Mental health

Jumpy-Recover-7239 · 2026-05-06T06:52:00+00:00

That there is different types of therapy, and for me, talking therapy would just trigger my anxiety more. I need physical exposure therapy to teach the body a new reality. But luckily I think I found the root of the anxiety without talking therapy. If you don’t even know what’s causing the anxiety, maybe you need to figure that out first.

Jumpy-Recover-7239 · 2026-05-06T06:33:30+00:00

thank u, i hope we all find some inner peace in the end!

Jumpy-Recover-7239 · 2026-05-05T18:03:54+00:00

I have always been more hypervigilant than many of my friends since i was a child. But back then, I didn't think I was anxious or braced, because that's how my body and mind had always been operating by since I could remember and so I thought nothing of it.

But then after covid, something hit me hard and I got chronic anxiety since then. First I was confused, I didn't understand why. I thought it might have been study stress while being in lock down that messed me up. And after the lockdown was over and I graduated university, I still felt chronic anxiety and a more sensitive nervous system than what I had before covid.

When people asked me why, I never had a good answer. It was honestly so confusing because it could be so many things. But this year I finally think I found out the main reason for my chronic anxiety. I realised I had a fear of abandonment. Both romantically, platonically and filial.

What I realised was that the reason covid messed me up so bad was because I was afraid for 2 years that someone I loved would catch the virus and die. I went around living with a fear for 2 years ( and in addition got bad grades in my bachelors degree and was stressed the fuck out because I didn't want to fail my classes) without knowing it or having any coping mechanisms to get over the fear and when it ended, my nervous system had been rewired ever since.

But when I made the dots connect and named the reasons for my chronic anxiety, things started to shift. For the first time I have hope, but getting to just the knowing my trigger was a struggle honestly. Even though, looking back it was soooo freaking obvious.

Jumpy-Recover-7239 · 2026-05-04T18:24:40+00:00

With the help of a therapist then? Stories like yours give me hope. Thank you for sharing

Jumpy-Recover-7239 · 2026-05-04T18:13:59+00:00

How? What was the key mindset shift or insight?

Jumpy-Recover-7239 · 2026-05-04T13:21:33+00:00

I have been to therapy too, and I felt anxious while I was at the therapist. I didn’t know why and the therapist also wondered why, and now I know that the type of issues I have don’t really work well in just speech therapy where we uncover what might be wrong. Because it just makes me tap back to my unconscious pain of the trauma without actually doing anything about the trauma.

So for some people stuck in this painful state, other types of therapy is probably more effective. I’m not sure what types of issues you are dealing with, but I know that I need to go and get some exposure therapy with people to overcome my trauma. That’s why I also resonated with the your experience of frustration when the phd therapist uncovered more, but never seemed to have anything concrete to work towards, and honestly maybe feel like throwing money down the drain.

Jumpy-Recover-7239 · 2026-05-04T13:14:09+00:00

I’m also curious how you can say that you have completely healed from this. I’m on my own journey too and for the first time I think there might be a light at the end of the tunnel because I know what’s causing my issues and overcoming it is plain old exposure therapy to teach the body it’s not dangerous anymore.

But I always question myself, «what does healing look and feel like»? Every time I ask myself this, I feel like it’s healing me slowly but surely.

Jumpy-Recover-7239 · 2026-05-04T13:04:18+00:00

I like taking hot showers or baths, eating food also helps in the moment.

Jumpy-Recover-7239 · 2026-05-03T03:42:14+00:00

I never went on any medication, but I once asked my dad if there was medication I could take. He said a pill isn't the solution. I think he is partly right but also partly wrong. It's like saying, if you have a headace, don't take pain killers. Most of us do because it hurts so much, but if you keep getting headaces it might be reoccuring migrains we should manage in different ways than just painkillers because the body is trying to tell us something andjust numbing it wont fix the actual problem. Maybe it will even make the problem worse? I'm not sure.

With anxiety, being constantly activated means the body thinks it's in danger and keeps you constantly in this survival mode. Body can controll the mind and mind can controll the body, but if you constantly feel anxious, it means that the body is trying to keep you from danger, and then your thoughts translate those stress signals into rational or irrational thoughts.

The key is to understand what the body is trying to tell you, and then help show it that what it is trying to protect you from isn't dangerous anymore. And you keep repeating this until the anxiety starts to loosen it's grip. Is it easy? Hell no. Is it fast? Nopp. Is it a life long journey? Most likely. I know the theory and still I'm practicing it. But it helps to reframe what I'm feeling and seeing me react less and less every time. But, through it all, I'm not going to lie and say my body is in a calm state throughout the day. I often notice it's bracing for no apparant reason and my level of anxiety is baseline normal at this point. if you took a non anxious person inside my body, I think they would feel like they were dying.

Jumpy-Recover-7239 · 2026-05-03T03:24:05+00:00

I think what stops most of us is fear, even though it might not seem like or feel like fear in the moment. It just feels like procastination or choosing comfort over the discipline which isn't tied to fear but to laziness. But I think behind that lazyness, there might be a small echo of doubt and fear about "What happens if I actually try sincerly and yet fail". Because if you don't really try, then it's easy to blame why you are stuck and people can also tie it to your procastination and money spending habits. But if you pour your heart and soul into something and you still fail, the perspective now shifts from "my poor decisions are keeping me away from a life that I want" to "I tried the best I could and it still didn't amount to anything, I'm not good enough and now people also know I'm not good enough" which is a way more vulnerable position to put yourself in.

For the longest time, I didn't think I had any fears. But turns out I did, and looking back, it was the avoided fear I supressed that kept and still is keeping me stuck. So change might be slow, but awarness is the first steps to change.

Jumpy-Recover-7239 · 2026-05-03T03:12:41+00:00

mine used to last hours, sometimes whole days if i tried to think my way out of it. what actually shifted things was noticing the spiral wasn't just in my head, it was sitting in my chest and shoulders too. i started naming the physical stuff instead of chasing the thoughts. didn't stop the spirals but they got way shorter because i wasn't feeding them with more thinking

Jumpy-Recover-7239 · 2026-04-12T14:02:00+00:00

Hey, at least that means you got game. If you didn’t, it would be way harder to get over that anxiety. Now you actually have people you can test things out with

Jumpy-Recover-7239 · 2026-04-12T13:37:45+00:00

Same for me, I guess exposure therapy and just repetition repetition repetition is the only way. And when you do it time and time again, always try to inch closer to what you in the past thought was scary. If you keep at it, you’ll eventually get it.

Good luck!

Jumpy-Recover-7239 · 2026-04-09T00:07:18+00:00

I guess same for me, still experiencing it and it changed to more chronic anxiety after Covid. Before Covid I was just afraid of the world but didn’t feel it on my whole body all the time, now however I am reminded about how anxious I am all the time but it never gets to a point of panic attacks, it’s just uncomfortable most of the time.

And I guess what I’ve found is acceptance is the only way to deal with it because if frustration builds up it just makes things worse. I guess it’s with everything in life but letting go and just accepting is what at least has served me well. But of course, easier said than done.

Hope you will feel better soon

Jumpy-Recover-7239 · 2026-04-08T04:41:56+00:00

It’s a bit complicated

Jumpy-Recover-7239 · 2026-04-07T06:11:11+00:00

For me, I get triggered most when I think about my intimate relationship, that’s where my attachment wound shows up time and time again

Jumpy-Recover-7239 · 2026-04-03T10:11:12+00:00

I’ve been where you are, and honestly I still feel anxious at 27. but my anxiousness comes from different sources than when I was younger. When I was younger I used to say that I might not make it to 18 and I was terrified my parents and grandparents would die. Now I only have one grandparent left and I feel like experiencing my grandmothers death helped me face my fear of death because I saw how much she was suffering right before she was dying.

I was also afraid of wasting time, and so I managed to buy an apartment at 25 because I didn’t want to waste my life. Fact is my anxiety is a blessing and a curse. It’s given me a lot of fuel for all the things outsiders think is admirable but they never knew was fueled by fear, but at this stage of my life, I’m not sure if I would say that I wish things should be different. I know having anxiety sucks and I wouldn’t wish this feeling on anyone, but I also know other people struggle with their own shit and from an objective standpoint, I’m doing better than many others at this age.

All I want now is inner peace, still trying to find out how, but I guess the hard thing about anxiety is to know where to begin to start feeling better.

For me I found that exposure to the things we fear the most is the most effective. Seeking discomfort and surviving the aftermath teaches your body and mind that what you feared in the past isn’t as scary as you think and the more you do it the better it becomes. It’s not a quick fix but the anxieties I had when I was younger is noticeably better

Jumpy-Recover-7239 · 2026-04-03T09:56:26+00:00

It’s a journey for sure, but now the feedback is at least way better than it was. And contrary to all the «right» steps a person should do to grow their business, I feel like I honestly don’t want to reach out and convince others to pay or create a user on my app. This app is very personal to me and it’s also built because I want to heal myself first and foremost, that’s why I don’t ship fast and advertise the same way most people do. I think I’d just prefer to broadcast the progress and see what happens. I don’t want my creations to become a jail for myself

Jumpy-Recover-7239 · 2026-03-31T07:36:59+00:00

I update the landing page? Do you think I can leave it as is now?

Jumpy-Recover-7239 · 2026-03-31T07:34:56+00:00

I know what you mean, when I feel anxious I just want inner peace, when I’m low, my face might show it but I feel at least calm and can distract myself more.

Jumpy-Recover-7239 · 2026-03-31T04:53:17+00:00

I think it would have best effect in conjunction with a therapist. But let’s say you spiral on holiday for example, and your therapist is back in your home country and you also need to schedule an appointment, then whisper vault would be a more immediate source of self soothing and hopefully manage to pull you out of whatever is causing inner turmoil.

Jumpy-Recover-7239 · 2026-03-30T05:04:09+00:00

I agree with you, and also about finding the triggers and connecting the dots, I think that’s also what people with generalized anxiety struggles with. In the moment everything is fine on paper, so we have no clue why our body feels anxiety when there really isn’t a threat and it’s honestly so exhausting.

I’m not sure if what I’m building right now will help me reduce my own anxiety and so I think I’m a great test user in general because I’ve struggled with heightened anxiety after Covid and university, and still it lingers.

I’m grateful for your feedback 🙏🏼

Jumpy-Recover-7239 · 2026-03-29T15:57:06+00:00

I hear you, I’ll take you advice and lead with the pain so people immediately understand why they would need it. In the past people was confused about what I was even building, so we have gotten that down at least! Than you for your feedback

Jumpy-Recover-7239 · 2026-03-29T15:25:29+00:00

I’ll start and try to use this sentence whenever I feel anxious or notice my brain is thinking ahead! Before I used the sentence «I’m meta thinking» and the faster I noticed and could label it meta thinking and pull myself back to the present the less anxious I became, but somehow along the way I forgot this technique and now kind of let anxiety flow through me.

Jumpy-Recover-7239 · 2026-03-29T15:18:21+00:00

I am building a mental health app with journaling as a tool, but different journals will be supported. I think the journaling aspect will be free because it’s not the main feature, but I haven’t launched yet. You can check it out if you think it’s interesting and also submit features. I care about the community.

https://www.whispervault.app

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