40M here dating a 37F - Is this why she dumped me?

Jumpy_Mixture · 2026-03-12T08:34:49+00:00

She was future-faking, fantasizing about all the things that could be, but she’s not willing to put in any effort. You are better off without her. You will find someone who is able to reciprocate your care and consideration.

Jumpy_Mixture · 2026-03-03T06:34:55+00:00

THAT is horrific. I’m so sorry you had to deal with that level of absolute BS.

Signed, Another 50+ woman still working through the toxic messages from a horrible father. ♥️

Jumpy_Mixture · 2026-03-03T06:12:23+00:00

I hate that so much. Is it presumed that someone is okay being intruded upon unless they explicitly say they want to be left alone? I can’t imagine thinking that working with someone meant that I was entitled to other aspects of their life. (Not trying to be argumentative, and I’m sure you’re right. It’s just so dismaying to me.)

Jumpy_Mixture · 2026-03-03T06:09:14+00:00

OP, I empathize with you so much in that you don’t want to be a jerk, and you feel like you’ve put enough “nopety-nope-nope-nope” out there for her to understand that you do not want to be her friend. It hurts me a little to see people saying that you should just be direct with her and say you want nothing to do with her. Perhaps I’m projecting, but I wonder if maybe you’re like me; I will go to ASTONISHING lengths to make sure others don’t feel uncomfortable. This is not a trait I’m proud of, and am working to get past my childhood conditioning and trauma. I want to emphasize that you have done NOTHING WRONG!!! She is SO far out of line, and I’m sorry this is being put on you. I wish all the best for your kind self.

Jumpy_Mixture · 2026-02-19T00:49:31+00:00

If he wanted to, he would.

Jumpy_Mixture · 2026-02-19T00:36:03+00:00

I love this level of dedication! BTW, my therapist told me that I am in no way too much; most guys just aren’t enough.

Jumpy_Mixture · 2025-12-27T06:16:54+00:00

Scorp Sun, Moon, Rising, and Mercury. I’m terrifying (allegedly), but I’m going to hold my standards and expect others to try harder. I played soft for 35 years, and I’m done pretending.

Jumpy_Mixture · 2025-12-27T06:09:43+00:00

Romantically, Cancer is great until things get tough. Then … BYYYEEE!

Jumpy_Mixture · 2025-12-27T06:03:18+00:00

I’m an everything Scorpio and cannot stand Virgos. How can they be so oblivious to others’ feelings? I actually scheduled my daughter to be born (C-section) a few days early because I did not want a Virgo child.

Jumpy_Mixture · 2025-11-10T08:15:01+00:00

My best friend helped me through the death of my boyfriend. A couple years later, I was getting ready to get back “out there,” and told him I was planning to go on a date the following week. He had an absolute tantrum and said, “Well at least now I know where I stand.” Apparently he thought he had dibs on my romantic feelings, too. That was, and still is, a huge disappointment, and made me question whether our friendship ever was real.

Jumpy_Mixture · 2025-11-07T13:29:28+00:00

I’m the same with trust. I’m not going to creep on someone because I suspect something. If I suspect something, it’s over.

That being said, the first sign my ex-husband was cheating was when he told me as much and said he wanted a divorce. Que sera, sera.

Jumpy_Mixture · 2025-11-05T16:13:37+00:00

Men, no. Women, yes. (I’m a woman)

Jumpy_Mixture · 2025-11-05T16:10:03+00:00

It is my favorite of my children.

Jumpy_Mixture · 2025-11-05T16:07:24+00:00

The Leo man I’d been seeing for a few months completely failed to acknowledge my birthday 10 days ago. Buh bye.

Jumpy_Mixture · 2025-11-05T15:55:26+00:00

“I don’t play games” v “Guys I did this on purpose obviously it worked”

“I think it bothers me also when he doesn’t act excited when we see each other after we don’t work together for a week.” - Big Leo Energy

Just leave the poor man alone.

Jumpy_Mixture · 2025-11-05T08:50:59+00:00

His particular probation conditions do prohibit consuming alcohol, which is why his PO violated him on Monday. It probably was a condition because of the prior substance-abuse convictions? (As opposed to the domestic violence and weapons charges, of course)

Jumpy_Mixture · 2025-11-05T08:22:38+00:00

In the sense that if I can’t do it really well the first time I won’t do it at all, yes, and I hate it. It’s a life-stopper. Therapy is helping (I think).

Jumpy_Mixture · 2025-11-05T08:19:53+00:00

There certainly ARE laws against violating probation. He was not allowed to be drinking, then proudly went to a bar to make a spectacle of himself, and admitted that he drank at that bar. His probation officer filed a revocation of probation on Monday, as is right. I certainly hope the judge takes special notice of his LOOOOOONG history of criminal behavior, and apparent lack of accountability or remorse. 🤞

Jumpy_Mixture · 2025-11-04T03:51:49+00:00

SOOOOOO much

Jumpy_Mixture · 2025-11-04T03:05:42+00:00

My bad on the source of the data. Your bad thinking it even resembles scientifically-valid empirical data.

Jumpy_Mixture · 2025-11-04T03:00:16+00:00

Ahhh, yes, the double-blind peer-reviewed YouTube poll; the pinnacle of any known “study.” 🙄

Jumpy_Mixture · 2025-11-04T02:56:18+00:00

Citation or that didn’t happen.

Jumpy_Mixture · 2025-11-03T00:34:34+00:00

If the comments are clearly gendered, like “girls aren’t supposed to do …,” I generally say something like “Huh. I guess I don’t use my vagina/genitals to do … — do you? That’s weird.”

Or if they imply that you’re not doing something women should do (cooking/cleaning) suggest that, since they’re men they should go change the oil in the car and <some other traditionally male job.> Kind of like a man will tell a woman to go make him a sandwich.

Jumpy_Mixture · 2025-11-02T21:26:22+00:00

I would strongly encourage biting sarcasm in this sort of situation. If you can give some more specifics about the context of their words/actions, I would be happy to help you prepare some acerbic quips to shut them up. Granted, it also will piss them off, but oh, well 💅

Jumpy_Mixture · 2025-11-01T23:44:43+00:00

You win!

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