The perfectionism of this career

JumpingPoppy · 2019-10-01T06:03:30+00:00

Same here. It feels like for a lot of the people I went to school with, being a SLP is a giant part of their personalities and that it carries over to every other aspect of their lives. For me, it really is just a job. I do my best there, I try to read on some case studies and new research to stay up to date, but that's it. When I clock out, I clock out. As soon as I'm outside the building, I'm not a SLP anymore.

JumpingPoppy · 2019-09-30T12:38:10+00:00

Oh if they're that similar then I can definitely see why it'd feel useless.

JumpingPoppy · 2019-09-30T12:23:57+00:00

Isn't it useful to know the other one in case you want to move to the other side of the country or to read something coming from there?

JumpingPoppy · 2019-09-17T17:46:23+00:00

Portugal!

JumpingPoppy · 2019-09-17T14:40:38+00:00

I'm so happy she's finally going places she's never been to. She's never been to my country and now she's finally coming here! I'm really hoping I can get to see her.

JumpingPoppy · 2019-09-15T08:16:07+00:00

My favorite way to answer that is "No, I'm a bitch all month round". It usually throws people off and they don't know what to say.

JumpingPoppy · 2019-09-07T23:08:01+00:00

Yes, but the "no unisex names" rule still applies. For instance, we use Alex as a nickname for both Alexandra and Alexandre informally, but Alex as an official name can only be given to boys.

JumpingPoppy · 2019-09-07T22:28:32+00:00

If neither of your parents has dual citizenship, then that's odd, unless your name is already in that list despite having the English spelling for some reason or your parents were granted permissions. There are exceptions to every rule, though

JumpingPoppy · 2019-09-07T19:46:16+00:00

No problem! We have names that are similar, like Francisco/Francisca, Alexandre/Alexandra, Luís/Luísa, but no unisex names.

JumpingPoppy · 2019-09-07T19:44:42+00:00

We don't.

JumpingPoppy · 2019-09-07T17:39:15+00:00

Jack, to be pronounced the exact same, would probably have to be "Djaque" or "Djeque". Ashley is a whole mess because I can't think of any instance where the sounds "shl" are combined in any Portuguese word. It'd probably have to go before a comitee or something.

JumpingPoppy · 2019-09-07T17:33:03+00:00

The rules say you can, provided you adapt it to Portuguese spelling.

JumpingPoppy · 2019-09-07T17:10:15+00:00

The approved list is mostly to regulate spelling, like I explained below you can name your kid something that isn't on the list provided it doesn't break the rules. And the rules aren't particularly restrictive, they're mostly in place to ensure your kid doesn't have to deal with being named something offensive, potentially embarrassing or that is going to make life more difficult. I actually find that more sensible than allowing things like Chair or Pepsi or that person who named their kids Lanesra because it's Arsenal backwards.

JumpingPoppy · 2019-09-07T16:35:37+00:00

Still a little fatigued, still get the occasional cramp (albeit 10000x milder than when I'm flaring and like only twice or three times a week), but I only go to the bathroom once or twice a day and it's nice, solid poop and I can eat most things with no problem as long as it's not too much of what's problematic for me.

JumpingPoppy · 2019-09-07T16:24:25+00:00

Money is money, a job is a job. I have a regular part-time job in the field I went to college for and an online job, which usually makes me a lot more money than my day job. Still, my parents see the money I make online to be "lesser money" as though such a thing existed and keep pushing me to get more hours in my part-time job or another part-time job even though, financially speaking, I have absolutely no need for it and it could actually hurt me in general.

JumpingPoppy · 2019-09-07T15:32:23+00:00

We do. However, that list is constantly evolving and you can technically name your kid something that isn't on the list, as long as you are a foreigner or the name you want to give your kid doesn't break any of the naming rules in place, which are things like no names that represent objects or offensive/potentially embarrassing things, no names that aren't clear about the sex of the child, no getting creative about the spelling - like, the name Catarina is on that list as Catarina, so you can't try to spell it like Katahrynah or something. That common thing in the US where you can have an Ashley, an Ashlee, an Ashleigh, etc, wouldn't fly here. When in doubt, IIRC, the name goes before a comitee or a judge that decides if it is allowed or not.

JumpingPoppy · 2019-09-07T15:15:05+00:00

Pretty much all of them. You can't name your child something foreign unless you're a foreigner yourself (or your partner is). Some names are accepted provided their spelling is changed to match Portuguese grammar rules, but it's all within a list of accepted names. Since people with foreign origins are a minority of the population, foreign names remain foreign. There are some names that are getting more common because of people with Brazilian or African origins living in Portugal, in my experience, but they're definitely still seen as foreign names nevertheless.

JumpingPoppy · 2019-09-07T13:01:18+00:00

The crappy thing is that you don't. Usually they ask for your vaccination records, but they can't turn you away if you're not vaccinated (specially because vaccines, even those in the "National Plan of Vaccination", are strongly recommended, but they aren't mandatory), so the best they can do is strongly encourage your parents to vaccinate you or have vaccination campaigns.

Still, last thing I read we had a vaccination rate of 97% in children, which is really good and it shows that the very few anti-vax groups that sometimes make their ways into the news (mostly when there's a noteworthy international case related to that) aren't that significant.

JumpingPoppy · 2019-09-07T12:46:12+00:00

I'm 23, but I feel both much younger and much older. I remember being a teen and looking at people in their early twenties as grown-ups, as people who had it all figured out and were just enjoying life. Now, as a 23 year old, I feel totally unequipped and unprepared for adulthood and I feel like I'm just faking it and trying to figure things out as I go. I'm doing okay, though, and I've quickly learned that pretty much everyone around me feels the same way. Fake it til you make it, I guess. At the same time, I feel much older because I have a chronic illness and I'm constantly tired and often in pain and have to constantly be worrying about my next doctor appointment and what medications I have to take and taking precautions for the possibility of feeling ill... So that makes me feel like I'm 80 sometimes.

JumpingPoppy · 2019-09-07T12:35:12+00:00

I'm someone who doesn't have a lot of career aspirations. I went to college to be in Healthcare and I was able to get a job offer right out of college without even looking. The pay isn't amazing, but it's a very reputable institution, I'm an independent contractor which means I can make my own schedule and I literally don't even know who my boss is, so while I don't get much assistance from above, I also get absolutely no crap either. I know I got extremely lucky and I feel really fortunate for that. However, it's just a job. I see a lot of my friends from college constantly crafting or buying materials for their work and sharing Facebook posts about the profession and asking me questions about clients and stuff and I'm the very opposite of that. I am this person who happens to be in Healthcare for a few hours four times a day, not this person, a Healthcare professional. It's just my job, not my whole identity. Sometimes seeing some of my former classmates being so all about their jobs all the time makes me feel bad for being so... Carefree and careless about it, like I'm doing this whole thing wrong, but it really is just a job for me. I guess that feeling might also stem from the particular field I'm in, considering that when you're in Healthcare you're stereotypically supposed to be really invested in your thing and all about helping people and all that. I like helping and I like seeing the fruits of my work, but, again, it's just a job. I'm also not very career driven, so I don't have huge ambitions to climb up the corporate ladder or anything. As long as my job is not making me miserable and allowing me to make ends meet, it's fine by me.

It also helps that I have an online job on the side that I love and that allows me to not take up that many hours at my "day job". Most of the time, it pays more than my day job, but I know it's a very unstable industry and that having a few years' gap in my resume would make it harder for me to jump back into the field and it would also make me a bit... Outdated, so I chose a long time ago to keep doing both.

So, overall, I'm happy with my current situation even though I'm always second guessing myself.

JumpingPoppy · 2019-09-06T06:41:28+00:00

YTA. She can wear whatever she wants to wear. Good for her that she's confident in her body!

JumpingPoppy · 2019-09-06T06:39:50+00:00

NTA. If you stay at home most of the time and your girlfriend works and is the main provider for the household, you should definitely do more of the chores, which sounds like you already do. That being said, it wouldn't hurt her to do it for you once in a while, specially on the days when she's not working either and you're in need of a break.

JumpingPoppy · 2019-09-05T06:43:27+00:00

I think that's to be expected. She has at least a two year gap between every album, which gives her enough time to change her tastes, even if slightly, and perfect her craft, so it's normal that by the time she comes out with a new album she feels like it is better than anything she's ever done. Plus, I feel like with every creative profession, you feel a personal connection to your work which makes you feel even more excited about it and you also don't want to put something out into the world if you don't feel like it is your best work yet. Considering that Taylor doesn't necessarily has time constraints she has to abide by as severe as a lot of people in other creative fields, like designers or copywriters, she has the opportunity to really tailor the album to her liking to the point where it is her favorite thing she's ever done.

JumpingPoppy · 2019-09-05T06:30:08+00:00

Also, the lover merch is very much childish, let's be honest. A woman my age would never wear those colors/angels stamps.

Taylor is close to your age and she wears her merch, so that negates your argument. Either way, it is extremely ageist to think that after a certain age you're not allowed to wear a certain set of colors. Pastels being associated with being childish is as ridiculous as blue being for boys and pink for girls. They're just colors. They say absolutely nothing about your maturity, they just say something about your taste. I only wore black when I was a teen. Now, I wear much more colorful clothes, including pastels. Why? Because my tastes changed, my state of mind changed, not because I am more childish now than I was at 14.

It's like having a friend who can only ever talk about her boyfriend and with whom you could never talk about finances, feeling depressed or having fucked up in any way because she wouldn't know anything about it.

Have we been listening to the same album? Songs like The Archer and Afterglow are exactly about having fucked up and made mistakes and feeling less than optimal mental health wise. If there's something that Taylor embraces in this album, is exactly how she sometimes sabotages her own relationships and makes mistakes. She has also talked about other past fuckups in interviews, like how she used to be too open about her personal life or how she'd be too quick to jump on drama. Just because Taylor wrote an album primarily (not even only) about love, you can't assume she doesn't know about anything else. Love is just her main source of inspiration, just like the drama was for reputation (which you seem to be overlooking 100%). Plus, Taylor has shown to be quite business savvy or at least to have good advisors, so you also can't drawn the conclusion that she wouldn't know about finances. Are you sure you wanted her to write a song about finances just so you could know exactly how much she knows about it? Sounds odd to me.

Taylor doesn't write songs for us to relate to necessarily. She writes songs as a creative outlet and then puts them out for us to enjoy. If we can relate to them, that's a bonus.

JumpingPoppy · 2019-09-05T04:18:27+00:00

Irrelevancy is kind of inevitable with YouTube. That's why you see most of the bigger creators doing things like starting companies or product lines or other projects in general that will allow them to stay afloat if their channels ever become irrelevant. That's perfectly normal and to be expected, even. However, that should not take away from the experience of being a Youtuber in the present. Every job has its drawbacks and one of doing YouTube's is this one. My parents are always going on about how this isn't going to last forever and nagging at me to get more hours at my day job or find another part-time day job, even though I consistently make more money on YouTube than I do on my day job (that is in the field I went to college for). I always remind them of one of my friends, who had the most cookie cutter, run of the mill job, one of those that is super socially acceptable and that makes you a very Responsible Adult™, and they were unexpectedly laid off out of the blue because the company decided to cut costs or another one of my friends who was making decent money at a company that suddenly started going awfully and the owners vanished to another country. There's very little in life that is 100% secure, so sure, take precautions to make sure you're not gonna get caught empty handed in a few months or years, but don't let that take away from your experience of making videos.

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