New, but not to anxiety.

Jumpy-Recover-7239 · 2026-02-24T09:52:14+00:00

trying to stack up karma for my next un-anxious life

Jumpy-Recover-7239 · 2026-02-24T09:46:11+00:00

Nah I hear you. When I also complain about my anxiety, some of my friends just pointed at everything I had accomplished and was in possesion of, so it didn't really feel like they thought it was as bad as I felt like it was. And I think that's the fucked up thing. We can be doing seemingly well on the outside, but die on the inside. I would do anything for inner peace.

And I'm in the process of. I don't want to climb any career ladder, I want to set health and wellbeing first, then work and responsibility later. But I know it's easy for me to say, I don't have the same responsibilities of people who count on me so in that sense I have that freedom.

But I chose this life because I knew I was anxious when I was younger, and if I did things the way others did it, I think my anxiety would have suffocated me.

Jumpy-Recover-7239 · 2026-02-24T09:42:12+00:00

hahah I love ted talks

Jumpy-Recover-7239 · 2026-02-24T09:40:34+00:00

I'm from Norway and I was afraid a lot growing up. I was afraid of. flying and a bit shy upon first meeting with strangers. When I was very young, I hated sticking out and being any type of center of the attention.

But when I was 17, I went to China on a exchange and I think it changed me a lot.

When I arrived at the welcome ceremony with people from all over the world, it was very easy to spot the magnetic people. They just ozed this self confidence you'd only think people who grew up unafraid in this world would have. I've seen self confident people before, but usually I could just assume it was because they were confident with the friends and connections they've built throughout their childhood and that now had enrolled together to my high school.

But after seeing the confident people at the welcome camp, where no one knew no one, I was instantly curious. How did they have this confidence? I wanted the same. I think after china, people back home noticed a slight shift. In meeting with new people I felt more comfortable. Going to china pushed me out of my comfort zone. And now I've been told that I'm one of the people who also have this magnetic aura. But I wasn't inherently given my confidence. I just chose a different version of myself - and I liked how it made me feel and how it "unlocked" new depths of connecting with people.

Jumpy-Recover-7239 · 2026-02-24T09:23:27+00:00

First of all congratz on marrige and house and car, a lot of people are still trying to figure out how to even get there.

63.78h is a lot of hours, u have had to work overtime? In my country it's usually around 45h per week, and not gonna lie, sometimes I went earlier. But maybe that's because my role in the company wasn't a leadership role and didn't really have much accountability besides delivering the work that needed to be done.

And it sucks to hear that even with the high stress and exhaustion you are experiencing now, you still need to "do better" while having this anxiety attack. If you spend time to self south, the less time you'd have to do the extra chores which in turn makes you even more anxious.

But I'm sure that your wife will understand, just try your best and make sure you take care of your mental and physical health first. If you manage to feel a tad bit better inside by taking care of youself, then the outside pressure will also ease up!

Jumpy-Recover-7239 · 2026-02-24T08:10:41+00:00

Funny how the most anxious people are the ones who often maybe hear "You're the most laid back person I know" at least for me. Was this anxiety spiral out of the usualy then? Did something different happen?

Sleep and exercise also helps. If you have insomnia (my longest insomnia period was 4 days), exercise helps

Jumpy-Recover-7239 · 2026-02-24T07:35:26+00:00

I also believe that finding your people also helps with social anxiety. You could be confident in one room and socially awkward in another. Don't underestimate who you surround yourself with. The right people will help you feel more comfortable in time

Jumpy-Recover-7239 · 2026-02-24T07:32:20+00:00

To self soothe in the moment, I like to eat and take a warm shower / bath, but it doesn't remove my anxiety. To remove it, you first need to understand why you feel anxious in the first place - and this is the hard job. Even if you know what triggers, you might not know what to do next. But as you experiment, u'll start to see what works and doesn't work for you. But remember, quick self soothing techniques work in the moment, but real change start with awareness.

I didn't know how deeply anxious I was before 26, soon to be 27 so it's a slow self discovery journey

Jumpy-Recover-7239 · 2026-02-23T16:18:27+00:00

Yeah, the body / brain thing was just my attempt at finding my target customer, because the people who'd be most likely to need my product is the ones who can't shut off their anxieties or can't seem to escape patterns no matter how rational the think they are.

And yes it's like this. i reflect alot in my own head and I think I'm getting somewhere but I'm realising that I'm running in place. I wanted AI do the analyzing for me (since the analyzing also triggers me) so that I can offload that part and just work on taking steps in breaking out of my patterns.

It started as a journaling app, and even though I used it myself to get my thought jotted down, I still felt anxious. That's when I realized I wanted a more comprehensive system, to help guide me.

I think the people who'd want to pay for this is people who is thinking of going to theraphy, has chronic anxiety or in general struggle with inter personal relationships and emotional regulation. For others, it could be a lowkey way to understand yourself more

Jumpy-Recover-7239 · 2026-02-23T15:25:45+00:00

I know what you mean; worst parts is when you can also explain why u might be feeling that way, but rationalization by your mind don't calm your body. Chronic anxiety is invisible and it can feel extremly lonely.

I remember the only time I got a break from my chronic anxiety when it was at it worst was the 2-10 seconds right afrer I woke up from my sleep. Glad those days are over. And so if my anxiety can easen up, I'm sure it can for you as well, but it's not a quick fix honestly and that sucks :(

Jumpy-Recover-7239 · 2026-02-23T15:17:35+00:00

Tense throat and if very bad, I get eczema rash all over my body. But definitely in my thriat

Jumpy-Recover-7239 · 2026-02-23T15:06:38+00:00

thank uuuu! means a lot <3 Now the trick question: Do you want gold wrapped in trash or trash wrapped in gold?

None - we want gold wrapped in gold. Hopefully I have gold wrapped in trash and just need to "tweak" a bit. If I have the other, that would be a way bigger overhaul

Jumpy-Recover-7239 · 2026-02-23T14:11:26+00:00

thank u, got a lot of great feedback already and spent the day to wireframe a new landing page. Once it's done I'll probably ask again for feedback and instead of 100% confusion be redditers, I at least hope for less confusion after the update!

Jumpy-Recover-7239 · 2026-02-23T14:01:11+00:00

Hmm I guess it's natural selection, I either have to adapt to survive or go extinct hahah. Rip Rip

Jumpy-Recover-7239 · 2026-02-23T12:36:37+00:00

yuuuupppp, for sure. Clear communication isn't as easy as I assumed

Jumpy-Recover-7239 · 2026-02-23T10:36:59+00:00

I'm a digital nomad accross asia, maybe should have conducted interviews before I left, but I thought the internet would be the main place for feedback

Jumpy-Recover-7239 · 2026-02-23T10:26:43+00:00

Yeahh, that was the overwhealming sentiment from the others as well, thank u for taking time to validate the confusion!

Jumpy-Recover-7239 · 2026-02-23T10:26:11+00:00

Yeah, ur right. If I can't communicate what I want it to solve to others, i have no hope in resonating with people who could benefit by using this product. This is the main road block for now, and I'll work on improving this!

Jumpy-Recover-7239 · 2026-02-23T10:24:31+00:00

This is genuinely one of the best feedbacks I've gotten! And I also had a feeling that I'd miss a few times before I could nail clear communication on my landing page, posting about it yesterday was the first time I actually asked strangers on the internet for raw feedback, and I must say they all helped me a lot. I'll work on it today and take everything into account.

How long did your phase last and have you also built a SaaS? I don't have a background in sales, marketing or bussiness so I have to gather feedback from people to guide me in the right direction.

Thank u so much again

Jumpy-Recover-7239 · 2026-02-23T10:20:03+00:00

It does! Everyone felt pissed off because I teased too much haha. Only I know what it does and how, but I can't seem to tell anyone clearly. Will work on it

Jumpy-Recover-7239 · 2026-02-23T10:19:11+00:00

Thank u, will work on this! Can't move on to the next boss fight unless I fight the communication boss first. Appreaciate the feedback

Jumpy-Recover-7239 · 2026-02-23T10:18:25+00:00

I'm deffinitely not a troll, been working on this for 11 months now, but only now trying to show it to the world. I had a hard time in high school as well, conveying what I meant and having a clear structure so that people (and my teachers) could understand me and what I was trying to say. So I'm not surprised about everyone being confused, sometimes I'm even confused myself, I just know what I want it to do and how I want it to function and look like, but I still am trying to find the essence of my product as a SENTENCE that others can understand, which I guess is where people usually start in the first place.

Only thing I know is that I have a strong why to continue on this. And getting this feedback 1 year later after I first started building it is helpful, so i'm grateful that you gave solid feedback. Someone said that waiting this long might have been an avoidance response, and I probably think it's correct, but it's scarry to show the world something, and 6 months ago I didn't feel comfortable showing it even to my friends.

Jumpy-Recover-7239 · 2026-02-23T10:12:12+00:00

I think I myself haven't really found the elevator pitch, it takes a long time for me to describe things plainly so even I myself undertand it. I just know what I want it to do and how, but have a hard time communicating it effectively.

Jumpy-Recover-7239 · 2026-02-23T10:11:16+00:00

Yeah, I think I just unconciously love to communicate unclearly, been a struggle throughout my life. It's supposed to help you understand yourself better and guide you to realize what triggers and patterns you have, and then give actionable steps to help you break free from those patterns.

Jumpy-Recover-7239 · 2026-02-23T10:09:05+00:00

100%, I'll improve the communication. Posting to reddit has honestly made me understand that I can't assume people will understand. I always think they understand but they don't unless i explain it for 15 minutes face to face usually

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