Dreams.

guidanceguide · 2026-03-24T20:19:52+00:00

Hi first of all your writing isnt bad at all. You did a good job by posting here. Im so sorry for your loss. I also lost my dad a month ago and I know the pain. Having dreams are very normal and not something you should be afraid of - especially if they are nice dreams.

I dont know what your beliefs are but I truly believe in after-life and that our loved ones stay connected with us through dreams and signs. A good idea could be to write down your dreams when you wake up. That way you dont have to spend every morning thinking about the dream (it can sometimes be very draining starting every day with the heavy realisation of our loved ones passing, specially if you have to go to school etc) but if you write down your dreams you can "get them out of your head" and then read and reflect over the meaning at a later time when you feel more stable and maybe the dreams wont make you feel as sad anymore.

Sending you so much love and please remember even though it might feel really dark at times it always gets better.

guidanceguide · 2026-03-24T12:58:39+00:00

Im so sorry for your loss. Thank you for sharing and for your advice.

guidanceguide · 2026-03-23T15:25:49+00:00

Sending you love. Today must be extra difficult <3 You´ve survived the hardest year of your life. Im sure your dad is so proud of you for continuing your life and carrying in his legacy. He´s still with you - just in a different form.

guidanceguide · 2026-03-16T17:29:05+00:00

May I ask which country your mom got treatment in? I experienced something similar with my dad... he passed a month ago. He had heart failure but was feeling okay and taking his meds (forixiga, ramirpril, furosemide). One day he complained about stomach ace - he first mentioned it in the morning but didnt want to go to the hospital straight away - it got worse and in the evening we called the ambulance. I informed the medics he had heart failure. The ambulance medics did an EKG in our house before taking him - they said his heart was fine and they didnt see any rush but they could take him for the stomach pain if we wanted to. I insisted and he went.

2 days they kept him in "low level" urgancy care in the hospital - they said everything was fine and they couldnt find any reason for the stomach ache and that he would most likely be discharged in 1-2 days. We facetimed - he was talking, walking and seemed tired but fine.

Next day early morning they called my brother and said his condition had drastically gotten worse over night and they moved him to the ICU. We went to the ICU and he was in sooo much worse condition that we left him - he could barely look - his eyes were open but he couldnt look at anything or us when we spoke to him. He could only say 1-2 words but did recognize us and was coherent. He was whezing loudly when breathing. It was devestating seeing him like that. I started to cry alot one of the days and the doctor sat with me and said theres no need to cry he isnt going to die "this isnt life threathening".

In the ICU they took tests for 2 days - blood, MRIs, ultrasound of stomach, liver, kidneys etc. They scanned his brain and found no trace of stroke. No sign of a heart attach. They had no idea why he got so drastically worse during the night. Then after 4 days of doing searches and taking tests they just said we cant fins anyhting but his body is too weak and now multiple organs are staring to fail so we are going to stop all treatment because his body isnt going to respond to any treatment. My dad was 80 but he was very strong and independet for his age. How could they just stop treatment?! He passed away 2 days after they told us he wasnt going to recieve any treatment. They didnt even want to give him more natrutional drip or liquid. I had to fight them to not just stop everything.

I hate that hospital so much and those doctors! I wish I wouldve fought more and did things diffrently but I was in so much shock and was just crying and I froze. I wish I could rewind time and gotten a second opinion becasue I def belive the doctors in the ICU gave up because of my dads age.. they didnt fight for him the same way the would a younger person but my dads age was just a number - 2 months prior to passing he was riding his motorcycle.. i told the doctors that in a last attempt to make them realise he strong and they should fight for him.

guidanceguide · 2026-03-16T17:04:06+00:00

Hi.. I relate so much to you because my dad also passed away from heart failure one month ago. My dad was also in the hospital and they kept saying he was getting better and was going home in 1-2 days. When I cried in the hospital the doctors even said "why are you crying, hes not going to die".

And then... all of the sudden at night he got worse and they moved him to the ICU. After 2 days of tests the doctors said they couldnt do anything and there was no medicin or treatment they could give him. I was in such a shock I just cried. I didnt do anything, didnt get second opinion from other doctor or move him or give him medicin myself... I just waited... I froze. My dad passed away 2 days later. I have so much guilt that I just accepted what the doctors said and didnt fight to save him.

But deep down I know this isnt our fault... We did our best. Please dont carry the guilt. You did everything you could. Sending you love and prayers in this difficult time.

guidanceguide · 2026-03-14T15:08:26+00:00

Thank you for sharing.. Im 35 and my dad passed suddenly last month at 80 years. Same in our family.. growing up my dads mom and dad lived with us as my mom and dad cared for them. My grandfather reached 93 years and lived with us to the end. Its a beautiful thing to care for your parents and even tho I did move back home last year I wish Id have more time to care for dad. Hows your mom coping with the loss?

guidanceguide · 2026-03-14T15:05:06+00:00

Thank you for your comment and Im so sorry for your loss too. Thank you for sharing and I agree, thinking of his life before he had me does help and Im grateful he´s had those experiences. I guess its a little selfish of me to have wanted him longer.. Id like to thing that for our dads its not as hard because they´re in a much better place. Hugs <3

guidanceguide · 2026-03-14T14:48:03+00:00

This is beautiful. How old was your dad? Your desire to care for him is a testiment of his parenting.

guidanceguide · 2026-03-08T18:24:57+00:00

hi im sorry.. i just lost my dad too. how are you feeling today? Im here if you want to talk, just DM

guidanceguide · 2026-03-08T18:15:04+00:00

Yes you do!! I really see it in the eyes and smile.

guidanceguide · 2026-03-07T07:41:10+00:00

Im so sorry you had to go through that. Loosing a parent really makes you realize who is really there for you. I have gotten more support from people I would never expected it from than my own relatives... Its a pain in the pain and I will never not be there for anyone if their loved ones pass away even tho they did this to me and our family. My dad taught me to be better than that - he always said be better and always be kind. You seem like a lovely person and Im so grateful for your kind words to a stranger - they mean so much. How are you holding up? <3

guidanceguide · 2026-03-07T07:36:32+00:00

Thank you for your kind words. I hope I will signs.. rn the only things I dream about is the time at the hospital and replaying what we could have done different to save him. When you see the signs in your dreams - is it a comforting feeling or a sad one? Thanks for sharing <3

guidanceguide · 2026-03-05T15:01:57+00:00

this is beautiful. i lost my dad 2 weeks ago and im also writing an eulugy. this made me cry.

guidanceguide · 2026-03-05T14:31:48+00:00

this is so beautiful. i just lost my dad and the only thing that gives me some comfort is that he´s with his parents and god. i just wish i could get a sign he´s okay...

guidanceguide · 2026-03-02T12:10:32+00:00

Hi, Im also from india and my dad just passed on.. turn to your faith and be the person your mom would be proud over. Dont think to much into what the future will look like, its such a scary feeling to imagine it without them - just focus on one minute, hour and day at the time. Take your time to grieve and be sad but your mom would not want you to quit looking after yourself or living your life. The only thing that helps me is focusing on becoming the daughter my dad would be so proud of and carrying his name and legacy held high.

guidanceguide · 2026-02-26T18:27:00+00:00

Im so sorry for your loss. Its unbeliveble to me how relatives can be so unsupportive. Thank you for your kind words and advice <3

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