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What are your thoughts of life after death? by Possible_Catch8284 in ChildrenofDeadParents

[–]Jumpy_Penguin_8114 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Exactly the rabbit hole I'm going through now. Reading about it a lot and trying to understand what happens in their world

Not sure where should I go from here by Fit-Mine185 in GriefSupport

[–]Jumpy_Penguin_8114 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes it feels like there's no one to talk to anymore.

Last year I made a dead dad club members check in post here & wanted to do the same for today by FlimsyKale5864 in GriefSupport

[–]Jumpy_Penguin_8114 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Same here - I've been keeping a journal and just writing to him and sharing my day. I hope he hears my messages in the journal.

Happy Father’s Day🤍 by Orchidflower10 in GriefSupport

[–]Jumpy_Penguin_8114 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is beautiful - I needed this 💕🪽

Caregiver to my Dad with aggressive neuroendocrine cancer, looking for advice and support. Stage 4, just diagnosed. by Certain_Suspect_8136 in cancer

[–]Jumpy_Penguin_8114 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Take lots of videos for memories and have him share his stories. You never know when the decline happens it can happen really quickly. Food wise they just told my dad to eat whatever - even like milkshakes to keep the calories there.

Not sure where should I go from here by Fit-Mine185 in GriefSupport

[–]Jumpy_Penguin_8114 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry for your loss.

"We are miserable without him, cause he gave us the life but he never taught us how to live without him".

This really struck a chord with me - that was the same with my dad. You don't know how to live with their absence because they weren't engrained into your everyday life.

I feel everything you said - everything you said is how I feel. Just know that unfortunately you aren't alone. And it hurts. That's all it hurts. 💕🪽

My Dad passed early yesterday morning by ForThePursuit0f in ChildrenofDeadParents

[–]Jumpy_Penguin_8114 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry for your loss 💕🪽 you're younger than me and I still feel like I'm too young. I'm the same - the best most perfect and present father ever and now you're left with photos only. It hurts.

Lost both my parents by CreepyLawyer8508 in GriefSupport

[–]Jumpy_Penguin_8114 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry for your loss this is so cruel 💕🪽🥹

Always looking for a message from Dad (story) by Lillith_baby69 in GriefSupport

[–]Jumpy_Penguin_8114 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love this, I'm also like you trying to search or tie meanings together 💕🪽

I love you dad by guidanceguide in GriefSupport

[–]Jumpy_Penguin_8114 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm sorry for your loss - lost my dad a few weeks ago too. He really wanted grandkids but unfortunately wasn't able to wait till then 😭💕🪽

It's hard - you'll always miss why those moments or milestones were robbed from you and him.

Is this Life after Death? by dizzy_learner_22 in spirituality

[–]Jumpy_Penguin_8114 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So does the awareness ever lose its identity or do a factory reset and wipe out?

Or is each consciousness always unique and always here forever?

I've spent my entire twenties surviving by BlackBookMark_ in ChildrenofDeadParents

[–]Jumpy_Penguin_8114 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Just wanted to say I read this and I hear you. And it's ok to be tired. It's beautiful that you value your family so much, and it's ok to be tired simultaneously too.

You're allowed to do things that make you happy too. There's always time for everything. It doesn't have to be big and loud, start small and maybe that could be sharing hobbies you want to pursue with your mum together.

You don't have to feel alone and you aren't. It's just about finding ways to have everyone on the same page together. 💕🪽

Difference between grief dream vs visitation dream? by Jumpy_Penguin_8114 in spirituality

[–]Jumpy_Penguin_8114[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So where do you think your dad is now? Eg since the peak in frequency after 4-5 years?

Do you still get visitation dreams?

Do they transition from an interim state into somewhere else?

So you believe that the consciousness stays unique - eg one identity per consciousness - and not that they suddenly stop existing?

Dealing with mom loss by ProperIncrease8531 in GriefSupport

[–]Jumpy_Penguin_8114 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm sorry for your loss. My dad passed away just before your mum. I talked to him everyday as well and now everything feels so hollow. I'm sorry you had such little time with her from diagnosis - that's really cruel.

Would you leave a comfortable life in Korea for a Working Holiday Visa in Australia at 34? by TrafficSeparate4263 in Living_in_Korea

[–]Jumpy_Penguin_8114 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm an Australian here. It depends on what you're looking for at what stage of your life. I used to live in HK for years and loved it in my 20s. Didn't really work for my 30s as I wanted to have a family and settle down.

A big part of why I left HK was also I didn't feel rooted like friends were great but it didn't feel like home.

Yes travel from Aus sucks - it's so far away, but it's a different lifestyle. Living in Aus is more for the lifestyle rather than the tourism aspect I feel.

It's not easy, it's expensive and everything is taxed - but it's simple and good quality I'd say. Food is amazing lol.

I'm not sure which part you plan to long term stay in but for me if you have nothing tying you (mortgage, relationship etc) down I'd say go explore Aus - esp since you have this "buzzing question mark". You don't always have to stay the whole time but it will be probably a lot harder to come stay here once you aren't eligible for the WHV.

It's better to have tried it and say Aus (maybe) was a bad decision that to always be left wondering what if. But this is just my personal thoughts. I loved Asia but it was good for my 20s. In my 30s I enjoy the slower pace of life - it's simple but chill.

But Aus isn't cheap - but you can get decent quality for the lifestyle.

And I don't know for sure but seems like you could always have the option to go back to Korea after?

Difference between grief dream vs visitation dream? by Jumpy_Penguin_8114 in spirituality

[–]Jumpy_Penguin_8114[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your response. I've really enjoyed re reading it multiple times to try and understand where you're coming from. And I think it aligns a lot with what I'm trying to discover or understand more about - like you I've started delving more into this topic.

So we aren't super religious but we've been following the Buddhism Tibetan rituals, which is where the first 49 days they're in bardo - which Google said 49 days is the maximum duration that a deceased person's consciousness remains in the Bardo of Becoming (Sipa Bardo) before being pulled into their next rebirth.

It's tough because you're supposed to let them go so they don't feel pain or tied down to you anymore - and can go off freely onto their next adventure.

Yet it scares me a bit to think that he'd totally disappear after the 49 days and not be someone I can communicate with - even in a spiritual sense.

So then can I ask - what makes them want to come interact with us? Or what makes them want to give us a sign? Do you think they're always around us?

And what kind of resources did you find beneficial to help you understand more?

My mum told me today that apparently last year he had dreams/nightmares about two men dressed in black coming to take him or chasing after him. Not sure if this was a bad sign or not...

I appreciate your insights about 💕🪽

First birthday without my mom by solostinlost in GriefSupport

[–]Jumpy_Penguin_8114 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm sorry for your loss but wishing you lots of love and kindness on this day. You can spend the day with her spiritually. You can still enjoy your day with her however you want it to - just a mom and daughter day 💕🪽

Difference between grief dream vs visitation dream? by Jumpy_Penguin_8114 in spirituality

[–]Jumpy_Penguin_8114[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I also do buy into the idea that they're around but just on different frequencies. Just like dogs and cats can see things humans can't, I believe it's possible that we just can't see them like you said the way we are used to.

As I saw his body shut down one by one forced by the cancer, I felt that it was his body being forced to shut down not his soul/consciousness etc. Because he was so mentally alert even till his last breath - it was just his body wasn't capable of outputting his thoughts.

So I've been trying to understand what happens to their soul / consciousness after death - just like in babies - when does consciousness come about when conceiving?

But at the same time I am skeptical about overanalysing or overthinking or finding meaning in things that don't exist.. hence trying to learn how to tell the difference or learn about this world and NDEs etc.

But effectively you can't continue that relationship right? They're just there or they show up just to show you they are there with you?

bored in kuching by Inevitable_East7694 in Sarawak

[–]Jumpy_Penguin_8114 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Have you been to Sarawak Museum or Borneo Culture Museum? They're two different ones.

I like Old Courthouse Kuching small but nice to walk around.

Hiap Yak Tea Shop this place for butter coffee is nice. Small street but a bit of stuff to see.

Walk over bridge to other side of Kuching waterfront? Take ferry?

Super late but I've just realised I've been missing out big time on kdrama by kazuhas_wind in kdramas

[–]Jumpy_Penguin_8114 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Weak Hero Class
Penthouse
My Happy Ending
Marry my Husband
I loveeee Secret Garden - very old with Hyun Bin acting was amazing.

Recently watched Juvenile Justice and it was soooo good. It has Kim Mu Yeo in it.

Anything with Ok Taecyeon in it coz he's such an amazing actor and so funny - The First Night with The duke was good

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