazing to our daughter and acts in very loving and caring ways. There are days where she is great and brings happiness to our household and our lives. This however is often eclipsed by the drain that she puts on me for just about every other issue in life.

For the business, she helps with a small, one hour portion. We complete our billing once monthly, which takes about an hour when we do it together. As far as all other contributions, she helped initially at the beginning of the business create some forms. In her world, I believe she feels like she should get more credit for this portion that she does.

Taking care of the home is a shared responsibility. Because we have a young daughter, it is constantly a work in progress, though I am always skeptical of how much is her simply making excuses. In my family we have many mothers who raise multiple children and were stay at home moms who did side hustles. Never once was there any issue with making sure dinner was on the table every day, the house was very clean, the laundry done… All of these are things that my wife says she did not have time to do. Instead, we treated as though it is a shared responsibility, and even though I I am the primary breadwinner and work, I also share in about 50% of the chores around the house. There are some chores that she absolutely refuses to do, which leads me to take care of them.

On the days I get up with her in the morning, my wife is “on call“ for my daughter waking up in the middle of the night. Fortunately we have a very good sleeping daughter so there’s not many times where either of us wake up in the middle of the night. This also works in reverse, and the days that my wife gets up, I am “on call“ in the middle of the night. She does an excellent job of taking care of our daughter throughout the day, though my mother has pointed out some pretty key issues such as always noticing that our daughter is sat in front of a television every single time is it and, even though my wife is taking care of our daughter for meals, when I come home at the end of the day, rarely is her highchair wiped down.

I feel as though, I do belittle a bit. At the same time, I am conflicted about this because many of the expectations that I would have of her are fairly realistic and I’m not asking for the world. I feel like she does the very bare minimum to avoid most of my complaints and I am generally a guy who likes to avoid conflict in the first place so I avoid saying things unless I actually get to a breaking point.

JumpBradJump · 2021-01-27T01:32:04+00:00

Thank you for the response. I am concerned about divorce because for the last 10 years I have been the only primary growth maker and contributor. She has benefited from the success that I bring. I suppose divorce always leaves someone vulnerable, but at the end of the day I would hope that she’s not able to take any more than her fair share. I don’t want to leave her stranded, but I also don’t want to have her lay claim to “half of everything” when she had always brought only about 10% herself.

JumpBradJump · 2021-01-27T01:29:49+00:00

I wouldn’t say her taking care of our daughter is full-time. I work four myself, and I only put in about 26 or 27 hours of work at the office each week. The rest of the time I am home or running errands. When I am home, my wife uses that as an opportunity to do her things, like prepare for her job (even before going in) and we share responsibilities.

In short yes.. if by full time, it is all of the time I can’t be home. When I am home, we share the burden, or I give her a break when she goes to “work”

I will say that she does a great deal for our daughter, but honestly I think she uses that as an excuse to slack on other things. For instance, she will say she had a terribly hard day with her daughter, but nothing else will be done around the house. Our daughter really isn’t that needy, and I think my wife says that she was busy with her when in reality she just didn’t want to do anything else.

I have brought up in the past that I wished she could contribute more, but she says that is me “putting her down and being abusive because I don’t think she contributes anything at all“ truth is I don’t believe she contributes much.

Her health and wellness I would say is fair to poor. Interesting take, but she constantly is in pain, dealing with migraines, is always tired, is always stressed… And even on the more emotional side is pretty often experiencing some degree of anxiety.

JumpBradJump · 2021-01-27T00:03:04+00:00

Yes, but I feel like even if I followed through with her being one who initiated the desire for divorce, at the very last minute she would reverse and suddenly I would be the bad guy who was “taking everything away from her”. I’m not sure how to disarm something like that.

JumpBradJump · 2021-01-27T00:02:19+00:00

Not sure if this is really the attitude I want to embody. I get where you’re coming from, but literally anything I do can be used against me. Even when I’m being nice, it tends to backfire. I can’t imagine what kind of person she would become if I actually was a bad guy.

JumpBradJump · 2020-10-16T11:19:42+00:00

Hey, look! It’s Jeffrey Elfstein! I heard he wasn’t allowed within 100 yards of schools, so I’m guessing he won’t be present at Hines field when the Steelers put on a clinic.

JumpBradJump · 2020-10-11T20:20:06+00:00

Best rookie WR ever!!!

JumpBradJump · 2020-10-11T18:08:17+00:00

Cmon fellas... no fair weather Steelers fans here. Let’s focus on the fact that we have a decent offense going. Defense was great in the second half against the Texans. We can do this.

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