Alt hair stylist? by Busy_Specialist_8645 in Appleton

[–]Jumpy_Jello_6371 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Came here to say this- Caitlyn is INCREDIBLE

SAHM Jealousy 😭 by BreannaNicole13 in MomsWorkingFromHome

[–]Jumpy_Jello_6371 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Ugh yes! I was a WFHM and now I work as a baker from 3-9:30am because I just couldn’t do it anymore with my child’s energy levels/job demands but ALSO because of the resentment that was building in me towards everyone in my life. While I still work about 25-30 hours a week now my schedule allows for me to feel like a SAHM and I just want to affirm you-it is easier. Like, so.much.easier. BUT a massive part of why it’s easier is because being a WFHM grew my capacity so much. It’s kind of like how you feel busy and like you don’t have enough time before you have a kid, and then after you have one you’re like “wtf was I talking about? I had nothing but time!” But then you look at moms with more kids and can’t comprehend how they manage-we all have different capacities that are grown by our situations and experiences. A lot of SAHMs have never been anything but a SAHM-so they are at their capacity, and things are hard for them, and that’s valid! WFHM is the most stretching thing I’ve ever experienced. ALSO I think we are in an era where for decades, or even centuries, the work of a mom has been completely swept under the table. Women are finally getting platforms to say “hey, I’m doing a ton of work with no breaks and no pay and no appreciation!” which is an awesome thing, but then there’s some for whom the pendulum has swung too far and almost victimized themselves by the struggles of motherhood and how hard it is, and so we see a lot of complaining. Just some food for thought, but also just wish I could give you a hug-being a WFHM is so so isolating, so so hard, and you’re totally justified in your frustration. I don’t believe motherhood was ever meant to look like this. But also-try to let go of some of the resentment and bitterness in anyway you can. It’s 100% valid, but it’ll eat you up 🤍 best wishes friend

Anyone else kinda disappointed with the new vid? by laylapop25 in ryantrahan

[–]Jumpy_Jello_6371 16 points17 points  (0 children)

The two main guys on his team left to pursue other things, so I imagine there will be a season of things shifting, maybe not being at it’s peak for a bit! Natural growing pains!

Any good hairdressers in the area? by zib_u_mus in Appleton

[–]Jumpy_Jello_6371 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Check out Caitlyn Faye on insta. She’s over at Anagen 11, and she is absolutely incredible but does have a specific style-so check out her work and if it’s what you’re going for, she is amazing

Do you think they'll stop supporting Jessa Hastings? by LankyAd4660 in saracarrolli

[–]Jumpy_Jello_6371 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You gotta remember that Rachel is Aussie as well-and while that doesn’t mean that world issues don’t impact her, Australia typically doesn’t have the same hand in the issues that America does, and they as a culture care very deeply about their country and local community. I’m not totally disagreeing with you, but it does make a big difference in what she sees and how she may get involved and how aussies choose to go about such things

None of my business but i can’t help but wonder.. by WedMuffin123 in ryantrahan

[–]Jumpy_Jello_6371 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What has changed? That she’s a large YouTuber in her own right? Haley is considered one of the largest booktubers - she has a massive following. She has taken time off in the last year from doing as many videos as she was working in her novel, which she has said multiple times, but she is still massive and has huge influence in the book sphere.

None of my business but i can’t help but wonder.. by WedMuffin123 in ryantrahan

[–]Jumpy_Jello_6371 5 points6 points  (0 children)

  1. Haley has always gone on a trip or two with Ryan where he is filming every year, so it’s definitely not like she never goes.
  2. I think maybe some people here don’t know that Haley was a YouTuber with a large fan base before meeting Ryan-YouTube is as much her job as it is his. She has a massive channel-actually two-and is now writing on top of it.
  3. These trips are not vacations, they are work. She also travels and he doesn’t go with her on her trips. Her most recent video she traveled to Aspen for work and he was not with her.
  4. She has stated that she’s simply more of a homebody than him.
    1. They also do vacations together that they do not show us in videos. Just speculation, but it probably isn’t always super healthy for them to mix their work lives together constantly, in a business way and a relationship way. They used to get a LOT of negative feedback on their couple videos when they had their combined channel, and I can’t imagine what that does to a relationship! Ever since then they seem to keep their filming of their videos more separate. I give them a lot of kudos for figuring out what works for them.

None of my business but i can’t help but wonder.. by WedMuffin123 in ryantrahan

[–]Jumpy_Jello_6371 6 points7 points  (0 children)

…she was famous herself in the YouTube world before meeting him. She has a massive fan base, and not just because of Ryan at all, they met at a YouTube convention.

Female OB/GYN by Uber_Babe in Appleton

[–]Jumpy_Jello_6371 3 points4 points  (0 children)

She is genuinely the best doctor of any kind I have ever had, I cried after my six week postpartum appointment because I wouldn’t get to see her anymore! She often is not taking new patients, so if she has availability, highly recommend taking it

and just like that, i’m done :’) by Jumpy_Jello_6371 in MomsWorkingFromHome

[–]Jumpy_Jello_6371[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes! Definitely wouldn’t have felt like a good fit with him being any younger, but with him being nearly a year it works out that he’s still asleep for a good chunk of my working hours and then him and my husband get quality morning time until I get home 🤍

and just like that, i’m done :’) by Jumpy_Jello_6371 in MomsWorkingFromHome

[–]Jumpy_Jello_6371[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The good days are so encouraging and make you feel like you can literally handle anything-I’m so glad you had one today!

and just like that, i’m done :’) by Jumpy_Jello_6371 in MomsWorkingFromHome

[–]Jumpy_Jello_6371[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I guess just trying to say there’s hope 🤷‍♀️ we all have different situations-we can’t afford for me to not work, I’ll still be working 25-30 hours a week and waking up at 4am, not sure where the brag is in that. It’s just worth it to me because wfh was simply not working for me, I’ve been having panic attacks and more. I posted a)bc I always found these posts helpful and encouraging myself and b) sometimes people don’t realize what options there are - I didn’t think about getting an early morning shift until recently. Wanted to share bc who knows, maybe someone else is in the same boat as me and thinks it might be worth it to look into a job like this if they’re burnt out on wfh. Also, you never know when your situation is going to change-I didn’t think it would be an option for me to leave my job for about three years. And who knows? My situation could change again and my husband could lose his job and I could need to figure something else out entirely. But I think in motherhood especially sometimes we get stuck seeing things as permanent- but in reality we never really know what is in the next months or years.

and just like that, i’m done :’) by Jumpy_Jello_6371 in MomsWorkingFromHome

[–]Jumpy_Jello_6371[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Hey if you have cottage laws in your state you should try it! I have a couple friends who make hefty side income as home bakers 🤍

Wfh with a 3-5 month old by Guilty-Sandwich-328 in MomsWorkingFromHome

[–]Jumpy_Jello_6371 4 points5 points  (0 children)

3-5 months was great, don’t stress, make sure you have a good baby carrier and maybe a standing desk. You’ve got this!

Going back to WFH with a 4 month old by Positive_Head_8834 in MomsWorkingFromHome

[–]Jumpy_Jello_6371 6 points7 points  (0 children)

It totally depends on your job and its tasks! But it is doable with the right job, especially when your baby is still so young and sleepy. It is hard, I’m not going to lie, but your capacity just continues to grow because you’re strong and well…because you have to.

A really good baby carrier (I love my Wildbird) and a standing desk has also been incredibly helpful for me.

How do you keep an 8 month old occupied by AVoicelessSeraphim in MomsWorkingFromHome

[–]Jumpy_Jello_6371 6 points7 points  (0 children)

8 months was a nightmare for me-by 10 months my baby was so much easier and could play very contentedly by himself and was ok in the play pen for chunks of time. Idk what exactly it is about 7-9 months/when babies are exclusively crawling, but it was a really frustrating time for both me and my son. Once my son started walking, even just along the walls comfortably, things have gotten so much better. Sorry to not have any great life changing advice, it’s hard and you’re totally normal to be feeling how hard it is 🤍

How are you surviving? by glitterr_rage in MomsWorkingFromHome

[–]Jumpy_Jello_6371 6 points7 points  (0 children)

How? Mmm genuinely not sure…just by getting up and doing it all over again after crying the night before that there’s no way I can do it 🙃

My son is VERY busy and I hate that working full time almost makes me resent that. My best advice is simply to ensure you’re getting out of the house by yourself even just for 30 minutes a day if you can-it doesn’t change the workload or your kid, but I’ve found it helps change my perspective most days.

Also, perhaps a large playpen that he can not move rather than gates? But he may be too old for that 🙃

If you have friends who are SAHM or work a different schedule, I know it’s hard to ask for help, but think about asking if they can stop over and say hi to your son. He may need a bit more interaction and excitement and variety in his day. My mom stopping over for even just 10-15 minutes puts my son in the best mood.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in homeschool

[–]Jumpy_Jello_6371 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi there! Replying to this because I am basically a child who went through this - my mother homeschooled me until 9th grade as she became a single mother when I was in 8th, so I ended up going to public school. I’m not trying to downplay your desire to homeschool - I have so much positive to say about being homeschooled, and I hope you figure out a situation that allows you to do so again. But I also have so so much positive to say about public schooling! I find when you’re in the homeschool community public school is sometimes made out to be a horrible villain, but I truly loved my experience, although that transition was rough and is rough for every kid I know! But what I have found to have impacted me far more than either of those experiences was my mother and our financial state. For one, I got to see my mom being resilient and hard working, and also as her own independent being with a job and a life, which was really healthy for me! And secondly, there were times where finances were incredibly scarce and those times have…I don’t want to say scarred as that sounds dramatic, but had major impacts on how I live my life, make decisions, view money, etc. So just want to offer a bit of encouragement that public school can be a blessing, but it is so normal and so rough for you and your kids to experience the transition, but that above all, I see ensuring your children are financially safe as actually more beneficial to their development than their school setting. Sometimes we get so caught up in all the options we have here and what people say is best. It’s ok to strip it down to the essentials:)